She is 23 with 3 kids already and is on welfare and etc. She cant afford the baby and is considering getting it done or not! She doesnt want to kill her child but shes 11 weeks and thinks its just a mini baby with no features. I told her to reconsider and have the baby. What should she do??
2006-12-06 10:28:44 · 32 answers · asked by Luckycharm 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ask her to consider a family who is trying to adopt a child they are alot of them out there They would love it very much I don't understand how she could just go and have it done because of the reason you give she has had 3 other children tell her to look them in the face and think about having done it to any one of them I think someone out there would appreciate a newborn baby.
2006-12-06 10:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by twister 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey overlook all that stupidity about your cousin being on welfare and that she's dumb. The fact of the matter is that people are quick to judge without having all the facts. Most of the people that are calling her dumb probably couldn't deal with this situation if it were them, and would probably do the opposite of the advice they're offering.
I do agree with the fact that it's your cousin's decision. But I'm not for abortion, because God implants children in the womb and is the only one to give life. But I think you should have your cousin do some online research, and even talk to a priest, evangelist. She needs to have proper counseling before making a big decision. It may not seem like it now, but this could really emotionally scar her. Her baby is actually an unborn child...already...with a beating heart...maybe she should consider an open adoption where she would have contact with her child.
She has a lot on her plate already with three children and she's only 23. I'm 35 with 3 children, and I'm a single mother. Raising children alone is no walk in the park...But with strength from God it can be done...I believe in the Word of God which says "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me"
I can't pass judgment on her, I just really want her to think hard and long before she gets an abortion...and think about her other children's feelings as well...I just don't think it is healthy mentally for a woman to go through that terrible experience. And she doesn't want to open any doors to be tormented by her past.
You are really sweet and have your cousin's best interest at heart. God bless you!
2006-12-06 12:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
By 11 weeks gestation, a baby has already developed a beating heart. Yes, it is tiny, and no, it does not look like a baby. However, he or she has a life, developing organs, etc. In approximately 7 more weeks, your cousin would feel the baby kick. As a health care provider, I do not believe that abortion is a woman's right. A woman's rights include right to be abstinent or use appropriate contraception before conceiving, the right to do what they will to their own body so long as it doesn't affect anyone else, etc. It is not a woman's right, or anyone's right, to take the life of a child. There are PLENTY of adoptive couples who would welcome the opportunity to adopt a newborn and would provide for her prenatal care. Abortion is an act of selfishness and senselessness. In the end, it will come down to her own decision, and Yahoo answers is no place to decide such a thing. She may take up her decision's consequences with God.
2006-12-06 10:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by sarahsmith0007 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Have her watch In the Womb on the National Geographic Channel. Its a great show. On this show it will tell her that by 11 weeks the baby is completely developed..as in has all of its organs, etc...Now basically all the baby is doing is maturing these parts. Show her 4d ultrasounds of an 11 week old baby also so that she knows its not a mini thing with no features...If I ever found out that my mom had had an abortion, it would make me think she really didnt care about any of us if she was willing to do that to my little brother or sister. She needs to think of that too, because one day they may find out.
2006-12-06 11:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How can she have 3 children and consider an abortion if she has any love in her heart for the 3 she already has she could not have the abortion she should put it up for adoption and the other 3 also if she is considering it Tell her to talk to her family planning clinic about birth control she really needs it. or keep her legs crossed.
2006-12-06 11:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by what gives 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is going to do what she wants to do regardless but if she truly doesn't want to kill her child can she consider other options, like adoption? I would hope she would be 100% certain with her choice before she goes ahead with it. Has she gotten professional counseling regarding her options/choices?
And just for reference, there are 4-D ultrasounds of unborn babies on this website. It follows fetal development and is designed for educators:
http://www.ehd.org/science_imagegal_4.php
And honestly, she should look into better birth control. She may be caught in the same situation a year from now if she doesn't.
I wish her the best and pray that she can find a way to care for her family without these burdens.
2006-12-06 10:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her at 11 weeks the baby is1 1/2 inches long and weighs 1/4 of an ounce. the baby's skin is transparent and you would be able to see it's blood vessels. some of it's bones are starting to harden. it's fingers and toes are separated and it's starting to open and close it's fists.
that's quite a lot of growth foe 11 weeks and is is a mini baby. a mini BABY. talk to her about adoption. the adoptive family will pay all the medical expenses.
2006-12-06 10:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would think after three kids she would know what causes pregnancy. She can always have it and put it up for adoption. This way she is not taking a life. She doesn't have to worry about affording it and it would make someone who can't have a baby happy. You should also talk to her about Birthcontrol and or getting her tubes tied. So she is not in this situation in the future.
2006-12-06 10:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her know that she should have the baby and give it up for adoption.She can take it to any police station, fire department, or hospital and NOT GET INTO TROUBLE!!!!! From then on, the state will place the baby for adoption. I can understand being as young as she is and having that many children is quite stressful. The guilt she will feel after having an abortion will weigh heavily on her. There are so many people (like myself) who can't "just get pregnant" and would love to have her baby for their own!
2006-12-06 10:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
unfortunatly, she will do whatever she wants to. the right thing to do is have the baby and give it up for adoption. a "mini" baby is still a baby. then she needs to stop having sex, and get responsible about the 3 kids she already has. hopefully, she reconsiders.
2006-12-06 10:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋