I am married three years , however i have fallen out of love with my wife, and all though she has not said it , i feel she has also fallen out of love with me, I have recently rekindled a friendship with a former girl friend and I am confused as F**k, I did love my wife and have very high feeling for my GF , howeevr I do not want to hurt anybody , please help
2006-12-06 10:28:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please Help Me, I don't understand why, all this cheating going on. Marriage is a Covenant, between two grown consensual adults. Surly both of you went over the vows together. I believe if couples conversed more and really listened to what each other was saying, progress would take place. But, everyone wants the "Easy Button". life is all about choices, that is why it's critical to make the right ones.
2006-12-06 10:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try stepping back and look at what you have with your wife, does she make you happy, are you happy, life is too short not to be. Maybe going to talk to someone together will help. Say to yourself "Can I picture my life without her in it"" remember sometimes the grass isnt always greener on the other side of the fench.. Sometimes you might need to do that little extra special thing to see if the love is still there, the simple little things can do a world of good, best of luck..
2006-12-06 13:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by moonlightmagic71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL MARRIAGES ARE DIFFERENT OF COURSE BUT, ALL DIVORCE IS THE SAME. IT IS ONE OF THE MOST PAINFUL EXPERIENCES YOU WILL EVER FACE. IT IS A DEATH OF SORTS. YOU WILL GRIEVE. I'VE HEARD THE FIRST FIVE YEARS OF A MARRIAGE STINK!!! THE GIRLFRIEND THING IS PROBABLY THAT. A THING. I SAY, LEAVE THE PAST IN THE PAST. YOU ARE NOT THINKING CLEARLY RIGHT NOW. A SYMPATHETIC WOMAN ESP. AN OLD FLAME IS DANGEROUS NOW. WHAT IS WRONG AT HOME? YOU NEED TO LOOK AT WHAT IS GOING ON THERE FIRST. EVEN IF THE MARRIAGE CAN'T BE SAVED YOU MIGHT JUST MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES YOU MADE IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. TALK TO THE WOMAN WHO LOVES YOU SO MUCH SHE WANTED TO SHARE THE REST OF HER LIFE WITH YOU. I BET THAT BEING REALLY HONEST WITH HER AND TELLING HER WHAT YOU ARE AND HAVE BEEN FEELING MIGHT AT LEAST GET THE COMMUNICATION GOING AGAIN. TALKING FROM THE HEART REALLY IS A TURN ON. NO FIGHTING, NO BRINGING UP MISTAKES SHE HAS MADE ALL IS ABOUT YOU, AND YOUR, FEELINGS. THEN GIVE HER A CHANCE. DON'T EXPECT FAST RESULTS. IT TOOK A WHILE TO FALL AS YOU SAY "OUT OF LOVE" IT MIGHT TAKE A WHILE TO GET IT BACK. TALK,TALK TALK,LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN, THEN...MAKE HER AN OFFER SHE CAN'T REFUSE! GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-06 10:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by annilori 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait and see, it may be the thrill of something "forbidden" and once you leave your wife it may end with the girlfriend. If you are okay with that thought then get a divorce no sense wasting time and being miserable in an unhappy marriage.
2006-12-06 10:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think your wife feels the same way, talk about a calm seperation of ways...
tell her you think it would be best for both of you to call it quits, no harm no foul no need to split with hurt feelings, just agree that its best and part ways as friends.
2006-12-06 10:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife and see how she feels about you, sounds like you made your decision when you said you are not inlove with your wife but have feelings for your gf.
2006-12-06 10:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to be with your wife tell her if you feel she does not love you anymore either it maybe a big relief to her that you feel the same way
2006-12-06 11:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by baby girl 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with ur girlfriend. If u divorce ur wife u will regret it more than ever.
2006-12-06 10:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE SHE MIGHT HAVE ANOTHER BOYFRIEND
2006-12-06 10:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋