If a girl was sexually abused (by one of her bro's, by the way he passed away when she was 11, and she got abused in her adolescence by her nephew, he's 1 year older than she. ) , since she had 5 until she had 17, she never told are parents or her family, is it possible she's sexually confused or she's a lesbian? Cause she doesn't like to date guys, but she doesn't date girls.
2006-12-06 10:16:00 · 6 answers · asked by Lizzie T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No. There's no correlation between sexual orientation and a history of sexual abuse.
There is, however, a correlation between being sexually abused as a child and having trust issues (particulary with women regarding men if they were abused by men), intimacy issues, a feeling of sex as guilty and dirty, sexually abusing others (the abusee later in life becomes, ironically, the abuser), and with having stable, healthy relationships. A lot of abused men and women live completely healthy lives, be they gay or straight, and confidently leave their pasts behind them, but a good deal suffer problems with unfulfilling relationships, bad sex lives (i.e. they have sexual issues that give them guilt, like wanting to be forced, etc., but unable to voice them), or empty promiscuity.
A lot of women who were abused by men as children have difficulty trusting and opening up to men when they grow up, so they may feel more comfortable around women and not like to date men much. This sounds particularly like this girl you refer to. The women who do become lesbians are not that as a result of the sexual abuse, but rather because they are "forcing" themselves as a means to avoid men, or they already were or had some element of lesbianism or bisexuality within them.
Hope that helps you. Please encourage this girl to see someone professional she can talk openly with about her feelings.
2006-12-06 10:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it.
However, there is something important that many adults overlook when it comes to child molesters: even child molesters have specific preferences. For example, there are tomboys, and then there are *tomboys*. Means that there are tomboys who actually seem non-straight, *in addition to* being ruff-and-tumble, interested in sports, and dressing masculine. Then there are the really quiet kids, and the really precosious kids. Perhaps a molester would prefer the shy, quiet kid to the outspoken one, because they think the shy one is less likely to report them. Or maybe they prefer the precocious one because they like the added danger, or some crap. I could go on and on about types of kids and reasons molesters might choose them.
Bottom line: when I was a child (younger than 12), I think I was hit on by what was perhaps an unusually high number of adult male would-be molesters. They never got anywhere, because I knew better than to let them. I was a tomboy, one who I am sure seemed gay rather than just a little girl who was a tomboy. Remember Jodie Foster when she was a little girl? (Rent Alice Doesn't Live Here Anymore.) That is what I mean,and there were and are few little girl tomboys who seemed so genuinely gay as Jodie Foster did when she was a little kid.
I don't think there is much of a connection. It's just that perhaps molesters are attracted more to those children who don't fit the norm somehow, and it might be something that you personally wouldn't pay much mind to. Molestation probably causes sexual confusion, but it doesn't change a person's orientation. That is the way they are born.
My two cents. Be well.
2006-12-06 10:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual abuse need not lead to confusion, nor need it lead to homosexual tendencies. The trust you lost for the opposite sex may never return...but if you want to move past the parts of your life you hope to leave behind...then the best thing to do is seek therapy, and do what it takes to move on. If therapy doesn't help..don't give up. Best wishes.
2006-12-06 10:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 04:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by tonini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't more likely that she would be a lesbian than any other person, although it IS likely that she will have trust issues with anyone when it comes to sex.
2006-12-06 10:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
More likely, due to the sexual abuse, she would not want to be sexual with anyone. It has nothing to do whether she is straight or not.
I would suggest she get therapy for her sexual abuse.
2006-12-06 10:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋