Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?

Question

Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
or
Saying nothing and wishing you had?

Answer 1

From experience: saying nothing and wishing I had.

I can apologize for saying something I had in a moment of anger or frustration. I have said cruel things to the people closest to me when I was feeling angry or unhappy. Because people do this a lot, generally others understand and it can be repaired.

When I was in Jr. High, I had a huge crush on this boy in my school. Oh, he was absolutely the world to me. For six years, through High School, I adored him. Even in college, I always hoped I would "make good" and come back and tell him how I felt. Every time I had the chance to tell him how I felt, I dodged him, afraid he would find me laughable.

I got married and my husband walked out two years later. That weekend, I decided when I got back home, I would find the man I had adored and just admit that I had "loved" him since Jr. High. He already knew; everyone had told him.

The weekend my ex-husband walked out, the man I had adored for over a decade died of an inoperable brain tumor. I always thought I'd have more time to say, "I felt something for you and still care about you."

Instead, I don't even know where he is buried, so I can't even lay flowers at his grave.

Answer 2

This would be the difference between remorse and regret. I feel bad for saying things sometimes when I don't get a chance to think it out first and I'll just blurt it out, not intending to hurt somebody's feelings, but it actually does. However, if this should happen, I can easily fix the situation by apologizing and reminding myself to be more careful in the future. On the other hand, saying nothing and wishing I had? That does a lot more damage. You can't go back and fix that most of the time. If someone dies and you never tell them how you felt, that's it. There's no fixing that. If you like a guy, and he ends up with someone else and all this time you could've said something but didn't and now another girl is making him happy when you had the chance...that also cannot be fixed. So, yeah....regret hurts the most. Remorse may leave a small scar, but regret is an open wound.

Answer 3

the worst is saying nothing and wishing u had, because you will always have on ur mind the thought "what if i HAD said it?" and you will regret it forever.
if you say something and wish u hadn't, sure, its embarassing for a little, and might hurt someone's feelings, but those things can be fixed. you dont want to live in regret.

now a q for u:
u ever wonder which hurts the most?
giving birth
or
being kicked in the nuts?

(yes, i got it from FRIENDS.. i'm STILL wondering what the answer is)

Answer 4

That is one of the truest questions i have hurt in a long time.
I have experienced both.

1) Telling my best friend i was lesbian and i lost her friendship
2) I have loved a woman for two years now and haven't said a word to her about it. Even though it seems as if she was interested and now she got a boyfriend but she still longs for me with her eyes and holds me tight whenever she can. And still i keep quiet.

It hurts real bad inside when love and hate collide.
Therefore one cannot choose between the two,
You might lose something you cannot retrieve, or you get something if you try.

Answer 5

Wow. That's a great question! Well, I'd have to go with "saying nothing and wishing you had" because if you think about it a lot could of happened by saying a couple things, someone would understand better, etc.

Answer 6

It hurts the most to say something you wish you could take back and can't.

Ever heard the saying "Sticks & stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me."

Never has there been a more UNTRUE saying with such modern acceptance and popularity.

This is what the Bible has to say about it:

Psalm 64:2-4 (New International Version)

2 Hide me from the conspiracy of the wicked,
from that noisy crowd of evildoers.
3 They sharpen their tongues like swords
and aim their words like deadly arrows.
4 They shoot from ambush at the innocent man;
they shoot at him suddenly, without fear.

and

Proverbs 17:28

"Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue."

Answer 7

Well, I can't really provide a good anwer to this, as I was on the "recieving" end a couple of weeks ago...but in my opinion I was glad I was told. I'm still pretty pissed and hurt that I wasn't told before now, but let me tell you something...no one likes being left out in the dark about things they have every right to know about.

Answer 8

When a Boy Friend says to his Girl friend " Braking out the relationship" at this juncture it's really hurts.That's a saying but if some one wishing that let them be united again ! it's just like a blessing.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

That is deep...I would say "Saying something and wishing I hadn't"

Sometimes it is better to say nothing...good learning experience for that individual to go through.