no luck with girls, and why do they play head games?

Question

i met a girl from myspace we talked she added me to msn..so i speak to her tonight we get talking, im thinkin somethin might come of it..then she talks about her boyfriend and BAM another rejection, im effing sick of it, why cant i make a connection with any girls?? im on my own so alone battling psychiatric problems, i live on my own i feel lonely and isolated

Answer 1

Got to get out more even if it's painfull to do so. Yes there are some people out there that play games...not all just some..Mostly online..because they feel that they can get away with more dirt...conceal themselves...It's so much harder to "fake it" in person.

Why don't you try just being friends with the people you meet. Soon enough you might meet someone through your friends. Love always happens when your not looking.

Answer 2

try doing some community service... you'd be surprised how many people you can meet. Just sign up for stuff... travel. Try somethin new... besides myspace. And if you're out of shape go to info sessions about lossing weight or being healthy or go to the gym... lots of girls there.
Connecting will be easy with the right people... you just have to look a little more.

Girls dont know why they play head games usually... Sometimes to test you. Sometimes for no reason... just say something creative back.. play along, bend, dont hold back.

Answer 3

Did she tell you anything that suggeted she wanted to be more then friends. With some girls you have to read between things. Just because she talks to you doesn't mean she wants you. Maybe you should get out of the house and make a connetion with people.

Answer 4

You need to get a life. Go out with your friends. Get a job. Go to school. Etc socialize and make it happen naturally.

Answer 5

well tell her that ur effing sick of her talking bout a guy that aint u an dtell her u like her
dont be affraid to hurt her feelings

Answer 6

Remember, there are 2 theories for understanding women.

Neither one works.

Answer 7

you need to get off the computer and get out of the house.

Answer 8

Maybe you should take a look at what your objective is. Women know what your objective is before you think they do. In fact, most of your agenda is transparent to a woman. Women are wary of men who seek to use them for something or anything. Mny men come off like the woman could be any woman and it wouldn't matter. Many men come off like women owe them something.

Women respond better to men who show empathy. Empathy demonstrates sincerity and appreciation. Women also respect honesty.

If you were to approach a woman, the last thing you should do is to ask if she is available. That would imply that she is worthless to you inless you have a chance of getting somewhere with her.

Women, like all people, want to be respected and admired. Women want to be noticed but they want you to be interested in their redeeming qualities other than their looks. Obvioulsy you won't know what to compliment about a woman's characted until you get her talking, but upon first approach, her fashion sense, hairstyle, accessories, etc. are things she put her time into selecting and to make an impression. Work with that.

You want to get a woman talking, draw her out, and put her at ease. First make a positive observation or compliment. then follow with a question. "Great shoes! Do you always wear such sexy shoes?"

Women know shortly after interacting with you if you are:
1-looking for sex
2-trying to impress
3-validate your own ego
4-interested in getting to know her
5-hoping to win her affection
6-intimidated but curious
7-wants to think he has still "got it" (attractive to women)
8-pass the time
9-think you might be into a relationship
10-friendliness, extroverted, to include her in conversation

So it would be wise to keep your goal in mind of just getting to know someone or making a friend. Forget trying to make a woman think you are cool, you will only annoy them. Forget asking if she is available. Forget about getting somewhere with her.

All people want ts to be noticed by others, to have the approval of others, to have the respect and consideration of others, and to have others interested in them.

When you get up the nerve to go out and meet people face to face, become an extrovert by forgetting about your own disconfort or intimidation. Forget you and make it all about them. Remember your goal of just giving people your time and attention, without expectations.

You will make someone's day when you notice them. When you give them a compliment or ask them questions, you are showing further interest. When you make positive observations, you give them your approval.

Don't come on too strong and ask them if they are available before you have built up any rapport. That blows your cover and you look like a predator. when you are in it to get somewhere, you are making it all about what YOU want, and what YOUR needs are. People don't take kindly to those who act like you are in it all for yourself. No one owes you anything, and no one cares about your problems any more than you care about theirs.

Some great books on breaking the ice, rapport building, and influencing people are written by Dale Carnegie. Lots of salespeople read his books so they can relate to people better. The best one is How To Win Friends and Influence People.

So to deal with your issues and have better luck with women:
1-your agenda is to show interest and get to know someone
2-no one owes you anything, so don't act like it
3-make it all about others, not your own fear
4-give to others what you want for yourself, uncondotionally
5-put others at ease by building rapport and showing interest
6-your personal goal is to make someone's day (if you're brave enough, you might ask someone "What would it take to make your day?")

By the way, this works with guys, too. The difference with guys is they want to be admired more, and women want to be adored more.

You only feel so alone and isolated because you are not making the effort to get out and make it about other people. You are sitting around, self-absorbed, and putting yourself down. Stop that! No matter who you are, what you think you lack, how scared you are......you always have the ability to connect with others. The best way to do that is to practice making someone's day.

Answer 9

before you talk to anybody...u ask if they have a bf

Answer 10

yeah.go do something active.