My husband and I have just celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary at the end of October. We had a great weekend away but haven't had sex since. I found out he has been masturbating and told him that it upset me because I don't understand why he just doesn't have sex with me. I woke up last night and found him wanking again. I don't get it. I consider myself to be reasonably attractive, we have always enjoyed sex together and I have never turned him away. What could the problem be? Any insight would be great.
2006-12-06 10:03:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-12-06 10:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by funseeker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HONESTLY? your probably boring in bed. check this out. I, personally, find it difficult to get excited about havin sex with a chick i KNOW is ready to do it with me whenever i want. I KNOW THAT SOUNDS WEIRD. but really, it's like the thrill of the chase is gone. there is no C00CHIE like new C00CHIE, the sayin goes, and that's mostly because of the mystery surroundin whether or not the chick your chasin will actually put out. once you've gotten the C00CHIE, it just doesn't hold the same level of excitement. atleast not for me.
another thing. are u aggressive in initiating sex? i'll bet your not. aggressive does not mean comin to bed in lingerie. aggressive means, wakin your husband up with "oral pleasure". aggressive means, tellin your husband to pull over in the parkin lot behind the Supermarket when your on the way home from dinner with friends and ridin him while someones draggin the trash out to the dumpster your parked next to. the onus on initiating and keepin the marital bedroom spicy does not fall solely on the man. ARE U AGGRESSIVE? think about it.
2006-12-06 10:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance prefers a house spouse (however i admire the time era stay at domicile mum or finished time mom). at an identical time as i visit artwork till we've infants, as quickly as I even have them i prefer to stay at domicile, and that's what he needs too. i substitute into interpreting at college yet because of the fact he's in the protection stress I dropped out and function desperate to no longer end my degree for no less than some greater years. I even have asked him if he's ashamed of me because of the fact I havent truly accomplished lots with my existence yet (i'm 20 and function a classic job) yet he says that he's happy he got here upon me because of the fact our objectives are the comparable. If a woman is working, the guy could desire to proportion the chores together with his spouse. it may be that she washed the dishes and he cleans the lavatory, yet as long as that's comparatively equivalent there is not any subject. at an identical time as I artwork now, my fiance does an equivalent proportion of the housekeeping. as quickly as i'm no longer working and function found out to administration taking good care of a new child, i visit take over very almost all the housekeeping.
2016-12-18 08:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its just me but im 31 ive been married for almost 15 years and i try to have all the sex my wife wants to have! thats just not normal, i would not put up with that! if your having problems with sex already then you need to go get some marriage counseling or something! if it bothers you tell him and if he wont do something about it, then go get you a real man ! it sounds like you need it.
2006-12-06 10:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by symbionic1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you spoke to him about it troubling you, so what was his response? If he didn't have one, then talk to him about it again. We don't know him so cann't know why he's doing this, and if you can't talk to him about it then y'all have more problems than just lack of sex...lack of communication is a major issue...
I hope you two can work it out...maybe counseling is needed...you won't know until you speak with him...good luck!
2006-12-06 10:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shut him out one too many times in the past...and now he has completely given up on tring to have sex with you...give him some head...and tell him you want him bad.
2006-12-06 10:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are hard to please and it sometimes comes as a turn off to him. Also perhaps he does not feel like asking you for a quicky if that means getting you warmed up first.
2006-12-06 12:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time don't say anything, just take over the controls, or start doing it also, mutual masterbating can be hot.
2006-12-06 10:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not a bad thing and at least he's not having an affair. maybe you should question him.
2006-12-06 10:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by c_eva02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe yall should try some exotic things or something and get some toys or something
2006-12-06 10:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by just anotha chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋