How do I tell my parents?

Question

Ok first off Im 16yrs. old, I 'll be 17 in 7 months.
My boyfriend and I just found out that Im pregnant. I was calculating some things up and I should be 4 wks and 5 dys preg.
I kind of happy I know that sounds wrong, but for some reason to me its no big deal.
The thing is, Im scared shitless of telling my parents...

and the only reason that is...

is because last year I was dating a horrible guy who treated me like **** got me pregnant and my parents absolutley hated him and thought I was too young, so they ended up making me get an abortion.

If that wouldnt of happend last year I dont think it'd be this bad now!
Please give me some GOOD advice...

I really do not appreciate rude comments, I just really need some help. If you wanna say something rude and cruel please just keep it to yourself. I truly need help! How do I tell my parents Im pregnant? (again)

I've been with this boyfriend since the 8th grade, Im now soon-to-be going to my Junior year of Highschool, we had a little break last year.

My parents love him to death, and really respect him.

He's willing to go to my dad's house and telling him he's goin to take care of me and the baby. He has two jobs and is willing to do what it takes.

Answer 1

Hi, sweetie; I just really had an overwhelming feeling of pain for you, but I am concerned with you and your well-being and why you think it is okay to have unprotected sex. I personally want to talk to you, and you tell you that you are making your life incredibly hard, and this will not make your boyfriend stay with you. I am older than you, I work full-time, I am full-time student, I am married, and I have a one year old son. My husband and I both have really great careers, but we are in our early 20s, and life is difficult as far as being able to go out with our friends, going out on Friday nights, and being able to take trips. I am so sorry for going into this, but I would like to mentor young girls, and help them to have really great lives. You seem to be a very smart girl, and I feel that with a little guidance you can definitely be an extraordinary girl. I would love to help you be that person.
As far as advice is concerned: You and the guy need to get together with both sets of parents and sit down and tell them what your plan is for the future. I hope that the plan includes both of you going to some sort of school for education, and a plan to support this child (that has nothing to do with government assistanc). You also need to make sure that you understand the committment and dedication this child is going to deserve from you, and I pray that you are ready. If you need any more assistance, please email me at [e-mail]. You can be great!!!!

Answer 2

Well, if you two are in it together, then tell them together. Your parents will appreciate the fact that he cares enough about you to do this hard thing with you - it will give them some reassurance. I think, too, if they like him they won't hit the roof in fron t of him.

You know they are likely to be disappointed in you - I am sure they had hoped you learned your lesson last year. The boy didn't get you pregnant - you got yourself pregnant. It is your responsibility what you do and what you allow to go on. Many, many girls do not allow sex unless there is a condom - that is how you keep from getting pregnant, unless you are on the pill.

Having said that, I know that neither of these methods are foolproof - and if you were protected and still got pregnant, I would be sure to mention that to your folks. Accidents happen - it's carelessness that makes parents angriest.

Peace!

PS - there is nothing wrong with being happy. My mother was 16 when I was born and I think she was happy from the very beginning, too. I am now 40 and we have been close friends all my life - the small age gap has been a real blessing in my life. May it be the same for you.

Answer 3

First off you are a baby trying to have a baby. What are you thinking of getting pregnant again?? You already had an abortion the first time. How is your boyfriend going to support you,that isn't possible he's a child too. You're just going to have this baby and your parents or his parents are going to raise it and you're throwing your life down the drain. Why, why do kids want to have babies I just don't get it. It is so hard you just don't even know, don't have a baby just so you have something to love. Oh brother. I suggest you tell your parents right away, and just do it you are a CHILD and by having sex and of course not using protection you are a total child. I suggest you GROW up and tell your parents what a mess you are in again, and go to planned parenthood for the 2nd time. Start thinking of getting an education, then having babies...

Answer 4

honestly i am 24 and i have an 18 month old little girl and sometimes i feel like i am too young u have your whole life ahead of u!! if u both feel like having a kid when u are older and a little more mature u guys can think about having a kid but u haven't even started living your life yet you haven't even graduated high school yet how do u expect to support your baby i graduated & i have a hard time getting a job the can support us!!! and if your parents ain't going to be happy its not cuz they want to tell u what to do all the time its cuz they know what it is like to survive in this screwed up world and raise a kid in it so u really need to think this out not just about u and your boyfriend u need to think about the baby and his or her future!! JUST DO THE RIGHT THING

Answer 5

You just have to do it. I would suggest you let them know that you are happy about it and that you are keeping the baby. If your boyfriend is over 18 then maybe you can give him custody when the baby is born so your parents can't do anything. I would just make sure that even if they want you to have an abortion that you tell EVERYONE that will listen that you don't want one. Make sure everyone in the clinic knows you are not making the decision on your own. Maybe then this little life can be spared. Good luck.

P.S. Try having your boyfriend with you when you tell them. That way they can ask you both any questions they may have. CONGRATS

Answer 6

one million. That I was once an entire time smoker til I learned I was once pregnant. two. That I have performed medicines earlier than. three. Lost my virginity at sixteen. four. How many persons I've slept with. five. That I began consuming at an early age. 6. The time I lied approximately whilst I was once staying for New Years whilst I was once a junior in prime institution. 7. Met a man in individual as soon as that I met off the Internet. eight. Driven under the influence of alcohol a number of instances, lots of the ones underage. nine. What sexual stuff I'm into. 10. The instances I had my boyfriend sneak into my room whilst I was once sixteen.

Answer 7

Its never easy telling your parents you are pregnant. Hey I'm 20 and about to be a single mom from a guy that is an ***. (atleast your childs father is willing to stay in the picture). But you are just going to have to tell them and tell them that you don't want an abortion this time. I know it goes by state but you might check but if you are above a certain age you can make medical decisions for yourself and not have to have you parents tell you want to do.

Good luck

Answer 8

Both you and your boyfriend need to sit down with your parents and tell them you're pregnant. You're young but you are old enough to make your own decisions and old enough to take responsibility for them. I don't agree with abortion at all. In my opinion, if you create a child, you should keep it. After talking to your parents, set up a doctors appointment ... the sooner, the better so the baby can start developing healthy. Good luck.

Answer 9

I think you just need to let your parents know and dont let them make you get an abortion cuz even if they might help you out they dont have the right to take a innocent life. You and your boyfriend need to figure out what ya are gonna do. But Im'a tell you something by experience, having a baby is no easy thing but like everything else it takes time to get better, so my point is dont think you can't do it just cuz your young, even if your baby daddy is not there be a strong woman and do whatever it takes to raise your baby!!!!!!! Hope you find this helpful

Answer 10

i hav compassion for you even if ive never faced this myself
ur parents made you get the abortion becuz they didnt like him am i right??
if they like this guy and they no he luves you and is caring they would have sum type of compassion and trust towards him.
sec you both have to do it together sit both parents start out with telling them how mature you are and stuff then brake the news
no parent wants thier child pregnt *** such a young age so exspect a mad and angry reaction then they should try to settle down and get calmer *** the day goes
if they want u to get an abortion
let ur man explain to them that the babi is also his snd his has a say in it