I know how I feel is wrong but is it really?Help! what do I do?

Question

Okay before I explain everything I would like to state that I know how I feel is wrong and that I shouldn't.That's why I need an oustiders opion!

Okay.Umm my best friend and her now ex-boyfriend broke up at a dance that we have at our school.Well I had started to talk to him and become friends.And now we have become really good friends.Well everyone we know says were already acting like we are going out.He tries picking me up, sometime carries me bridal style and etc.Now I'm starting to have more than friend feelings for him.My best friend(his ex) has told me thousands of times that we should just start to go out I mean cause she says us hanging out with each other when ever she's around and it wouldn't bother her if we did.That would be cool, if I knew that a)she really meant that and b) I don't feel as guilty as I do for having the feelings I do.I mean she is my best friend and I DON'T WANT To screw that up!Am I wrong for feeling like this.What do I do?Be honest

Also we are suppose to hang out again tonight and over our christmas break.Does this look like more than frineds and should I? Or should I just say no I can't.I don't wanna lose her as a friend.And I don't want to lose him as a friend either.I'm so confused and feeling guilty.Please help!

Thanks for all your advice.But it's more I'm stuck on this clif and either I have to jump and hope there's a soft landing at thebottom or take a step up and see if I can make it to the top.I'm so confused. Because I honestly don't know if he is worth losing her over or if he is playing me to get to her.I mean he's has said countless of times he is trying to move on from her and everything(background info, I do like this other guy to but I'm trying to get over him so were both kinda in the same boat of movin on.).Also I'm afraid if I do go for it and she doesn't get mad her friends will still wanna come kick my butt.They both trust me so much that I don't know what to do.He trusts me to where I'm the only person(I think besides one of his guy friends) that tells me everything.Yesterday I honestly was crying when he asked me what was wrong I just had to lie and tell him that it was something someone had said.He was there and comfort me but I felt like that lieing was losing some trust.

Answer 1

if u value your homegirls friendship u will not take it any further with this guy. stop spending time/hangin out, lettin him pick u up, etc. even though she says she doesn't care now, she probably will sing a different tune when u actually get with him. i don't see where it's worth it. there must be other guys out there for u other than your friends left overs.

Answer 2

i know that this is really hard 4 u .and i know where u are coming from i mean if u really like him go 4 it but also think , do u like him 2 the point that u would lose a friend . because even if she said she does not care she does. i know this because i told my friend if she wanted 2 go out with my ex it would be ok and in the back of my mind i was thinking i would have a fit if she did. even tho i moved on he will always be mine and she probably feels the same . but just talk 2 her about it and tell her 2 be truthful because u need 2 know, and also tell her u dont want 2 lose her as a friend. hopefully this will help

Answer 3

Let me start by saying that any "relationship" that starts in high school rarely lasts! With that said, I can guarentee, your (girl)friend is lying, it does bother her. What you need to do is weigh how good of a friend this girl is. Could you live without her as a friend? Because that's probably what's going to happen if you continue with this boy. Even worse, he could just be using you to get to her, to make her jealous. And then when he gets what he wants out of it, he could very well dump you. Then you would be left without him and the comfort of your good friend to help you get over it. On the other hand, your only in high school, you do need to have fun and you will make more friends in your lifetime. Sometimes what we do now will lay the foundation for the person we become down the road. Be young, be free, have fun. Only you can decide what is right for you.

Answer 4

Maybe your friend is being sincere. Perhaps she has no feelings for him. Best thing you can do is have a heart to heart talk with your friend and tell her your feelings. Tell her that your friendship is more important to you (if that's how you feel) and that you'd like her firm acceptance if you should decide to go out with him.

Most people when confronted with this situation (and who have no interest in the ex) get upset merely at the deception involved. So, be completely open with her!
Good luck

Answer 5

Your friend may truly mean what she says about wanting you two to be together. And you could probably date her ex and still be friends with her. But, if she is your truly your friend than I think you should not date him. Chances are that this guy is not the "one" and why jeopordize a friendship for a temporary dating fling? Ask yourself where your loyalties lie.

Answer 6

Why did he kiss you. Did he p.c.. up an illustration that made him imagine you've been fascinated. And to call him a jerk and ignore about him and manage him terrible because he replaced right into a foul kisser and also you probably didn't wish him to kiss you. provide me a destroy. sometime karma will bite you interior the ***. And definite you're incorrect, way incorrect.

Answer 7

if your friend has stated for you to go out with this person then do it but fisrt of all make sure its what you really want and yes its nice to concider your friends fellings and all but if they have gave you there ok whats the problem well good luck on your deceision and hope you make the right one

Answer 8

The Golden Rule, never date a friends ex!
Even though she says it may not bother her, it will!

Answer 9

Friends are forever, boyfriends are fleeting. Don't jeopardize your friendship with the girl. Only see him in groups.

Answer 10

she is your best friend and i think that you should drop the guy. girlfriends last longer and are so much stronger. girls have your back but guys bail when things get tough.