i have an amazing husband who pleases me every way you can imagine.there are two things i let them get to me. FIrst i dont like his best friend. not that he is a bad person buthe means alot to my husband( they grew up together) he moved far away due to his job and he comes back twice a year for long periods like a month or so ( he has family here) and they spent alot of time together when he comes. it bothers me that everyday he is here , they have to do things together or he comes over nearly everyday..and times that he is back where he lives they talk on the phone 2 times a week and alot on msn sometimes. i know they are like brothers but why do i let this bother me. I know he didnt really want him to get married maybe that is why it bothers me. my husband says his friend likes me for him ???!!! and i am just oaranoid thinking he doesnt liek and approve of me. and he says it doesnt even matter what he thinks.....i honeslty would be much happier if he wasnt friends withhim.
2006-12-06 09:56:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they were kind of rised together. he has moved away it has been couple of years and he was like an older brother for my husband.
2006-12-06 10:02:23 · update #1
ok please ppl no gay thing. they are like family and my husband lost his dad and he was like a father/older brother to him . dont be ridic.
2006-12-06 10:04:36 · update #2
Jealousy is a curse - he is your husband but he has known this friend proabably all his life. Dont ruin everything you have that is good over something as trivial as this - find something you like to do and do it for yourself or with one of your friends when they are spending their (fairly infrequent) time together. Get real and be happy, ok?
2006-12-06 10:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get why girls or wives have problem with husband's friends and family. Marrying them doesn't mean the husbands have to leave everything now. Remember wives comes later in their life.
Why as soon as girls get married they think the guy is their property and should do whatever the wives like. Get a life and let him enjoy what he wants too. He is still majority of the time in a year is with you. Doesn't he love you.?? What if he demand like that about your family or friends. You are selfish.
2006-12-06 18:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by 360 degree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being selfish, insecure and jealous. I'm not saying that in a mean way, either. He's only in town twice a year. He was an important part of your husbands life before he even knew you. My hubby has friends who I don't like. But they are his friends. I don't have to deal with them.
Maybe you should try spending time with your girls while he's in town. That way you are occupied and you don't have to worry about what they are doing or the time that your hubby is spending with him.
Also, I agree with your hubby. If his friend doesn't like you, so what. He doesn't have to. Believe me his not liking you will not stop your hubby form loving you.
2006-12-06 18:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by You know who i am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not fair for you to want them to not be friends anymore. Why make him choose between the two of you? The guy lives far way as you said and you get your husband everyday of the year, let him spend sometime with his friend when he can. It'll be good for you both.
2006-12-06 18:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should try to talk to his friend and let him know how you feel. tell your husband to try to include you in a few of the things they do. Not all the time but once or twice so you get to know his friend better.
2006-12-06 18:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude, but he knew the guy before he knew you im sure. Why not spend your time attending a local community college where they teach English composition and spelling, or hang out with a girlfriend and discuss old boyfriends. I wouldnt say you are paranoid, but i do think you are jealous because you arent getting all his attention.
2006-12-06 18:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by ob10830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, if you start telling him who his friends can or can not be you are on a slippery slope. If you husband pleases and is understanding explain how you feel, and ask him how he thinks you should handle it, communication is a beautiful thing.
2006-12-06 18:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think his friend is ever going to move on. Like you said, they are like brothers. However, it doesn't matter what his friends thinks. He married you and his friend needs to respect that. Good luck!
2006-12-06 18:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by c_eva02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever see the movie Broke Back Mountain?
2006-12-06 17:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get real. You can't have EVERYTHING your way. I'm sure there is something in your life hubby doesn't like either. If he is destructive that is one thing, but if you just don't like him that's too bad.
2006-12-06 17:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋