HELP please!?

Question

I am 14 years old. I am pretty much fully developed, 5' 9" and 120 lbs. I have had discharge for about a year off and on. Why haven't I started my period??? All of my friends have and they are FLAT!

Answer 1

Greetings:
A very intelligent and interesting question you posed here.
To start off, everyone's body is different. Just because you have not started your period at age 14 doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you.
You state that you are fully developed. This is a subjective statement. There is something called "Tanner Staging" which evaluates sexual development. There are five stages. You can go to ask.com and type in "What is Tanner Staging?" Find one of the websites it gives you and one of them may have pictures of the five stages. It will also tell you what is required to be in a particular stage.
As far as when you should start your period, ask your mom what age she was when she started and your grandmother how old she was when she started menstruating. In general, they will be pretty close in age of onset.
What I am more concerned about is that you have had vaginal discharge for a year and a half.
Are you sexually active? This is very important because you could have a sexually transmitted disease that has gone untreated. It could be gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomonas. Other possiblities are bacterial vaginosis (not necessarily a sexually transmitted disease) or a chronic yeast infection.
What is the color, consistency of the discharge? Does it have a really foul fishy odor? (if it does then chances are it is bacterial vaginosis which is very easily treated with a drug called flagyl).
If you could give me more information, I could give you a more accurate answer to your original question.
Regardless, the discharge ABSOLUTELY MUST BE EVALUATED BY A PHYSICIAN. The reason being, that any of these diseases if left untreated can lead to scarring of the reproductive tract leading to infertility/sterility, ectopic pregnancy (a pregancy that is not in the uterus but in the fallopian tube or somewhere else other than the uterus itself. You could also develop "pelvic inflammatory disease" (PID) which can be very dangerous and even life threatening.
Like I said earlier, just because you have not started your period yet doesnt necessarily mean there is anything wrong even though you have developed breasts.
Please email me and give me some more info.
Regards,
Warren Shaffer, M.D.

Answer 2

Discharge from where? Your vagina or your breasts. I'm presuming you mean your vagina. You may have a simple yeast infection. Go to a gynocologist and get checked out. If you cannot afford it, go to a free clinic. Your doctor can tell you if it's a simple yeast infection or a bacterial infection. As far as your period, it doesn't matter how developed your breasts are, it will start when Mother Nature wants it to start. Hope this helps. And, for goodness sakes stop worrying. You are all right. This is very minor.

Answer 3

Discharge isn't all that uncommon, even though it can be unnerving when you are not used to it. One thing to make sure of is the color of the discharge. If it is white, clear, or slightly cream colored, there is not much to worry about. If it is dark yellow, green, or white and chunky like cottage cheese, or if you have burning or itching you could have an infection. Although not getting your period at your age should not be sending alarm bells, you might check with your local ask a nurse or your family physician to put your mind at ease.

Answer 4

Just be patient. It will happen. It sounds like your body is developing and your period may be the last piece of the puzzle. If you don't have a period by the time your sixteen, I would go see your doctor.

If you are really concerned, it wouldn't hurt to call your doctors office and talk to a nurse. They can tell you if you should be worried or not.

Answer 5

it depends on how much developed you are. 16 is kind of late to be "just starting" but it is possible. have you had a wet dream yet? if not,your body might not be ready for this. you can email me if you want to discuss youe particular situation but here is some basic advice. there is a muscle between yolur legs, if you peniis is like half hard you can make it stiffer by tensing this muscle. you need to tense this muscle when you stroke. tense and stroke for 10 to 20 seconds, then relax a few sec, then repreat. speed about 1 to 2 strokes per second. then if you start to feel a tingling, or like you need to pee, then don't stop, start stroking as fast as you can for as long as you can, and that might be enough to push you over the edge to climax. hope this helps. I am a parent.

Answer 6

Don't panick, just because your body has partially developed dosn't mean your "fully developed". A lot of girls don't start their periods until their 16. Just give your body a little more time it will happen.

Answer 7

Dont worry. some girls dont get their period until they are 18. It is nervewracking just 'waiting' for it. I got mine when I was 14, nearly 15. Wear black pants often and be patient. Enjoy the time you dont have to deal with it...cuz you have years ahead of you and it's nothing to look forward to.

Answer 8

It might be a good idea to check with a doctor. Don't worry, you don't have to be embarrassed, because all women have the same problems at one time or another. Good luck!

Answer 9

its not always dependant on how developed you are... it could be genetic - ask you mom when she got her period, or if u have older sisters, or even your grandmother. if you're really concerned then at ur next doctors apt. just ask about it.

(and dont be embarassed to ask someone about it - ur family members or the doctor -- its totally not worth it to be embarrassed).

Answer 10

every one is different. You might want to see a doctor if you are really worried. Discuss your eating habits with him or her, that can have a lot to do with it.