A really good friend of mine just told me she is gay and i dont know what to do?

Question

So a really good friend of mine and I were talking on lin last nite and she tells me that shes gay. I kinda knew because she acts hard and everything and ive always wondered in the back of my head, but weve had conversations where ive told her that i DO NOT DO the whole lesbian girl on girl thing. I know it took alot out of her to tell me and shes trustin me with this info but when she told me i felt so sick to my stomach. And then she says "you wanna know what the real sick part of it is" and then she says "i kinda like you". OMG i thought i was gonna die. I am 15 in the 10th grade and shes a freshman in college. She knew i was gonna freak cause im kinda homophobic but still, im gonna see her later on this week and i know things are gonna be awkward.

gahh

please help

thanks

Answer 1

You just have to tell her again, that you are not gay. It is fine it this is who she is and who she chooses to be. However, it is not for you. And the two of you can remain friends as long as she can understand and respect your decision as well as you understand and respect her choices. She will have to wait until she finds a female who has the same ideas and choices as she. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 2

Ask yourself why you're homophobic? What about homosexuals makes you uncomfortable?

Then just remember that your friend is still the same person she always has been. She's still made of flesh and blood, she still has feelings.
We're no different than you except in who we're attracted to.
It's not contageous, we aren't diseased, we're not sick or perverted, we're NORMAL individuals who have different attractions than you.

You're not attracted to every male that walks down the street are you?
No, I doubt it.
Well, guess what? Homosexuals aren't attracted to every person who's the same gender either.
We don't molest children, we aren't all caught up in sex only (we do have genuine feelings and are capable of genuine love), we aren't posessed by the Devil, we're not any different than you.

We're human beings.

Remember that when you see your friend, remember you two are friends for a reason, whether because you have similar interests or likes or whatever. Your friendship hasn't changed unless you make it change.

Answer 3

So what that she's gay? You should still be her friend but let her know that you are not interested in any relationship with her. And she should accept your decision if you let her know this. There is no reason to be Homophobic people are people and a gay person is like any other, everyone has their own preference.

Answer 4

The fact that she's gay shouldn't mean anything to your relationship. She's still the same person.
However, the fact that she's attracted to you poses somewhat of a problem, since it freaks you out. My advice is to just treat her like any other guy who has come on to you, who you are not interested in. It's the same thing.

Answer 5

She's the same person she was before she came out to you (which took a lot of guts on her part). Things shouldn't have to be any different now that you know than they were before. If she truly is your friend and you care about her, her sexual orientation should have no effect on your friendship.

Answer 6

First of all, u being so young and having significantly older friends, you are going to be exposed to more "adult" lifestyles. If u cant deal with it, find friends your own age. Now....if u are going to remain friends with her, u will just have to accept her for who she is. But u can tell her that if she wants to continue the friendship, she needs to respect u and your wishes to not want to be engaged in anything besides a friendship. If she can do that, then you're great. If not, move on to another friend.

Answer 7

tell her that you are not gay and you maybe don't want to be but also tell her that you want to still be friends i am sure she would understand?