My best friend and I have been friends for 3 yrs...in the second year of our friendship we weren't in the same class......so i met another friend... she's all in a friend and in the third year of my bestfriend's friendship we still weren't in trhe same class and neither was my new friend....the thing is everytime I hang with my new friend my best friend gets jealous...she walk past us and gives an attitude...whenever I'm with my best friend my new friend does nothing like that!.....and our friendship is now falling apart because she's just always jealous!my new friend is becoming a bestfriend, she's always there and like a sister to me....I tried leting them talk to each other, my newfriend wants to but my best friend does! i'm confused....I don't want to lose either of them cause they're really great friends...but my best friend is pushing it too far!
2006-12-06 09:30:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For all the curious people, the persons in this question are different from the persons in my other question.......thanks for all your answers...they are really nice answers...it's gonna be hard to choose a best answer cause all your answers are really good!!!
Thanks very much!
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2006-12-08 10:35:46 · update #1
Relax, you a good nice kid.
Your best friend is trying to control a bit too much, yeah she scared to loose out, but she needs to chill out....
New friend seems genuine, best friend should accept you have a mind of your own and back of the attitude thing, honestly (you) girls there is enough to worry about in life other than silly stuff.
Think best friend would also be jealous of boy friends and may even try to stop you, sounds like new friend would be supportive. REAL Friends are VERY important. Think you be fine, you are a cool kid. best of luck.
2006-12-06 09:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Gem of Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is insecure about your friendship. No one wants to feel like they have been replaced. Although you know in your heart that you are not replacing her, that is the way she feel. Don't have the two friends take care of it on there own- it won't work. I would suggest talking to your best friend and reassure her that she will ALWAYS be your best friend, but its hard to stay her friend if she continues with the ridiculous attitude. She will either TRY to be part of your life and accept that you are making new friends or continue with her current behavior- either way you are no worse off.
You are your own person and don't let her get away with choosing who you hang out with.
2006-12-06 17:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Yvette H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As sad as it may seem, it seems like your old best friend, is not a very good one. If she gets jelouse like that, than could you imagine what should would be like if you got a boyfriend or TWo new friends? Hang out with her and your new friend, and if she still has an attidude, I would say break it off. Don't say I don't want to be your friend anymore, just don't call her. It sounds like your new friend is a GREAT friend. The kind you will always have and can trust. So keep her.
2006-12-06 17:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by puffalump 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your best friend is feeling threatened in some way by your new friend and is afraid of losing you as her BF.
I suggest that you try talking to her honestly about how you feel, but pick a time when it's just the two of you. If she doesn't respond well that's too bad, but YOU are entitled to have more than one good friend and as you get older you'll see that relationships change all the time.
2006-12-06 17:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that sort of happens to me. I have 2 best friends, and then there's this other girl that used to be their friend. She's usually really mean to me for no reason, and when all of us eat lunch together, I get really left out. They totally ignore me and talk about the times when they were best friends. I get sort of jealous, but at the same time, i feel really hurt becuz my best friends are sort of leaving me behind. Just choose one of them. If ure best friend doesnt like your new best friend, u cant do anything about it. But... well, I can really understand ure old best friend. Sigh :(
2006-12-06 17:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bubble T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it the way it is, but try to join in ur best freind. ur new freind sounds nice bcuz she's not jealous when u hang out with others, but still i get y its hurting ur best freind, because she feels like u dont hang out with her anymore. talk to ur best freind and tell her she dusnt have to worry about anything u'll always be her bestfreind. but this is just a new friend i've added to my list, ur still number 1!!
2006-12-06 17:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if she was really that great of a friend then she wouldn't mind you having another friend so if she can't accept that then she not a very good friend and you should probably leave her alone or just be slight friends
2006-12-06 17:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Aflac2345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hang out with each friend separately..... Happy Holidays
2006-12-06 17:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by bananacompanion535 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best friend is just jealous like you said the way i see it is that if she wants to be that way then she really is not your friend
2006-12-06 17:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by ~Blackburn~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
beacause she doesnt want to loose you.
she wants to be your #1 friend.
she doesnt want you to become closer to another person.
she wants herslef to be the best friend bc she thinks of you as HER # 1 friend..
2006-12-06 17:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋