I was faithful for seven years & now that I have been separated for over 4 mo.s....I still can't keep the intimate acts we shared from re-playing inside my head ( not often , but often enough to where I feel I need to do something drastic.) Do you think rebound sex will eliminate the false illusions I still have about my ex? ( Your Toughts or Advice)
2006-12-06 09:25:44 · 24 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes I am legally married, we are estranged & both are rady to file for divorce. She cheated & I couldn't get past some1ne betraying the family for lust.
2006-12-06 09:39:18 · update #1
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2006-12-06 09:42:56 · update #2
rebound sex will not eliminate the illustions you have about your ex.
The person who will suffer most from rebound sex will be yourself.
If you are a woman: do you really want to get into a situation where you will be re-playing the intimate acts with your ex AND with your Rebound Mister, and having illusions about more and more men, AND end up more alone and lonely than ever?
If you are a man: ditto, except that men are more able to separate the sex act from emotional commitment.. but still... it'll be bad for your own emotional and spiritual health, really, and at the end YOU WILL STILL FEEL ALONE.
Don't do this to yourself.
If u are a female, for some tips from single women on how to live happily as a single, check out http://solofemininity.blogs.com
But if you are a man (sorry, I can't really tell from the skewed avatar) , the same advice applies though you might need to make some adjustments.
Only when you are happy as a single can you be happy as a couple in future with anyone else.. and avoid spiralling down into a trap of never finding happiness because the more sex you have with more partners without commitment, the more damage it may do to your soul & health
2006-12-06 09:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ming Ju 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rebound sex will not eliminate anything by miracle, but as time goes by your past will naturally fade into the distance. You won't feel as intense as you do now - one day you might even come to forget all about it. There's nothing wrong with having sex responsibly, as there isn't anything wrong with trying to have fun and go about your daily activities even when you've just gone through a break-up. Just be realistic, and don't expect anything to miraculously help you feel better; it takes time and effort to work your way back to normal. If you feel that seeing other people is what might help you get distracted - then go for it. Just be honest with yourself and with others, and use your common sense.
2006-12-06 17:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my experience rebound sex might take ur mind off of it for a minute....but it wont eliminate the thoughts. the thoughts will probably always be there until u can move on physically, mentally and emotionally and actually find someone that u care enuff about again and cares enuff about u to create some more "unforgettable" memories with. and what made matters worse for me was that the rebound sex wasnt even good! it just made me think about my ex even more cause even tho he was a liar and a cheater he knew how to satisfy me sexually.
2006-12-06 17:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by MsNic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rebounding keeps you entertained only for a brief moment. It won't help you get over your ex. When you're not 'rebounding' you'll still be thinking about the ex.
Rebounding is entertaining but its definitely not a cure. And in most cases you feel like its a waste and end up asking yourself "What the heck did I do?"
2006-12-06 17:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I highly reccomend rebound sex. Sometimes, that exactly what you need to take the edge off enough to clear your mind. So long as both parties are clear that it's just rebound sex it can be great.
2006-12-06 17:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Goddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get back out there - call it rebound sex, call it what ever, but yes - get out there and start to live your life again. Replaying a failed relationship over and over again is not good. You need some new action to replay in you mind.
2006-12-06 17:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Nemo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope its not right because the person you are doing may really like you and you will then in turn hurt their feelings...
All you need to do is get you an POA(piece of a**)...Find someone who you can just get with on occassions or when you get the urge and chill out and just have fun....
2006-12-06 18:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think rebound sex will help you get your ex out of your mind. Matter of fact, it might make matters worst. So don't do anything until you are well over your ex.
2006-12-06 17:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know when you are ready to have sex again. It is a personal choice. I don't think it will change you thinking about your ex if that is what you are doing but it might distract you temporarily. Use protection.
2006-12-06 17:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will still think about your ex and those special moments but hey it might help for the time being
2006-12-06 17:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋