behind my back...now they e-mail, call at least 5-6 times a week. They live 350 miles apart and when he did come up to see her a few monthes ago they went out alone as she scheduled the visit for a night I could not attend. The only way I now know is I was a "jerk" and looked at the cell phone bills and e-mails.
She's pissed that I looked...
What does everyone think? It's kind of pissing me off??
2006-12-06 09:14:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like trouble to me. Maybe your wife hasn't actually done anything, but she is sure looking like she is.
When people are caught cheating a normal reaction is to blame the person checking up on them. Her reaction is a little alarming.
Sorry the fact that she went so far out of her way to have him come visit when she knew you be unable to intervene or see what's going on says to me she is planning behind your back. Calling 5-6 times a week?? I don't know anyone who talks to a long distance friend that often.
Did she hide his visit from you?
I really think you are getting cheated on, yes.
Lazygirl your husband would be jealous most likely because you are hiding it from him. People who hide things are people with something to hide.
2006-12-06 09:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that she kept it secret means that something might be going on or she at least wants it to. She is only pissed because she knows what she is doing is wrong. There is nothing wrong with talking to an old friend from school but the problem comes in when its done in secret and behind your spouse back. If I was you I would ask her what's going on with her and old friend. Just express to her the fact that you don't like the calling and emailing 5-6 times a week. Now let me tell you my story.....I have a friend from HS that I talked to about 5-6 times a week and he is married and I'm not but nothing is going on but friendship. In other words that could be what's going on with your wife. Now another things, you might need to show your wife some attention. Because it seems that she is getting something from this fellow that she can't get from you. Sit down with your spouse and talk this thing out.
2006-12-06 09:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer bounce to conclusions except you have genuine evidence of something. The worst element you're able to do is accuse and not have any element to lower back up what you think of must be going on. Confronting the subject is often confusing in spite of the incontrovertible fact that that's some thing you're able to do. Does she comprehend which you already know the communication she's been having with the previous boyfriend? maximum people could say there is greater to it then basically a delightful digital mail or call, yet you may discover out the actuality for your self, or you will make your self depressing. If she is hiding some thing then it needs to be dealt with. 15 yrs of marriage is a protracted time to easily be wasted so do no longer basically ask your self. discover information and then confront the subject.
2016-10-04 23:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by mauzon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't have anything to hide then why should she care if you see her bills. You are her husband and have every right to know what your wife is doing. This "friendship" isn't healthy since it doesn't include you but is specifically designed to exclude you. Warning bells should be going off for you. Affairs always start with "just friends" and then "it just happened". Even if she hasn't slept with him she is having an emotional relationship as is evidenced by her protectiveness as well as covertness with regard to the emails and phone calls. Time to step in and nip it in the bud. If she is unwilling then you will know how serious a problem you really have. Keep in mind that you are justified and that guy is encroaching. Does he have a wife? Perhaps a friendly phone call to her as well would work. Good Luck!
2006-12-06 09:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an "old friend" as you call him too. But is just that, a friend.
We mail each other 3 or 4 times a month, bcoz we live in different countries. My husband dont know that we mail each other, because he is jealous , and dont understand that kind of friendship . I have my conscience very clean. Even, i'll not leave a long friendship from b4 i knew my husband only bcoz he is jealous.
So for me is not bad that she sees him , but i dont know how her conscience is. May be you are jealous and she tries to keep that as she did for you not be mad .
The best you can do, it to talk with her about that. May be she has a good reason for not telling you......
Or may be not.
Good luck
2006-12-06 09:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's at a personal level between the two now. Sorry to say all this. But it's not looking good at all. She's keeping secrets and going behind your back to talk to this man. I think in my opinion that she's having an affair. She's falling in love with this man. She doesnt seem to keep you informed with anything. and she went out alone with this guy. How much more can you take from all this. Talk to her and see what's up. Maybe then if you try to have a convo with her that she'll spill her guts. I really dont know much to say about this. But Good Luck.....hope this has helped you out in some way!
2006-12-06 09:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be pissed and why does she care if you looked if she has nothing to hide? I have been the "wife" on the same side of the equation as your wife except I told my husband not to look at the bill and I would pay it and so he didn't look at the bill and as a result things went farther than I intended them to go. No one is above temptation. I don't care who you are. The key is to avoid it.
2006-12-06 09:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man if she wouldn't tell you and you got too curious, why wouldn't you look at other ways to find out. If she didn't have anything to hide she would have told you straight up in the first place you need to get that $hit resolved REAL FAST before she's having a full blown affair on you
2006-12-06 09:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife should not have any secrets from you!!! If this was the other way around she would swear that you're cheating on her. She shouldn't be mad that you looked if she has nothing to hide. I would tell her to quit secretly calling and emailing this guy or else.
2006-12-06 09:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by Evoljz_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me...they met up on one of his business trips...I found out and told him I was going to a lawyer...he came back with "I love you and want to be with my family"...found out a couple of days later he was still talking to her...been working up my courage to leave...I suggest you do the same...sounds like she's either bored or is trying to grasp at the past...once a cheater always a cheater
2006-12-06 09:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by alura_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋