I wrote my opinion about happiness on my blog & this person who reads it thought it was directed at HER & that I had written it with her in mind. But I didn't have anyone in mine, just people in general. I thought it was pretty nonimflammatory. I just wrote stuff like, Happiness is free, Regrets are pointless. Etc.
So she took it pretty offensively even if she hasn't confronted me or even said outright her feelings were hurt, on her blog it just says stuff like "No thank you" over & over again. But I can tell what's implied.
So, it's an invisible & unacknowledged conflict. Should I acknowledge it, but what if I'm wrong and she DIDN'T find it offensive, and then I'll just be pointing something out to her that never happened & she might take THAT offensively.
Also, it hurts that she disregards my opinion completely (she is a really close friend) & doesn't even bother to think about my ideas applied to her life.
I want to ignore it and let it pass.I don't like fights.What should I do?
2006-12-06 09:08:42 · 3 answers · asked by Traveler 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go with your gut and ignore it. She may or may not be offended, and if she is, it's up to her to let you know she's upset and why. Then you can explain that you were speaking generally, and not to her specifically. You shouldn't be expected to be a mind reader. Maybe she's just going thru some other stuff that's making her over-react and once the other stuff passes she'll be back on track. If she is a really good friend she'll get over herself and let you know what's really making her freak.
2006-12-06 09:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should ask her politely if she found it offensive, tell her that u didn't mean to, and that u wish it wouldn't come in between u guys, and if she doesn't take ur apology, she isn't a very good friend, i kno its hard to giv up a friend but i hav had a pretty similar problem
2006-12-06 17:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she tell you that she is angry with what you wrote? If yes, say, I'm sorry you feel that way, I was just giving my opinion. If no, don't worry about it.
2006-12-06 17:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Melody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋