I have NEVER cheated on him, weve been married 11 years, but he still thinks a guy has only got to look at me and I'll be off. I have never done anything but he doesnt believe me.I'm 9 years younger than him, btw. He is driving me mad.
2006-12-06 09:05:12 · 16 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's got a guilty concience, and even after 11 years of marriage, he has trust issues. Maybe someone betrayed his trust before you and he were married and those issues havn't been resolevd, and maybe he's taking out those issues on you, but not trusting you. You sound like a very trustworthy woman btw.
2006-12-06 09:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is insecure about himself. He thinks that you are so good looking that the first guy that sees you you will run off with. tell him you love him and that he is the only guy for you. Tell him if you thought you could do better you would be gone along time ago. That he is the better. Tell him though if he dont start trusting you and stop being so jelous he will force y ou to leave and you dont want to but he is driving you crazy.
2006-12-06 09:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need marriage counceling. This is too complicated situation to figure out over an internet site. BUT DEAL WITH IT NOW. If you think it is driving you mad now, if you don't address this right away, you are certainly heading in a bad direction.
2006-12-06 09:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very common for one spouse to accuse the other of an affair when they themselves are having one. Its called deflection, they look for a way to place the blame for their actions and choices on someone else.
Just out of curiosity, in the last year or so has he changed his style of clothing, after shave or cologne, lost weight, or become secretive with his phone calls? If so, he might be having an affair and trying to start arguements with you so he doesn't feel so guilty.
2006-12-06 09:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are one or two things that is happening...Either he is uncomfortable with your age difference and doesn't have enough of a conscience to tell you or he's cheating as most of the time, the cheater is always accusing the other mate...
2006-12-06 10:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they are overly paranoid because they themselves are doing the cheating. I would start looking at him closer and see if there are signs that he's straying. And if you think he is not, try talking to him or seeing a counsellor. Good luck.
2006-12-06 09:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some men and women are extremely insecure and never get over it. It can be stressful on you but there's really no relief for you. Be thankful I guess that he still cares that much about you, cause some men don"t!
2006-12-06 09:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my oppinion is that if he is sayin that u are cheating he is doing it himself as my husband did. i just found out my husband has been cheating for the last year!
2006-12-06 09:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_hazel_eyez85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your younger than him and to him you look so good and other guys might try to take you and to him your the mian atraction for us men
2006-12-06 09:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by quinton s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he has a guilty cantious, maybe you should start paying more attention to what he is doing.
2006-12-06 09:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋