Bringing up the subject? Moms and women ttc?

Question

How did you approach the subject of wanting a baby with your husband?

Before you ask, yes we did talk about having kids before we were married and we both agreed that we wanted to have kids after being married for a while. We've been married almost 2 years now and I've found myself bitten by the Baby Bug and have been wanting to try for a baby next year.

And yes, our finances are in order (enough that I stay at home right now) and we have our own house.

I have been watching baby shows, and even talking about "when I'm pregnant" but Hubby hasn't quite caught the hint yet.

So what did you do/say to bring up the subject?

Answer 1

When everything was in order regarding our finances and relationship in general was on solid ground, I waited until there was a quiet moment and we had poured a couple drinks, the I sat him down and said "Do you ever feel like something is missing? Like someone should be here that isn't?" He got the messege loud and clear and took me upstairs. :)

Answer 2

Like you, my husband and I had talked about.
Then I discovered that I had a thyroid disorder and the Doctor who was looking after me at this time basically told me that as my body was under so much stress (resting heart rate of 120 - 140 beats per minute amongst other symptoms) that my body would probably reject a pregnancy and that I will probably look at conceiving when my body was healed - in a few years.
My husband and I resigned ourselves to the fact that it wasn't going to happen for awhile so we decided that the best thing to do was to concentrate on getting me better.
About 3 to 4 weeks later I had to go the ER for heart palpitations and they did some blood work to test my thyroid levels, they asked if I could be pregnant and I explained the situation and said that there was no way that I could be.
They discharged me that night and the next morning the ER Doctor rang me and told me the reason why I was having the palpitations was because I was pregnant.
I was in shock and disbelief.
I rang my husand and when I told him, he cried. He was so happy.
That was over 2 years ago now.
My daughter, while in the womb had started to correct my thyroid scar tissue and now I am not on any medication and I am in remission.
This is coming from a time when I was on 15 thyroid tablets a day and also 5 heart tablets to slow the beats down.
I think that when it does finally happen, your husband will be overjoyed.
I look at my daughter every day in amazement with what she learns and how already at 2 she shows independence with daily tasks.
We too are financially stable and I consider myself lucky to be a stay at home mum.
But more so, I feel extremely blessed that she came into my life when I was at my worst health wise and she helped me heal.
Your husband probably does get the hint, his just probably waiting for those wonderful words of "Your going to be a Dad".
I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

I have the best tip: Cook a great meal and have a glass of red wine. After he has eaten and he is happy, tell him that he would be a wonderful father and that you want a baby that looks like him. I bet he will smile. The get more serious.

I first feed my man then I bring up the issues. It works.

Good luck!

Answer 4

just sit him down have a night in together and just tell him how you feel. i was feeling really down about wanting a baby when i knew my fiance didnt want any (he has a son from previous relationship (not blood father) and his ex stopped him seeing him). i kept my feelings hidden from him and i fell into depression (other factors in my life didnt help) i told him eventually how i felt and after him seeing how happy it would make me feel he agreed. i am so glad that he did i have my beautiful daughter and he loves her so much even though at first he was only doing it to make me happy but he loves her just as much as me if not more.

suprisingly after she was born about 2 days old he was wanting more lol. now we r ttc no.2.and my daughter is 6 months old

so tell him how you feel what you got to lose hun.

Answer 5

I just asked what he thought if I decided to stop birth control. We had talked about it but I knew he was ready sooner then I was. So when I was ready I just asked if he thought now would be a good time to start trying.

You can't be subtle with men, they don't get it :D

Answer 6

Just tell him that you think you are ready for a baby. Who knows how long it will take to get pregnant plus after that you have 9+ months to get ready for it....

Answer 7

.Lets go practice on making a baby.