3 months ago I told my girlfriend I wanted some time apart because things were moving fast, and we were getting pretty serious. My girlfriend was very upset, but I insisted and we didnt see each other for a month. When I realized how much I loved her I asked her to take me back. At first she was still angry at me, but after a few weeks she finaly took me back.We are happy for the past two months, but last week I asked if she had dated anyone while we were apart - I did not.I found out she not only did date but she even slept with someone she knows from her gym and someone from her work, she says for about 3 weeks she had regular sex .The past few days I have been trying to hold in my jealousy.I know it is my fault and I gave her the freedom, but how do I get rid of my rage without showing it to my girlfriend?I have been asking her details of what happened and we have talked, and i feel i need to know altho its hard. i let her know it is ok to talk about enjoying the sex. am i ok?
2006-12-06 08:56:21 · 5 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your going to have to just get over this. This is the risk you took when you left in the first place. She was only doing what she felt she needed to do. You left her hanging when things got serious and she probably thought it was really over. You never called or anything for a whole month. Some people are not going to sit around and wait until your ready for a relationship. She had this right to do what she did even though it was really fast. I don't think that you should be asking her details about the sex because it's not going to make you feel better to know anything. You think it will, but it really will only make things worse. This will just have to take time for you to get over.
2006-12-06 09:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa. tough situation to be in. it is true you guys separated but she really wasted no time in getting with someone else. i would probably feel a little upset too. you can try asking for some more details to satisfy your curiousity. just be careful because once you know it may upset you even more. if the relationship is fine once again, and everything is smooth, it may be better to keep it that way rather than rocking the boat.
2006-12-06 17:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what provisions you made regarding seeing other people on the break.... if you said its kosher then this is the **** you'll have to sleep in!!
If this is something you've done multiple times...cooling off,pushing her away then this was inevitable.
I think that sometimes for us guys its one of the most difficult decisions to make so we sometimes need time to think it through before buying the farm. If a girl can't respect that just think what she'll do during rougher times later in life!!!!
2006-12-06 17:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by platypus rex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was the risk you took when you broke up with her. If you don't get your jealousy in check you'll be repeating that mistake cause trust me - she won't take you back a second time.
If you didn't want to share her you shouldn't have set her free to date others. If she broke up with you and you fooled around would you validate her being angry about it? Not likely.
2006-12-06 17:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. not of your business.leave it alone. your the one that wanted out.she let you out then she let some one else in. blame your self and let it go. you say you got rage.suck it up dude.
2006-12-06 17:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋