Hi
my friend and i have been freiends for three years...she's one of my best friend...but ever since this year she been a little bitchy!...she can be the bestest friend ever but sometimes her attitude just turns me off.....alot of people don't like her because of her attitude...but she doesn't know cause she thinks they are real friends....instead she's giving her best friend an attitude whenever I talk to her. I know she loves me and I love her (we're not gay!...just friends!) but ever since I've stopped talking to her she seems a little sad and I know she misses me...well I miss her too, but I can't continue to talk to her if she doesn't know her real friends from her false ones and continue to give me an attitude....she hardly evens listens to me when i try to talk to her should I talk back to her or let our friendship slide?
2006-12-06 08:52:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Did you tell her why you stopped talking to her? If you haven't that would be my first recommendation.
Let her know that you don't appreciate the way she speaks to you and that until she learns to have more respect towards you - you just don't want to deal with her. Let her know that you love her but you can't sit around and let her make you feel like crap.
Good luck. I know it's hard to lose friends.
2006-12-06 08:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. And to make sure she listens to everything you have to say, write it down. Then, once you to get together, tell her that you need to talk to her about how her attitude is making you feel. It's not that she is wrong and you are right, but you are just talking to her about how she makes you feel when you get "attitude" from her. When you sit down, tell her that you have a few items that you really want to discuss and that you want to make sure that you discuss all of them so that nothing between you two is left un-said. A most of all, when you talk to her, HAVE EXAMPLES. Nothing is more frustrating then when you hear someone say "The way you treat me makes me mad/sad/anger" and then you can not come up with a specific example of what you are talking about. If you keep it vague, she will think that you are making it up or you don't really mean it.
If after the talk things don't go well - then maybe she isn't the right friend for you. There is nothing wrong with that. I'm sure you had a best from in kindergarden that you don't talk to anymore.
2006-12-06 09:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it slide and let her go, because she's letting her "bad" attitude get the best of her which is causing her to lose more good friends and give everyone else something to talk about! She can't listen to you, so why bother being her friend? Good luck!
2006-12-06 09:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend is someone you care about, and that cares about you.
It is best to confront your friend and air your differences and give them a chance to do the same. Just as in any relationship, communication is the key to a long lasting one. If you were doing something that upset your friends, would you want them to talk to you about it or just let the friendship slide? You must determine just how important are they to you and go from there.
An annonymous quote says: You don't know if you have a friend or not until after your friendship survives the first fight.
2006-12-06 09:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lord L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her that her attitude is turning people against her? If you have and she refuses to listen, then you've done what you can for her. When she starts losing more friends she'll open her yes and ears. Sounds like you really care for her, but nobody should treat a true friend the way she treats you.
2006-12-06 08:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go deeper and have a full conversation as to why she is getting upset whenever you try to talk to her..there has to be a reason why she changed on you, maybe you did something to her that you didnt realize ..but even if you did you still need to be adults and talk it out..communication is the key termhere and if she denies antyhing beign wrong tell her that you miss how she used to be...still be friends but do your own thing too, have other friends around yuo as well so your not always consumed with the thought of having her there..people change?
2006-12-06 09:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpio 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi G.L
Directly Talk to Straight, (Think like it's talking about a problem who noticed about other people, i.e. like remove the importance of you being involved as this may help you be cool and objective in telling her, in other works do not worry about the out come, just be calm objective, honest with yourself and direct, like doing a favor you don't have to do makes doing it easier, if you know what I mean):
Say you would like her to know some things about her self, for her own sake that she causing you some concerns. If she won't listen then leave it, as she trying to control you toooo much, and you be fine knowing your cool with yourself. best of luck
2006-12-06 10:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Gem of Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am actually having the same problem with my best friend.At a point i think i should let the friendship go at another point she comes back telling me she's sorry and all that stuff.I think it's best we talk to them and see where it leads before making any decision.
2006-12-06 09:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it time,it will work out itself,sounds like teenage hormones,just something we have to put up with.just give her a little space and maybe try to be honest with her let her know that her attitude sucks and she needs to wake up and realize that everything is not what it seems.(friends)
2006-12-06 09:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 her and c why.if she does not want 2 talk 2 u,ask 1 of yalls other friends 2 talk 2 her.ifshe still doesn't talk just let it go.true friends don't let these things go.
2006-12-06 08:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋