child circumcision?

Question

me again my son is in alot of pain every time he goes to the toilet he screams, he con not pull the skin back at all and as little boys do (when it gets bigger) it rips the skin which then makes it sting when he goes to the toilet. my son is my life i would never do anything to hurt him and if this is the only way to make him not be in pain then i will do anything. i am using my sisters computer and i asked this genuine question and i am very hurt at some of the very arragant and rude comments especially accusing a loving mother whos trying to help her son and saying that this is child abuse.

he has already been seen by a consultant and is waiting for his op date and answering the lady whos sons had the mini op to stretch he had this done but has gone back to how it was bless him.
and thanks for your comments on how to make him comfy after surgery x

Answer 1

i think that you are doing the right thing, and I'm sorry for all of the assholes in the world today.....so, yes, i think that a circumcision is a good idea, and it will benefit him later in life to get it done now. and i just want to tell you that this was the most genuine question i have read since i have joined this yahoo thing.

Answer 2

Hey lady.

Obviously with out seeing its difficult to say for sure what the cause is.
However, when I was a young boy I suffered very similar symptoms.
I can remember asking my mum if I could be circumcised, an if it would help with the pain.
After a long time of getting no help or information it turned out to be the male form of sistitus, called Itus? I think, sorry can't spell.
From what I did manage to find out is that its not as easy for a young man to cope with, that operation, as an infant and you must be sure that it will resolve the problem.

Don't take no for an answer an keep on at your G.P.

There are many reasons from infection to plumming for symptoms like that.

I can try an appreciate how much this is upsetting you, but please don't rush the solution. God forbid he goes through
the op. an is still in pain.

An as for the idiots that understand nothing of a mothers love,
well, my thoughts cant be printed on this site.

Keep trying an chin up, somebody has the answer.

Peace.

Answer 3

Okay, first of all have you taken him to the doctor and had him checked for an infection? If he is having painful urination he might have a urinary tract infection or a foreskin infection. A normal healthy foreskin will not cause him pain when he urinates.

Secondly, I don't know how old your son is but if his foreskin isn't retractable then please don't pull on it. If you are trying to retract it and causing little tears in it and then he is peeing over the tears it is going to cause pain. It is perfectly normal for a child to not be retractable until they are older. My son was retractable at age 3 but I have spoken to moms whose sons were not retractable until age 15. If you try to force back the skin it can actually cause adhesions and complications that do lead to circumcision.

I would look at circumcision as a last resort. Talk to your doctor and make sure there isn't some kind of infection that is easily treated. Taking antibiotics or changing your care of the foreskin is far less traumatic than having part of your genitals removed.

Here are some sites with good information about how to care for an intact penis:

http://www.cirp.org/pages/parents/peron1/

http://www.fathermag.com/health/boy-care/boy-care.shtml

http://www.drgreene.com/21_513.html

Hope he is better soon.

Answer 4

Most real answers seem to be telling you to take him to your doctor, this seems the right answer to me

I had similar problem much later in life like 40+ and had to have the op. Yes most uncomfortable for a few days and if your poor son has to have this done he is likely to be most uncomfortable for a while but at a young age he is also likely to get over it easier.

Don't worry about the negative answers your family is more important than worrying about a few bad answers

Get off to the doc's and get the best advise you can. Follow that up with a bit of research on the net and good luck

Answer 5

My son had a circumcision at 10months, this was because he had a medical problem which meant the foreskin was too tight so he couldn't wee properly. It was done on the NHS and he had a general anaesthetic so he didn't feel a thing. He was a bit miserable for a few days afterwards but by keeping things clean and tidy he soon recovered really well.

He's 7 now and needless to say has no memory of what happened, and has no problems with weeing.

My husband, on the other hand, had the same problem which went totally undiagnosed. He had a miserable childhood and ended up having a circumcision as a teenager. He was totally embarressed and still remembers the experience with emotional and psychological pain.

Basically, what I am trying to say is, if it is medically necessary, then he should have the circumcision. Be guided by what your doctor says and don't worry about anything else but the welfare of your child.

Answer 6

The condition where the foreskin cannot be retracted is known as phimosis, and can be painful and lead to infection in some cases. However, circumcision is a fairly drastic solution for this: it can be resolved in many other ways, be it with simple stretching in the bath (when the skin is supple) to application of topical steroids to thin the foreskin, which again alleviates the problem.

Either way, it is very important to see a doctor (arguably a dermatologist is better suited to treat than a urologist here, but that's a topic for debate), as, untreated, this can, in extremis, lead to balinitis, paraphimosis (where the foreskin becomes stuck retracted) and sexual problems later in life.

Answer 7

If your son is experiencing pain then he needs to see a doctor.

They will examine him and advise if circumcision is needed.

If it is recommended then you need to talk to your family and decide what you think is best.

I do not think anyone would judge you for having your son circumcised for a genuine medical reason.

Some people do it for religious reasons but that is a different matter.

Everyone here has an opinion and you have to take the good with the bad and the nice with the nasty.

Do not take it personally and do what you think is right for your situation.

Answer 8

CIRCUMCISION IS VERY BENEFICIAL, its cleaner and several research bodies have concluded that circumcised men have less risk of contracting STD's such as AIDS-HIV or herpes.

Uncircumcised penises are difficult to keep clean, and more prone to infections and penile cancer, studies have shown.
A circumcised penis is naturally clean and virtually free from urinary infection. You will not have to worry again with careful washing of your penis.

Is it NOT true that the AAP (American Academy of Paediatrics) does not recommend circumcision. They simply say they leave the decision to parents. But recently, and specially after the New Zealand study, the AAP has been discussing if it may be necessary to change their policy and recommend circumcision to all newborns as they used to do, so in the future we may see that the AAP advocates again circumcision.
Have a look at: http://www.baby-health.net/articles/381.html

About STD's:

As I said, several studies carried out by prestigious research bodies have concluded that uncircumcised penises are more prone to infections and contraction of STD's, including AIDS-HIV. Circumcised men have been proved to be up to seven times less likely to be infected than those who are uncircumcised. Have a look at this site: http://icuxbridge.icnetwork.co.uk/news/tm_objectid=14095142&method=full&siteid=53340&headline=-circumcision-protects-against-aids--name_page.html

As for women, studies also show that circumcision also protects female partners from AIDS-HIV and other STD's. Browse this article: http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/Press_releases/2006/02_08_06.html

About sensitivity of a circumcised penis:

No medical or physiological study has proved that circumcision reduces sensitivity, opposed to common belief. It is completely FALSE that circumcision reduces penis sensitivity. The American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) confirms this on their web site; have a look at: http://www.aap.org/pubed/zzzjzmemh4c.htm

Circumcision is an easy and nowadays *painless* procedure, which has many benefits, and virtually no risks.
Circumcision is NOT an amputation. Circumcision is NOT comparable at all to female circumcision, which is something completely different.

Circumcision rates are INCREASING nowadays, both in the United States and overseas. Many African and South American countries with little circumcision tradition are starting to promote the procedure to help to reduce the AIDS-HIV infection rates.

Finally, this site has a lot of useful and *unbiased* information. Make sure you have a good look: http://www.circlist.com

Answer 9

my so had to be circumstised at 7 years old for medical reasons. he had the same problems has your son.
he did have to have stitches, which i was told he might by the surgeon but i choose not to tell my son this as he was worried enough.
they told us to but salt in his bath, we did and it really hurt him, they told us to do it as he could get an infection.
they also said the younger the child the less pain there in after wards. it took two weeks for him to stand up and walk straight , and to be free from pain.
as a mother its a terrible thing to watch your child go through this especially as its not for religious reasons.
good luck xx xx
it will be OK
ps. we got him a computer to play when he came home from hospital to help take his mind off the pain.

Answer 10

Maybe you could give him some ibuprofen every 4-6 hours and also put some Neosporin with pain relief on it.