My husband always says "I love you" everytime right before we hang up the phone or leave each other.?

Question

I know its a good thing, but can you say "I love you" too much, to where there is really not a lot of meaning behind it anymore? Please answer!! Thanks

Answer 1

This is the conclusive answer to your question...

1.Saying anything is good when the words spoken are:

a. Truthful,
b. Pleasing,
c. Beneficial and
d. Not agitating to others


If saying "I love you" passes these four quality checks, then it is a good thing to say.

If the person:

1. Does not love you
2, Does not say it in a pleasing manner
3. Does not say it to a person who values it
4. Agitates the person being told by saying it

Then it should not be said even if genuinely felt.


Saying "I love you" is not a question of QUANTITY, but is rathe a question of QUALITY.


What is the meaning of LOVE? That is the most important thing. Maybe a person with good intentions is saying "I love you" but they do not in fact love you. They may not understand what love is and are misled into thinking they love you when they actually lust after you.

Repeatedly saying "I love you" does not cause the phrase to lose its meaning. It only loses its meaning when you no longer truly love the person. That's when saying it becomes meaningless. Quantity nevers dilutes it, only a lack of quality.

So keep saying it as long as you have it with the above considerations in mind. If you truly undertand the meaning of "I love you" and if the person saying it actually does, then you will never tire of hearing it and you would rather desires that he had millions of mouths and you had millions of ears to hear it!

That you are not relishing it now means something is amiss in your understanding and appreciation or the actual quality of his or you feelings. Most likely that lust, anger and/or greed has entered and corrupted the motivations underlying the relatationship leading to your dissatisfaction. Only pure love can truly satisfy the heart.




Definition of Love
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LOVE

There is no time limit. Love can come in 1 second or it may take 50 years.

But love has a quality. If the quality is there then it is love, Even after 100 years, if the quality is not there then it is not love. It is not a matter of time.

LOVE means that you only have a desire to make your object of love happy without any selfish personal desire. Love is selfless.

That is quite a tall order to fulfill, but when it is there, it is there and you have it!

If you are trying to satisfy yourself in the relationship then you are under the influence of lust, anger, greed, etc. It is not pure love.

PURE LOVE means unmotivated and uninterrupted. 24X7 I think of you.

Pure love is even devoid of sex desire, though you may reciprocate sexually with your object of love to please them. When you have pure exclusive love for someone then you are essentially desireless. You only desire their happiness and their happiness is the source of your happiness--to the point that if they become happy by giving you distress, then you will take your own distress as your greatest happiness...because it makes them happy.

These are very elavated concepts of love and not ordinarily attainable on the material platform.

These are generally realized in our eternal personal relationship with God, who is really the only one worthy of such a high degree of love, and even then it is rarely attained.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

You can never say "I Love You" too many times.
I'm sure there is meaning behind it everytime he says it,and wants you to know he loves you.He may say it every time before hanging up the phone or leaving but does he call or leave that many times that it sound meaningless.
He may do it for a reason you are not thinking of or you did not put thought to it and that can be he thinks he will tell you before leaving or hanging up cause it may be his last time.If anything was to happen to him or yourself away from each other and he did not say it he will feel "I didn't have the chance to tell her I loved her"
I do the same thing infact I say it more then just before hanging up the phone,or leaving the house.I tell her when we wake up,just out of the blue through out the day when we are home together just sometimes cause the urge comes on and the words want to come out,before we go to bed,and it is for that very reason.I figure I will say it every chance I have, that way she will always know I do.Three small words but so much to them.
Do you really think hanging up the phone without it said would feel "right" or the same.Having him leave the house and it not said you would not feel complete.
If you had him to stop now it would be said less and less as he would feel uncomfortable saying it knowing how you feel and wait for you,before you know it...it is hardly said,then you would be hoping for it to be said too many times again.
Life is short and you never know when your time is up,you can walk out your door and drop of a heart attack or get hit by a bus.
Life is taken for grantited too many times and the small things are over looked and most of the time it is the small things that matter the most.

Answer 3

Hmm. Well, to begin with, be glad he's not saying, "You know, you could smell better..."

Can you say "I love you?" too much? Relationships are more likely to get in trouble when people STOP saying it than when they do. Why does it bug you? This is something you need to figure out - that'll tell you what to do about it, if anything (I mean, even if your considered, thoughtful answer is "it just bugs me," is it important enough to do something about it, or just one of those cute idiosyncracies about someone you love?).

Can you say it to the point where you cease to mean it? I don't think repetition would be the cause of it losing its meaning. Certainly people say "I love you" who don't mean it, or mean something else, but unless you have other compelling evidence that he doesn't, in fact, love you, then I'd take it at face value.

Maybe it's just his way of connecting, a brief way of confirming his affection for and commitment to you. Maybe it's his way of ending a conversation on an up note. Maybe it's just a habit that makes him feel better. None of these is really a bad thing - and you might miss it if he stopped saying it. Maybe he's turned it into a habit so he won't forget to say it, also not a bad thing.

Unless you have other reasons to think he doesn't love you, I can't think of any explanation that isn't kind of sweet. It's all in how you think about it.

Answer 4

It's good that he says I love you before hanging up the phone or before he leaves to go out some where or even before you go to bed.
You can never say it enough, I mean what if for what ever reason one day he's gone, at least you would have said I love you before he went right?

When I was little the next morning my Dad was gone, he died. My Mom and Dad were separated at the time.
So I think you can never say I love you to much, because every time you say it it means so much more.

Answer 5

My wife and I say I love you to each other everytime we talk on the phone and lots of times when we are with each other - I dont think it is something you can see or hear too many times at all - we have been together 2 years and married for 8 months and it has been like that for most of that time, I dont think it will ever diminish.

Answer 6

nope you can never say I love you to much! My hubby and children always tell each other I love you when we are getting off the phone or when we leave the house, their are different ways of saying I love you in the tone of your voice. I mean has you hubby ever said hun I really love you and it's a different tone or just said I love you in a different way? I think it's great that he tells you he loves you all the time . If you really think about it the times he didn't say he loves you you would really miss it and think their something wrong. Take the I love you and run with it because we have girls out their that never hear from their hubby's that they love them.

Answer 7

I've actually thought about this before - my husband tells me he loves me everytime we hang up (twice usually, lol) and when he's leaving. And I've wondered if it's habit of if its sincere...then I remind myself there could be a lot WORSE habit for him to have. If he's in the habit of saying too much - I'd say what better habit for a husband to have? Some women would give anything to hear it just once....why complain about hearing it too much?

Answer 8

I always tell the people I love "I love you" before I go somewhere or hang up the phone. I am just afraid that if something should happen to me or to them that I wouldn't get to say it. So I make sure I do.
You might want to talk to him and see why he does it. Open communication between you is the best thing.

Answer 9

I know how you feel. While it is nice that he tells you that he loves you, it can be said too much. My husband tells me I love you probably on average every 45 seconds.LOL. It does get annoying at times but I'm glad that he loves me that much. It always has meaning behind it but yes, I do know how you feel.

Answer 10

I always say I love you to my boyfriend and especially to my 17 year old son before we ahng up the phone--even if we are arguing--what if something tragic happened to that person on the way home? The you'd know that they knew that you loved them.
I think those words can not be overused. Plus, I don't want to be that person wrought with guilt over not saying it to the people I loved before they died.