what do you do when your best friend has HUGE problem but wont tell anybody?

Question

something happend to her but she wont let me tell anybody and i know i should. but if i do tell shell get mad at me...

Answer 1

I depends on what it is that you're keeping a secret. If she's in danger then you need to tell someone. What would you do if you didn't tell, and then something else happened to your friend?

Answer 2

First of all you need to answer this question within your heart. If you know she is doing something really bad that could hurt her or even kill her, or someone has done something to her that they should of not. Then I suggest that you tell someone. I had the same situation happen to me when I was 17 my best friend started doing drugs and I was really worried about his life and safety. I made the choice to tell, he didn't get mad at me, he went to rehab and it helped him and he thanked me. I'm not saying this would be the case for you but if you are a true friend you'll do whats right, you don't want something happening to your best friend right? Do what you feel inside is the right thing to do.

Answer 3

Well, she told you. That's a good start.

It's hard to give advise on a problem without more details, but if she is the victim of a crime or abuse I would go talk to a professional on her behalf and then relay the information to her. If she starts to lose it, get her help.

If it's substance-abuse, denying is part of the program and you have to decide for yourself if you should intervene or not.

In the end, if you tell somebody and she gets the proper help then you have been a true friend; whether she accepts that or not you will just have to live with.

Answer 4

It depends what it was that happened to her. As long as its not on going i would just be there for her support her and encourage her to tell someone, don't push her to tell someone. Maybe she will tell someone when she is good and ready. If what happened to her really cannot wait until she is ready first of all i would really get her to see why telling someone is so important and you will be there for her to support her, if she still wont let you tell anyone but you really feel you should you could suggest you both go together and tell someone, maybe your mum or an other adult you can trust.

Answer 5

You have to be there for your friend. It is her decision whether she wants people to know or not. Talk to her, be her friend, help her through it. She will come forth when she is ready. You have to remember it is not your decision to make. As hard as it may be, it has to be her decision. The only thing you can do is be her friend, and help her get through it.

I just have the feeling that your friend was assaulted in some way, and if that is the case, it is hard to inform people of that situation. It is important that your friend knows that in order for it to not happen to anyone else, she will need to come forth. BUT, that is not your job to do it for her.

Good luck, and I hope your friend realizes that she is not alone!

Answer 6

I think it depends on how big her secret is and how personal it is to her. But you should still be her friend but try and connect with her. And maybe when she trust you enough then she will tell you the secret. If it's not tooo personal.

Answer 7

Depends what it is. If your talking somehing like rape then you should tell. She confided in you, but you have to help her. What is more important - getting her the help or whatever it is she may need or her being mad at you?

Answer 8

Big problems don't go away by itself, it will eat into her until eventually it will come out in the wrong form or wrong time, she needs to speak to somebody before it, destroys her relationship with every one that loves her, Pray, ask God to help you to help her.

Answer 9

the problem is hers and not for you to fix, be there for her but do not tell any one unless her life is in danger