OK, so I like this one guy named Addison. i talk to him daily and all, but more then 1/4 of the time, he'll say "SHUT UP! ina sarcastic voice, or "I wasn't talking to u was i???". and then ya. but i STILL like him. even tho i have NO chance with him, because he is popular and like... 20 girls like him. (not kidding, or exaggerating). and ya. so should I tell his bff, Sam, who I sit next to in almost every period. i kinda want to tell Sam, but i don't want him to be all obsessive and all. HELP PEOPLE!
2006-12-06 08:31:57 · 11 answers · asked by H A N N A H(: 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yeah tell, sam. It's worth trying. But don't make it sound like ur one of the 20 girls drooling over him. act mature and don't let him know ur like obsessive over him. boys like a chase.
2006-12-06 08:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by NICOLE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you tell Sam, he'll probably tell Addison. The problem is if Addison is not taking you seriously when you talk one-on-one, how serious will he take the news when it comes from Sam? Even though you are head-over-heals for Addison, I believe that you have the power in this. If Sam likes to have his popularity and ego stroked by these 20+ girls, then he is not as cool as he and others think. There is obviously a flaw. I think you would be better off if you confront Sam with your feelings and, if he pulls that "shut up" or "I wasn't talking to you" routine, then he is not ready to take you or anything else in his life seriously. I know it might hurt you to hear him not take you seriously, but trust me, if he does not show any interest, you are really better off. Boys will be boys, and if he wants to remain a "boy" right now, then you should find yourself a "man." I'm sure he is a nice guy, but you sound like you are very mature and he just might not be at that intellectual level yet to start a nice relationship with a good girl. Please take all of this into consideration if you ask Addison and he shoots you down. He just might not know what he wants yet. But do not allow Sam to speak for you. You are a strong woman and nobody should put words in your mouth.
2006-12-06 09:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a jerk.. I know how you feel though, I used to have such a BAD crush on this guy all through middle and high school, I was seriously OBSESSED.. ok well maybe not obsessed but I really liked him. He was a jerk to me sometimes too, but I didn't care. Once I started college and got a chance to meet a lot of new people, I didn't even care about him anymore, and now I'm almost repulsed by him. Funny huh? If he won't come to you then it's not worth it.. trust me, he loves the attention and you're better than that anyway.
2006-12-06 08:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the is to full of himself to take the time to talk to you in a respectful manner he is not worth your time or energy. There are a lot of great guys that want you to notice them, and would be respectful and expect more from you than physical things. This guy you are talking about sounds like a guy I used to be. I would ignore the girls that really wanted to be noticed long enough that when I would give the notice they wanted they would do what I wanted them to. I was a dog. Find your self a man and be rid of the puppies.
2006-12-06 08:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mike E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK i been in situations like that when i was like in middle school and high school but yea i learned things and have opened my eyes. I think someone who tells you to shut up or is rude to you is soo not worth your time. screw that person. you should not have to take that from anyone even if it is playful that rude and mean to say to someone.
but at then end if you wanna tell his best friend go ahead but from my experiences it always ends up as the friends making a big deal over nothing.
good luck
2006-12-06 12:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above. He doesn't like you and isn't even bothering to be nice in telling you. Try to distract yourself with other things and other people and pretty soon you'll meet someone worth your time. Sounds to me like Addison (or should we call him A$$ison?) has so many people fawning over him he's become an egotistical jerk.
2006-12-06 08:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like a jerk to me. you'll realize that later i'm sure. i don't think you should say anything and just be friends with him. The guy should always make the first move anyways. Plus, if he's soooo popular, he probably thinks he's so cool, he only wants one thing, i don't know how old you are, highschool, i'm guessing. i wouldn't try to date him, but i'm been through it before so i know, be cool!
2006-12-06 08:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it kind of sounds like Addison doesn't like you? Unless saying "SHUT UP" and "I wasn't talking to you was I" is a new method of flirting with which I am not familiar... I would focus your attentions on a nicer guy if I were you.
2006-12-06 08:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Bwilkerson 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. I've actually had some success when I felt like I was being overbearing about crushes. Guys don't get it when you're all subtle. It's not sexy and it's not helpful. Obviously you shouldn't do weird things to make him feel uncomfortable, though. Don't worry too much about seeming like an idiot.
2006-12-06 08:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by :) 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
give him nice smiles and DO NOT TELL SAM! THAT WILL NOT WORK you need to be kind to him. And do not act like you like him. (trust me I am a guy…………
2006-12-06 08:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Squill 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋