I am very afraid to be alone.What should I do?

Answer 1

Why are you afraid has someone threatened you are you living infear of harrassment or a threat of violence. Or are you afraid of being alone because you are insecure or unstable because I have those problems too.

My solution is that if you do not feel safe move in with a close friend or your family stay with them for a while, or move nearer to them that might give you some stability and safety.

Or equally try talking to your neighbours and letting them know how you are feeling invite them over for a chat or go and see them they will invite you in lfor a cup of coffee and a chat they will also look out for you also,contact your local neighbourhood watch group. Even better get in touch with your local church community as they might be able to offer you the support, love and friendship and guidance to help you thorough this.

I went through this phase when I was at university and living away form home Iam feeling the same as you are and iam hoping to move nearer to my mum now and my family because I feel terribly insecure and mentally unstable where iam living.

You can also try putting the TV on and leave it on all day & night that usually helps or even put on the the radio and loud music. Read a long book or novel like war and peace that often helps.

Also when you go to bed at night say the Lords prayer as this is a very powerful one and that eradicates fear altogether and you will feel protected and safe it worked for me once say it when you go to bed close your eyes breathe deeply and put your hands together and say it either out loudly or in your mind ''Our father who art in heaven hallowed be thy name thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven give us this day our daily bread and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil for thine is the kingdom the power and the glory for ever and ever amen''.

Any way hope all this is useful.

God bless you and take care :)

Answer 2

If you are indeed genuinely afraid to be alone, you may wish to get some professional counseling to explore why (if you truly don't know why)
In my experience working with adults, I have found that generally their is some trauma that occurred when alone as a child or youth that causes such a strong emotional response.
Their can be many reasons for the fear, however, in cases where the victim is genuinely unaware of why they are afraid, their is often memory of a series of or a single occurrence of emotional or physical trauma that has been repressed over time. Examples are:
A fire waking up a child because of the pain.
Sexual abuse by a trusted adult at night.

Sometimes the fear can be developed because the person feels so badly about themselves and their belief of their own value is poor enough that being alone and the quiet circumspection that it brings on are actually painful and in that case the fear is not of being alone but of feeling what the person believes is the absolute truth.

Answer 3

Be afraid! Be very afraid! I'm just kidding! Call your parents. Go out. Get a boyfriend or if you have one tell them to come over. Invite someone over. Have a party. Watch a very unscary movie. Run up the electric bill by turning every light on in the whole house. Buy an aggressive dog. Hold the phone in your hand at all times. Sleep. Go in a room that is isolated from most of the house/apartment and think happy thoughts! Think of paradise. Read a book. Play a game. Scream until your not scared anymore. Run around the house screaming bloody murder. If you live in the city think of how bad it would be to live in the woods. If you live in the woods think of how bad it would be to live in the city. If you do it backwards you'll become triple as scared so don't even try! Torture people on the Sims. Prank call your worst enemy. If extremely frightened hire a body guard for the day. Your preference. If your still afraid by the time your done reading this... I will prey for you! Don't be afraid!

Answer 4

Don't be...
You are afraid to be alone because you simply fear loneliness. You simply fear that you won't have anyone who could give you some attentions. Being alone doesn't mean the end of the world.... Remember an old jargon says: Alone But Not Lonely.

So, maybe you can try to find something interesting out there... What do you like to do? What is your favorite thing that could make you happy? Then go and visit those places to incorporate your interests. Try to visit some nice bookshops or great music stores... and so on. And you will find in those public spaces that there are soooo many people hang out alone by themselves. And they are fine and okay with their loneliness....

You should keep in your head that you are NOT the only one person in this world who are alone... There are tons tons of people out there who are alone as well even lonelier than you perhaps....
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Answer 5

Try to figure out why you are so afraid.....there must be an underlying reason. It may really help you to see a professional. You don't want to go on being afraid for the rest of your life. Getting a cat or dog or talking to a friend is only a bandage on something that may need medical attention. Don't wait call and make an appointment.

Answer 6

Accept that everyone fears loneliness, it's a part of being a generically social community race. There's a few good tips so far already, but learn your biggest fear is in fact that you have nothing to fear. Get some help if you need to, but get through it and you'll see that just like being afraid of the dark, it;s something you get over and can deal with when shown the way.

Answer 7

I think you need to clarify the question a little more. Do you mean alone as in being by yourself in a room or empty house, or alone in life? Since you're married, you're obviously not alone at the present time, but are you concerned about your husband leaving because of the situation with his kids and his ex? I have a feeling you're not just talking about being in room by yourself.

Answer 8

I always hear that "You've gotta face your fears."
Easier said than done, right?
But I can't imagine it being too good to be too dependent on the presense of other people.

In a way, we are all "alone" even while in a crowded room.
Check out the book
This Light In Oneself
by J. Krishnamurti

Answer 9

i'm no longer nervous of hamburger yet each so often a sausage scares the heck out of me and that i retreat to my quiet little shelter right here interior the woods the place i will consume a candy bar whilst the worldwide gets to be too lots.

Answer 10

Be afraid, be very afraid. Then think of all the benefits of being alone, eg; you get to choose what TV to watch every time.