Be honest. I'm curious.
2006-12-06 08:10:58 · 14 answers · asked by Lanani 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I have, so yes.
Weird scenarios each time.
One was a friend who was separated from her husband. Eventually they got back together, which was good for everyone. I felt stupid afterwards though, for just being there at all. That was the winter of my first year in college. In my sophomore year of college, I kinda/sorta dated a girl who had a kid. I might have dated her further, but she was afraid to tell me she had a kid (she was 18 and the kid was like 2, so I dunno). When her friend (who was also my friend) told me about her kid, I felt put off that she didn't tell me about it in the first, second, or third place... I would have been okay with it, but I was sad the way she went about it, so that was pretty much the end of that.
If the woman had like 5 kids or something, maybe that would be a little too much, but I'd give anyone a chance if there was some kind of chemistry.
Maybe I'm biased a little, because my dad married my mom even though I was already two and not his own child. Mom said that half the reason he fell in love with her was because he fell in love with me, too. He's the best and only father I've ever known. It's too bad everyone's dad isn't like my dad, because the world would be a better place.
I guess what I'm sayin' is "guys, give that single mom a chance".
good luck , kiddo.
2006-12-06 08:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by sectumsempra_avada_kedavra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. if I were a guy, which I am not, but I started dating my boyfriend 7 years ago, and have watched his son grow up to be a little man!! lol He had him with his wife before they got divorced. He doesn't live with us, but I don't think it would have been different if he had. We still see him as often as we can.
My bf and I now have a child of our own and are planning on a second one. I think when you can see how someone handles kids, you see how they handle life situations, too. Kids are the ultimate in driving you nuts once in a while and really stressing you out. If the person you are seeing handles these stresses with ease, than you can pretty much tell that they will be able to handle other stresses well, also. I like guys that like kids. I think my boyfriend is a great dad to his first son, and our son as well. These days, its hard to find someone who hasn't had a divorce or children at "our age". I think most of the dating world is understanding of that.
Of course, if you are lookin for a wild and crazy guy... THAT guy may not appreciate you having kids 'cuz he can't scoop you up to Toledo, or somewhere, for the weekend without having to find a sitter, etc etc. Some men may want to be more spontaneous than that in a new relationship.
My thoughts are- just be honest with your new love interests right from the get-go, but don't play if off like it's some horrible disease, or anything. Don't talk about your kids too much, because men really like to have the world centered on themselves a lot of the time, and if you aren't given them attention, they lose interest quickly! lol Mention it and watch their reactions. Let 'em go if you have any doubt that they don't dig the fact that you have a child. If this love interest is gonna hang around for a while, you'll want everyone to get along.
Eh.. what am I talkin about... you're doing fine. Men love you on here, and I'm sure they do in "real life", as well. Don't get sensitive that you have kids- you're a great mom and your baby loves you. When it comes down to it, he's what counts- not the men. The real one will come along when you least expect him to! You know that's true!!
2006-12-06 14:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by royrox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I wasn't married (which I am) or if I was single (which I once was), I would date women who already had children. When I was single, I dated two different women who had children. They were typically more mature and settled than the singles. Neither of the two relationships worked out, but it wasn't because of the kids. As long as the women were honest (which in this caes they were), I was a little more at ease with them than the single women.
2006-12-06 08:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by Doug R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men will. My current husband and I got together when my oldest was 2 and my youngest just 4 months old. Been married almost 12 years.
2006-12-06 08:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by icddppl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would. I like kids, If the father isn't around than it's even better because the kids look up to you.
2006-12-06 08:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by James Dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would'nt. I like kids, but if we ended up having one together, I don't know if I could be fair and not end up treating the kids differently, since one is actually mine.
2006-12-06 08:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by dragondog1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf does! it's a package deal! I dated a guy with kids once, and it was kinda frustrating with two extra kids, especially dealing with the mom... but my kids don't see or talk to their dad's that often, so my bf is kinda like their dad.
2006-12-06 08:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by gonepostalinmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
If I was a male not way would I. I wouldn't want to be taking care of another mans child.
2006-12-06 09:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I would; and I have a couple of times. But, I like kids...some guys don't.
2006-12-06 08:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have and I did'nt dig it , fighting with babies daddy gets old and i was always afraid of pregnency , i don't want kids till I am married and $$ secure
2006-12-06 08:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋