I am pregnant & nervous about EVERYTHING! especially labor & delivering!?

Question

PLease reassure me thats its not that scary...i am so afraid of the unknown....labor scares me to death help!!!!

AND WHAT IF I HAVE THE BABY ON THE ROAD WHILE GOING TO HOSPITAL...

AFTER A BABY DONT YOU SWEAR YOU DONT WANT ANOTHER BECAUSE OF THE PAIN?

Answer 1

Some things are just not within your control. Happily, the vast majority of the "bad" things are so rare that they really aren't worth thinking about. The odds are very heavily in favor of a completely uneventful pregnancy and delivery. Try thinking about living happily ever after. You might be able to help that happen!

Answer 2

You need to listen less to others "war stories" and talk more to your doctor. Let him/her know of your fears and concerns. Write down all your questions so he/she can answer them at your office visits. Be honest and open with your doctor...they are your best source of information.

Labor is work. That's why they call it LABOR. Yes, you will have some pain. But it isn't anything you can't get through. We all have one way or another. Fear will make it worse...use your common sense....if it was really that bad then why are there so many kids around??? Going through all the stuff with being pregnant can be scary, but it is a natural part of life. And it is one of the most wonderful things you can go through. Some women really love being pregnant...some don't. Some have easy labors, some have c-sections. The bottom line is all about how healthy you and the baby are. Take a deep breath....in a few months this will be something you will chuckle over...trust me on that one. I was scared too, I think everyone is the first time. The trick to get over it is information from a great doctor!! Feel free to email me anytime...I'll help if I can, even if it is to vent a bit. Relax...it will all work out. Congratulations!!

Answer 3

First rule: Don't listen to all the horror stories from other women. Each pregnancy is different (even different pregnancies for the same women), so one woman's experience may have no effect on you. My first baby, I wasn't even sure I was having labor pains because it just felt like a muscle pulling a little. My third, I had taken Lamaze, and the breathing exercises actually work.
Best advice: Tell you doctor any problems you are having, even the nervousness you are experiencing. Talke to people who tend not to be excitable, take a few deep breaths, and look at pretty babies every chance you get.

Answer 4

You wont even notice much when you go into labor and things will be going on around you and everything else.You wont be scared. Trust me. I have had 3 babys all naturally and Im pregnant with my 4th. No time to be scared once you go into labor.(Delivering on the way to the hospital rarley happens. Dont worry about that. YOu are just adding unnecessary stress)

Answer 5

very unlikely that you'll have it on the way to the hospital. it's more likely (cuz i'm guessing this is your first) that you'll be in labor for hours and hours. okay...truthfully, i thought my pregnancy was more difficult than labor and delivery. i'll tell you my story and hopefully this will help put you at ease a little. my water suddenly broke when i was sitting on the couch. i wasn't experiencing any contractions (that i could feel anyway) yet. i took a shower (no bath!) and changed, got my things (and my husband) together and went to the hospital sitting on a towel. i arrived about an hour after my water had broken and was just starting to feel slight contractions, not really painful yet. the doctors checked me out, i was dilated about 3-4 cm, it was now just a waiting game. they asked me if i was going to have an epidural and i said i'd see how things went because i really didn't know. a couple of hours later, the anesthesiologist couldn't get to me fast enough. and, believe me, at that point you don't care about the needle. i don't even think i felt it at all. i was too busy trying to stay still and hug a pillow through my contractions while he did it. 15 minutes later, i was in absolute heaven. seriously, i don't think i've ever felt so relaxed. i hadn't advanced any at that point (i was still 3-4 cm) so my doc went home to get some rest. (it was about 2 am) about 3:30, i started to feel something again. it wasn't really painful, it was an off and on dull crampy feeling but i thought maybe something was wrong and asked the nurse what was going on. she said the initial dose of the epidural is larger than the continuous i.v. so it may have just been wearing down a little. she came back in 15 minutes later to check on me again. the pressure, or so i figured it to be later, was worse. she decided to check me out this time and found that the baby's head was, like, right there. so...she scrambled to get the doctors, change the bed around for delivery and called my doc back. he was back by 4. i started pushing, which wasn't bad at all. i really felt nothing, maybe just pressure. and i could still tell when i was having contractions but they didn't hurt. (this was all due to the epidural. get one, they're wonderful) i remembered not to push from my chest but to use my stomach muscles and push from my bottom. i was determined to do a good job, if you will. ideally you should get in 3 pushes, to a count of 10, per contraction. my son was born at 4:31. there was no one screaming at me to push harder or anything. my doctor pretty much let me do it on my own. he said to push whenever i felt the urge. and when i was delivering, i remember thinking, "gee, this isn't bad at all. i could do this again." then, right after i delivered i was so hopped up on adrenaline that i felt like i could run a marathon. but later, and the week or two after, i felt like i was hit by a truck. get a heating pad for your back, take it easy and you'll do great. it was the best experience of my life.

Answer 6

No doubt it hurts but you've got along way to go before that happens( I assume you aren't ready to go any day now) Concentrate on the time you have now and staying happy and healthy. It's too late now to back out so read up on it and go to classes etc. there are medications to help with the pain and tell your Dr. ahead of time. Maybe you will be lucky and have a short labor. Think positive!!

Answer 7

It really isn't that scary. I was as nevous as you if not more and come to find out it is all a big waste of all that precious energy that you are going to need for this coming baby! Relax while you can, you don't realize how much free time you have before a baby. You can't guess how the delivery will be so don't fret, and don't listen to people's horror stories because it's different for all of us! Just focus on how beautiful your little one is going to be and how you will welcome him/her into your life!

Answer 8

don't be nervous there will be plenty of experts around to tell you what you need to do....one really important thing they don't tell you is when they say "push" - then what you want to do is use the same muscles you would as if you were taking a crap - no one tells you this out loud though. don't worry they give you an enema while you are in labor to clean you out so there shouldn't be any accidents. also - no matter how bad the pain gets - once they place that baby in your arms, you will forget all of the pain! good luck!

Answer 9

Millions of other women deliver every year if it helps you should sign up for a free new to be mother's program. You can find out more information through a google search in your area, or by checking with your doctor. Sounds like lamaz might be helpful too.

Answer 10

After I gave birth one of my first thoughts was "I want to do that again!" It was amazing. And I was in labour for 3 days because the baby was stuck and I didn't take any pain medication.