Me and my bf have been together for 3 years, we are both excited about the pregnancy and we have been very close this whole time. These past couple weeks though he seems distant. He goes hunting every weekend and makes it seem like it's a big deal to stay home cause there is nothing to do( I know hanging with a pregnant chick isn't the most fun you can have..lol.) He isn't going hunting anymore because he knows how close I am. I didn't mind him going because I know he won't be able to do that again for sometime. He's trying to spend time with me I know but we just haven't been that close or intimate(which is partly my fault). Do you think he is just getting nervous about becoming a daddy or what?
2006-12-06 08:06:09 · 10 answers · asked by volcomgrly23 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There probably is a lot of fear going on...his whole world is changing and men are alot like kids. They don't like change. You need to talk to him. Snuggle on the couch and share some of your fears and see what he says. Maybe he is worried about what kind of father he will be. Maybe it would be easier and he would feel more secure if you two were married....Good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-06 08:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was closer to me as the pregnancy progressed; he was often more excited about having our son than I was. We were nesting as a couple.
From your question, it sounds like he isn't going hunting any more because you're so close . . . yet you said he does. Also, you can be a little more active to compromise with him. In fact you should be taking lots of walks to keep you in shape for labor. Labor is much harder if you're out of shape. If you walk with him, you two can swing hands and talk about the coming baby.
As a mother, I'm here to tell you that pregnancy is the easy part of raising a child. Right now put it on yourself to be close, and have sexual intercourse for two very good reasons: it makes him feel close to you and it softens your cervix (think of it as nature's help for labor induction when the time is right; sex won't make you go into early labor). Show him affection, have him feel like this is a partnership, because in that labor and delivery room? You will need him more than you have before.
Last thing; ask him if he has been considering getting married. You've been together three years, and it might be something he's afraid to bring up to you because maybe you're afraid of it, or he's said before he's afraid of it. If he wants to, then go get married this week at the County Clerk's office. Have a huge reception to celebrate and then get ready for your coming baby.
2006-12-06 08:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jess B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah becoming a dad is a big deal for them not like us we just become a mom and we know what to do. I know that things will get better once they see theyre little one. I think they are just not as interested through some of the pregnancy because they dont know what were feeling were carrying it, not them. Once the baby arrives they too feel like they are left out for one you are always dealing with the baby and feeding so they feel left out from you and being able to feed the baby if your beastfeeding. They can be sensitive, men like alot of our attention believe it or not. So try to spend time with your man when baby is sleeping and let him help as much as possible. Your main focus will be that baby and that makes it hard for them. hope this hepls im a mommy with a hubby so i do know what im talking about.Take care.
2006-12-06 08:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With both of my pregnancies my husband got a little distant towards the end and I think it might have something to do with lack of sex and nerves about the huge changes that about to take place in your lives maybe you should ask him if he is worried about the baby coming tell him you will understand if he is. It still might not change but that depends on how open he has been with you in the past.
2006-12-06 08:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys do this toward the end of a pregnancy of their first child , Because the fact of being a dad is coming closer and closer , and its becoming more real ....
2016-05-23 01:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats exactly how i am now being a father to a 2month old, i seem very distant from my girlfriend. i know we rushed into things but this must had been Gods plans. we are both 19 and in college. I love my son and girlfriend, but i havent been the most affectionate or loving boyfriend to her. it just feels wierd, i havent kissed her in 2 months. I feel bad but its a phase i know it.
2006-12-06 08:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by emo_rox12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are saying it is partly your fault you haven't been intimate? A man may mistake a decline in your sex drive as a lack of interest in him and a lack of interest in your relationship.
Sounds like you need to put out, honey!
Good luck! :)
2006-12-06 08:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting nervous. It is normal, try to have a nice romantic night with him. Some men think pregnancy is beautiful especailly if it is there wife!
2006-12-06 08:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by nicsgirlus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are like that...they are afraid of hurting youor the baby...if he's going to be in the delivery room...don't let him look at the head crowning...that turns them off really quickly for when you can resume your sex life...trust me I know.
2006-12-06 08:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes some men get nervouse of becoming first time dadies.
2006-12-06 08:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋