i JUST HAD A STILLBORN BABY IN OCTOBER AND I DONT WANT ANY MORE CHILDREN BUT MY MATE DOES WHAT DO I DO?

Answer 1

You need time, you may change your mind.

Answer 2

I wouldn't make huge decisions after what you've just been through. You will be going through the grieving process at the moment after losing your child.

I'd use the contraceptive pill for a few months then talk again with your partner about what you both want. If you still feel so strongly about never ever having another child and he feels sure he wants one maybe your relationship wont work as youd originally hoped.

I'm so very sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you. Give yourself time to grieve and time to start some sort of healing before making the final decision.

Karma.
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Answer 3

I am sorry for your loss. You have not had enough time to grieve for your child. Give yourself some time before making that decision. Let your mate know that you cannot make that decision right now. If you can get counseling or join a group for people that have lost a baby then do so. It helps when you are around people that have been through it and are healing.

Answer 4

First of all I'm sorry to hear that. Second you have to be honest with him because he deserves that. If this is something that you're 100% sure about then give him other options such as adoption & getting a surrogate. If you don't want children at all then let him know how the miscarriage affected you and explain to him that that's the reason you don't want children. Honesty is the best policy.

Answer 5

first of all i am so sorry to hear of your loss that has to be the worst thing in the world the loss of a child.I'm sorry.OK it's December and you lost your child in October that is only 2months so you are still in the grieving which is so understandable you may not want to have another child now but that could change in the next few years,maybe never.I say give yourself time to grieve and heal from your pain you will know when the time comes if you want another child and explain this to your mate.again you have my deepest sympathy sweetie.

Answer 6

Instead of trying to make a decision of "yes, try to have another child" or "no, won't try again," why don't you both give yourselves some time to mourn your loss. When you feel ready to discuss the subject then take time & talk about it DON'T fight about it. Hopefully, you & your mate will be understanding of each other & make this decision together whatever it is. Condolences for such a loss, words are very inadequate. Peace.

Answer 7

Sorry for your loss. This is the time you need to sit down and have an open conversation with your mate. Explain your feelings and try to help him understand where you're coming from.

Remember it is your body and you should do what makes you comfortable, not what someone else wants. Take some time to decide is that is what you really want and then decide. If he gives you grief, time to find another mate.

Take care of yourself.

Answer 8

I'm sorry about that...give yourself time to heal...maybe some time down the road you will change your mind and want to try again. Make sure to get yourself into a counsellor to help you deal with your loss

Answer 9

wait give yourself some time to grieve you should probably get some couples counseling that has to so tramatic on your life and marriage .you never know what the Lord has in store for you in the future you may change your mind. I hope it works out for you

Answer 10

You should get counseling instead of asking a bunch of anonymous internet surfers such complicated questions about your personal life.

Answer 11

Consider adoption, divorce or councelling - one of them has to help.

Sorry to hear about you losing a child, that's tough. Good luck.