my and i got seperated for 6 months because i found out she's been lying to me about what she does when she's gone come to find out she's been messing round with crackheads she keeps calling me saying she still loves me but now its like she wontcome see me i dont know where she is so i cant go to her and im tired of her calling me crying and hanging up what did i do wrong i mean i did all the cooking and cleaning etc.... so she wouldnt have to worry bout that kind of stuff we never even had real argument what went wrong is it me do women not like good men anymore i never even had sex till i met her someone tell me what i did wrong because im real tired of the sadness and tears coming down my face out of the blue
2006-12-06 07:40:30 · 12 answers · asked by darkdragonknight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Man I hear ya!! Im going through something similar except I know where she is.. Sounds like your wife may have a drug issue.. This may have nothing to do with you.. Your wife simply has an addiction. if she has a car with her call the police and tell them your car has been missing and you'll prob find your wife. My sister has had that problem with her bf. he has serious drug issues and goes missing for days. so that is what she does call the police.
How long have you been married. If you have seperated for 6 months the only thing you can do is file for divorce. Filing is very different then actually going thru with it. Scare her. tell her your tired of waiting and you need to get on with your life. Tell her you love her and would like more then anything to make the relationship work but you cant do it alone she needs to be apart of it. She needs help. get counseling , also get her into rehab if its drugs.
2006-12-06 08:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by money_maker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't do anything wrong because, it sounds like you've been putting more into the relationship than she has. And not only that, but her actions have severed your trust in her while you do everything you can to please her. Well in this case, it seems that you are more upset with her than happy, and it seems like the happiness has gone. Try to realize a few things and stand up for yourself and move on, because you are saddened and being mistreated by her which isn't what marriage is all about. Perhaps you can find real love elsewhere.
2006-12-06 16:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Verie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not in control of what she is doing anymore. The drugs are doing the thinking for her. She calls you when she comes down. That is her way of reaching out to you. She has to realize that she needs help and want it bad enough to do something about it. You can't do it for her. Just let her know that you're there for her (as a friend) when she wants to come clean. But that shouldn't stop you from living your life, Get out there and date. If it's meant to be, then love will find a way. Love means wanting the very best for someone whether you're the very best for them or not.
2006-12-06 16:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. She is going through something all her own. The best thing for you to do is not answer her calls anymore and move on. I know it is hard to do but if she is hanging around the people you described, that isn't healthy. You sound like a great person. Find someone that will appreicate you for you. It may take time, but just be patient! GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-06 15:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by lyb_72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, have you ever heard of Punctuation?
Sounds to me like the only thing that you did wrong is marry the wrong woman. I doubt that she will change her ways. If you stay married to her, and she is sleeping with crackheads, then whats to say that she won't bring some deadly disease like AIDS home to you?
Look she is not going to change, so you need to decide if you can still be married to her when she makes these choices. If you decide to stay married, you have to accept her behavior.
2006-12-06 15:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one, If she keeps messing around and lying to you then theres no TRUST between the both of you. If she can't handle the relationship that the two of you have built and she keeps hiding things from you then you need to leave her alone or tell her to leave you alone, Good Luck
2006-12-06 15:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All these long answer.... blah blah... divorce her. She is out with crackheads cheating on you. You even have to ask? If she is really with crackheads it is only a matter of time till she gets HIV anyway.
2006-12-06 16:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Just trying to help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want a man to be the man. I don't mean a jerk I just mean a man. If you did everything for her to make her life easier you pretty much gave her permission to do whatever she wanted because you only wanted to make things easy for her. You need to stand your ground. You need to stop taking her calls. You need to not fall for her crap because she will continue to use you until you take a stand. Go out and have some fun and forget her.
2006-12-06 15:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself the question: Are you better of with or without her? Therein lies the answer. She is avoiding you and making you miserable. Unless she changes, simply change the phone number, file for divorce and get on with your life.
2006-12-06 15:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by drg20202004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong.Sounds like she is playing games and it seems that you didn't know who she was when you married her. Let her be, don't worry about her for now. If she really needed your help she would tell you where she is.
2006-12-06 15:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Princesa2dy4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋