Hi! I am a very passive person. I am a total pushover as well. I sacrifice alot of who I am because I am afraid of hurting someone elses feelings and I am just afraid to show who I am completely. I know deep down inside I am tough, lively, and I got bounds. But, how do I show this side of me? I though being the "nice" girl would win me friends, but it doesn't work! I am tired of feeling stressed and full of low self-esteem. HELP!
2006-12-06 07:38:33 · 11 answers · asked by southernsweetheartt24 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You must be a Pisces, just try to find friends like yourself and remember you can't get along with everyone.
2006-12-06 07:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know i was like you a push over and i always let people get to me, but now that i see where things are going in this world and how people don't give a crap about how you feel or what you want for you're self, i have learned to stick up for myself and speak my mind and its made me a better person. I'm only a push over when it comes to my daughter. It seems before that i would let people say whatever they wanted not wanting to speak up or anything cause i knew what i had to say would hurt their feelings but i also sat there and let them talk about things that upset me, so i thought to myself why am i letting them do something to me that i didn't want to do to them. I'm telling you to stand up for yourself and speak your mind and stop being such a wuss don't be afraid to hurt someone feelings, the truth can hurt sometimes but its all worth it in the end!
2006-12-06 07:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by [[<3]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to show you are your own person is to be your own person.
What you said in your question was: you are a follower! Live with that fact and now change. Being your best self is the "ONLY" way to be respected. Don't be your best just around friends and when you need to. Be your best always, pretty soon it will be natural.
My experience tells me that people who come out and show that they are concerned about: attitude, common sense, saying what needs to be said and respect are usually the ones that used to be sacrificed, were afraid to show themselves and had low self esteem.
You are probably a born leader do something about it now!
2006-12-06 07:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by ggraves1724 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
passive is good but dont be to passive. i dont think you will hurt others feelings if you draw a line in the sand. it may tick some people off, but what about you. there are alot of people out there that will take advantage of a very passive person, therefore you need to stand up for your self. others can take care of thier own self. merry christmas.
2006-12-06 07:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Spaceballs
2006-12-06 07:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Russianator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to say no,,if they cant respect that,,they arent real friends so why would you care? I would never sacrifice myself except for my family if that. People wont respect you if you dont stand up for yourself,,you my as well put a sign on your forehead that says,,use & abuse my good nature.Get tough!
2006-12-06 07:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will like you unless you like yourself. So you have to take stock of what you like and don't like about yourself. When you have the list of what you don't like you need to decide to either do something about it or accept it.
2006-12-06 07:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by lfnxphile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do you and not care what anyones says. In the end you meet new friend and be happy.
2006-12-06 07:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre actually doing well Be yourself with the two closest ppl to you...for me its my husband and my brother....with them I can say anything....with others I have to walk on eggshells which sucks
2006-12-06 07:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find your self do things for you not for other ppl and reall friends will come
2006-12-06 07:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋