hi there, i'm hoping someone can help or at least offer me some advice. i'm 17 weeks pregnant and i'm not sure what is going on with my boyfriend, that is if we still are together because i haven't seen him since nov 8. i found out in oct that i'm pregnant and told my b/f that same month. we are both in our late 20's and have been together for almost 3 years. we have a good relationship and i love him very much but this pregnancy was unexpected as i was on the pill but also taking antibiotics for an infection which apparently contributed to the pill failing. anyways, the last time i heard from my b/f was in an email on nov 19th as we are both too scared to call each other now, which , i know is totally stupid. he hi there, i'm hoping someone can help or at least offer me some advice. i'm 17 weeks pregnant and i'm not sure what is going on with my boyfriend, that is if we still are together because i haven't seen him since nov 8. i found out in oct that i'm pregnant and told my b/f that same month. we are both in our late 20's and have been together for almost 3 years. we have a good relationship and i love him very much but this pregnancy was unexpected as i was on the pill but also taking antibiotics for an infection which apparently contributed to the pill failing. anyways, the last time i heard from my b/f was in an email on nov 19th as we are both too scared to call each other now, which , i know is totally stupid. he told he is scared to death which is to be expected but he also told me he wants things to work out between us and is not going to wallk out on me. he also told me he loves me and without me, he has nothing...he just doesn't know what to do about it and feels he's not ready to be a father. i didn't think i was ready either until i saw the baby on the ultrasound and hearing the baby's heart made me change my mind. i emailed him twice with the last one this past fri basically wanting to know what's going on with him, if he really does love me or if he's walking away...he hasn't reponded at all. i'm really scared and don't know what to do. i'm sorry if i'm rambling in this post but i need some advice. thank you
2006-12-06 07:35:34 · 8 answers · asked by J-doll 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hang in there...talk to his parents...he may come around he may not...maybe he needs time to process the fact that he's going to be a dad. OR phone him and ask him what his problem is...you are pregnant..is he going to be around?
2006-12-06 08:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen If he told that he loves you and that he wasn't going to walk out on you, that means not to worry just give him some time maybe that's why he hasn't come around. This is pregnacy was a surprise for both of you. My advise is to you is give him time. He will come around. He needs to think about how you guys are going to handle becaming parents.
Once that baby is born you just know that every thing is going to be alright. Trusty me this same thing happend to me. Now I have a pretty little girl and i dont regret having her. My baby is the greatest thing that ever happed to me.
Do not get an abortion, if you are thinking about it (maybe). That is murder and the biggest sin you can commit. God send you that baby for a reason.
If he doesn't want to help you turn to your closes friends and family for support.
Good luck ;)
2006-12-06 15:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Maria M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
best option just go on with life maybe he'll work out in his head his emotions.... maybe he won't. Don't just sit around depressed waiting on him to get yourself in order. Sounds to me he has already made up his mind. By his late 20's he should not have needed more then a day or two to decide to stick with you. He's already missing doctors appointments ultrasounds i would say he has choose to not be a Dad. You are causing undo stress on yourself your can't force him to care and be there. Just let him know you want a family if he don't just get your kids child support.
2006-12-06 15:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he needs to grow up and accept responsibility for what he helped make. Anytime you have sex you run the risk of pregnancy if he didnt want to take that chance he should have kept his pants zipped. Get him on child support fast while you know whwere he is cause he might skip out on you I wouldnt try to keep the relationship going if he really loved you he wouldnt be making you do this basically alone.
2006-12-06 15:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your little one, I hope you have some friends or family that is going to help you and support you emotionally. It doesn't seem like your bf is going to be around, since he just stopped talking to you. I hope he comes around, but if he doesn't remember you can do this, be strong. Your little one will change your life and their love will be greater than any ones!!
2006-12-06 15:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by I heart pineapple soda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety hang in there, try calling and keep emailing him, talk to his family maybe they can help talk to him. You can do this and if he does love you he jsut needs time to clear his mind. Try sending a scanned picture os hte ultra sound to him in the email maybe that will halp a little. Hope it all works out for you.
If you want to talk more about this or jsut need to get htis off your chest my email is prsdestinysangel@yahoo
2006-12-06 15:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient hun, he'll come around in time....It might even be when the baby is born before he does..........Somtimes it's a
shocker....but a blessing too......Be strong ..... my prayers go out to both of you and your baby to come.
2006-12-06 15:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THANK YOU FOR NOT PUNISHING THE CHILD FOR WHAT
YOU TWO DECIDED TO DO WITH YOUR BODIES!
THANK GOD THERE ARE WOMEN OUT THERE
WHO DONT WANT TO STOP THE HEART BEAT
OF A DEVELOPING CHILD!!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!
BTW YOUR CHILD WILL THANK YOU TOO
2006-12-07 17:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bijorn the Viking 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋