does my partner love me?

Question

i get the feeling my partner doesn't love me the way that i love him, he never tells me he loves me unless im depressed he doen't show me much affection i just get the feeling he wants to be some where else

Answer 1

Men express love in different ways than we do. They are not necessarily vocal about their affection. If he's with you, he has good reason to be.

Answer 2

It is possible that he's done something (or several somethings) that he's too embarrassed to tell you about.

People stop communicating when they have secrets.

If that's the case then there's no easy way out of this, you have to get him to tell you what it is. "Have you done something you don't want me to know about?"

There will be explosions, just be persistent. But if you do this you must not react badly to what he says. If says he's been sh*gging sheep, just accept it and acknowledge it, find out if there's anything worse. Once you've got it all then decide what you want to do about it.

There's always the possibility that you being too needy, give yourself an honest appraisal before you start trying to dig for something that might not be there.

Answer 3

People show love in different ways; you may have come from a family that are openly affectionate with each other; for you that is the norm.
His family may be reluctant to show each other how they feel.

If you are unsure of his feelings for you, what else do you have to go on? Does he neglect you? Does he leave you alone a lot? Can you talk to each other?

Why not simply ask him? He may not ever be able to say the words "I love you".
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you - the fact that he's kind to you when you feel low is encouraging. Just ask him. Or are you afraid of the answer?

Answer 4

I think that is a really stupid q-stion because we dont know you or your man and we cant tell even if we did know you two.

Maybe he isnt just the type that says "i love you" all the time?

Put it on the other way: if he did say he loves you all the time, would if it feel special?

I had a boyfriend, and he said he loved me all the time, sure got me getting tired of it. Didnt feel special when he said it after a while..

I think the best you can do is to talk to him about how u feel.
No point sitting on the net listening to what we ppl think..

Answer 5

I know how you feel, i was in a relationship, and it didn't matter how hard i tried, i couldn't shake the feeling that he didn't really wont to be with me.............it was strange, we have now parted. and it was for the best, didn't take him long and he is with someone else, so i really think the feelings i had were right. Can you not talk to him and tell him how you feel, perhaps that is the problem, sounds like you are a affectionate person, and that is what is lacking in your relationship........good luck and god bless

Answer 6

But does he do the little thing that SHOWS that he loves you? That's the most important thing! My boyfriend is not one to vocalize his feelings for me-but he is always showing me he loves me-and I have to admit I prefer that. Ther word 'Love' is used so loosely and easily by many-it's actions that speak louder than words.
Those actions could be things like a cup of tea/coffee in the morning,bringing you something he knows you like,saving an article from the paper for you as he knew you'd be interested-loads of little things that just show he is thinking of you even when you're apart.
But do talk to him-if only to put your mind to rest.

Answer 7

Thats like a description of my boyfriend! Though I know he truly loves me. I ended it with him a few months ago because, we had been together almost a year, he hadnt told me he loved me, he made me feel like I wasnt wanted but I couldnt end it because there was so much chemistry between us and we got on so well. I decided I couldnt be with someone that didnt love me, or at least hadnt told me they loved me so I finished with him. It was a really tough decision but we stayed friends by text but then it faded. I met someone else and told my ex about my new fella. It didnt work out with my new fella and I started texting my ex again, .. We met up for a chat & he begged me to go back with him, he promised me he'd change and make me feel more wanted. We are now back together and we was laughing at something on the telly and he said, 'oh, he's as bad as me isnt he?', and I said, no because he loves her'. This obviously really played on his mind and a couple of nights later we was in bed, he turned the lights off and suddenly said, 'you are wrong about me not loving you'. This was his way of telling me he loves me, for some reason he finds it difficult to look me in the face and tell me, he tells me by text, but I know he does truly love me.

Answer 8

Your partner seems to be extremely undemonstrative.
He needs to realise that women need affection, and to be told that they are loved.
Most men are so arrogant (though we rarely admit it) that we ASSUME we are loved.
If he cannot learn to show and share affection towards you the problem is with him.
Maybe you need to challenge him directly on this issue. If he shows no inclination to change you then have to decide if it worth your while to continue in the relationship.

Answer 9

Men express love in different ways..My man barely ever says he loves me and it bothered me at first. Until I talked to him. YOu must talk to him. You have the right to know how he feels about you. Does he treat you nice? is he with you pretty much everyday? does he buy you things? he may just have problems saying stuff like that

Answer 10

I have a partner that says it all the time & I now think its an habit.