I made my wife go to her room for 4 hours for slapping me. Was I within my rights as a husbnand?

Question

My wife got upset at me yesterday afternoon and I told her she needed to calm down but instead she slapped me in the face. I told her that she is never ever to slap a man and that she was to go to her room for 4 hours. I grabbed her hand and led her into the room and to the bed. I told her I want you to think about why what you did was wrong and why you should not do it and after 4 hours I will open the door and you can come out. Well, she opened the door and came out in the hallway and I asked what she was doing and she said "going to the bathroom" and I told her "no you aren't, get back in that room". Well she did and I closed the door again and she was just pouting saying I had no right to do this to her yada, yada, yada. I feel as head of the house I need to enforce the rules. Was I wrong here?

Answer 1

my husband punishes my by giving it to me in the butt

Answer 2

Jason, you don't know just how wrong you were. Granted she was wrong for hitting you but she isn't your child and you had no reason to treat her like a child instead of an adult. You don't like the fact th at she slapped you but you had no right to put her in a room for 4 hours with even being allowed to go to the bathroom. Yeah, the bible states that the man is the head of the house but it also states that you love your wife as you love the LORD. You should have treated her as your equal and not your child. What you did was lower her self esteem, self-worth, and self-respect for herself as well as you. You both need to apologize to one another and work things out but don't ever lock your wife in a room again thats just wrong and mean and harsh not to mention degrading and disrespectful.

Answer 3

Even tho her behaviour was not acceptable, you have NO RIGHT punishing her any way shape or form.. She is not a child and you the parent... What on earth are you thinking?????
She was wrong and should have apologized but that is it...
You need to get off your high horse and get a grip.
You have issues and you need to deal with them.
Perhaps you provoke her and she couldn't.t take it anymore. You sound like a bully who thinks like he can do anything he pleases.
You are a man and should not act like you are a warden....
I would have fought you all the way, if you even touched me.
I would also call the police and have your charged with forcible confinement.... you had better be careful , because you could be in big trouble if she calls the police...and if I were her, I would.... Then they will be putting you in a room and locking the door.....
and then you would know how unacceptable your behaviour really is... Bully!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Being the head of your home does not mean disrespect. I love my husband to death but I am neither a child nor a slave. He is the head of our household and I submit by choice. I will not submit if I am being disrespected nor will I disrespect him. As I am sure you were tought as a child respect is not given but earned. Now as far as your wife slapping you, she was wrong and you were right in telling her that what she did is unacceptable but returning to childish behavior by putting her in her room was unnacceptable as well. You are both adults and should have rules written stating what is appropriate and unappropriate for your relationship. In the end, it's just the two of you, and even though i've written all this, your relationship is you and your wives business not everyone else's and prayer (together) is the answer, not man. We have issues ourselves and may give harmful advice that could be avoided.

God Bless.

Answer 5

Are you her dad or her husband? Did she slap you because you patronized her...not that, that would make it okay.
You must have done something pretty HARSH to piss her off. Did you take 4 hours of a time out to THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU DID TO PISS HER OFF? I get the feeling you might be a little bit of a control freak. Head of the House? are you the warden? A relationship generally involves two people. Probably with different feelings. You both seem to need Counseling.

Answer 6

OMG, you are an idiot. Do you really think that this behavior of yours will get her respect? Make no mistake, you have no power. ANd without her respect for you, as a person and the "Head of household", you really have NOTHING. Now, do i think it was right for her to raise a hand to you? Absolutely not. It is immature and shows a lack of communication skill to use violence. However, your response is even more immature and shows that you have an inflated measure of your own worth. Take a look inside and decide what you want from the woman you chose as your life partner---obedience, or love.

Answer 7

I do not think it was right of you, even as head of household, to treat your wife (your equal partner in life) like a 5 year old child. I'm surprised she didn't just take the car and leave. I would have, but then again, I never would slap my husband either. Physical abuse is never justified. Perhaps the two of you should try couseling to gain perspective and balance in the relationship.

Answer 8

First of all you all need serious counseling. No one should be hitting anyone.
You have no right to treat her as a child. You are all equal in the eyes of God and the law.
If I were her I would have used the four hours constructively, packing my things, calling the police and my lawyer to freeze our assets, and arranging a U-haul to come get the rest of my things.
If you continue down this path, go ahead and see a lawyer, your marriage is doomed.

Answer 9

It was wrong for her to slap you but dude, you're her husband, not her dad. As she disrespected you by slapping you, you in-turn disrespected her by treating her like a child.

A good marriage is one of mutual respect and equality. You are not above her, nor she above you. When the slap happened, you should have first of all, make sure you kept your cool, then the both of you should have sat down and discussed this event and acted like adults.

When I read your posting, I asked myself "who the heck do you think you are?", but then I realized that you have this macho thing going and you acting like a big bad a-s-s at this point will only make things worse. Maybe she slapped you because deep down she felt you were not treating her with respect either.

You may not agree with me, but I think you treated this all wrong and perhaps, you've even made her resent you more.

Answer 10

I had a similar problem with my children. Let me explain.

My son hit my daughter nothing big, but I exploded with the "You NEVER hit anyone" speech. He was punished and that was that. Then my daughter hit my son and I did the whole "You NEVER hit anyone" speech again but to her. What was interesting is that my wife told me she thought I was being too rough on our daughter and I shouldn't of punished her.

I explained to her that in my opinion its even more important that she learned NOT to hit. My sister used to think that since she was a girl she could hit. Well one day she hit the wrong person and they knock her front teeth out. It was funny that with all the years of hitting other people she never learned how to take a hit.

If a man hits some one he should be prepared to also get hit.
Why shouldn't this apply to women?

My father raised me to never hit a women, but to ALWAYS defend myself. If the sexes are to be treated equally then that includes hitting.

Answer 11

She is an idiot for staying in her room because you told her to. You are not her father and she is not a child. If she was physically scared of you then she should have gone out the window and left. I would not allow anyone to treat me like that. I am grown. Why did you get married in the first place if you think that a woman is not your equal?