As a single guy I was free to do as I wished but now I'm married my sole role in life is to be a chauffeur and gofer and general dogs body for women (Wife and daughters) and to accept that every thing that goes wrong is due to the male sex. I pity guys with more than one wife!!!!!!
2006-12-06 07:26:58 · 15 answers · asked by ianinstantservice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound very unhappy with your life and that makes me sad. Perhaps you should get into marriage and family counseling if you are being treated this miserably! Or perhaps you are overreacting...you're married with children--you will be expected to help out.
2006-12-06 07:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by gigi_victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You clearly have a bad attitude about marriage. Only problem is you are not looking at this from a position of power.
We all have two choices about how we feel about anything. We can accept if because the end result is worth it or we can rant and rave about the injustice but do nothing about it.
When a man marries there is one thing he must always understand. He must compromise to some extent just as much as she does. However if we do all the compromising we soon feel the way you do. You are not standing up for you.....and in a house full of women you really do need to do that.
The more of yourself you turn over the more they will take.
So what do you do about it? Well at any point you feel you are being put upon.....instead of just doing it....stop and tell them what you will do. Tell your wife in words and action that you don't need a house full of mommies to run your life. You love them all but you do not have to give up yourself for the.
There will always be compromise but how you do it is what counts. You are experiencing what every man does when they first marry. And it seems to us that it is always one way.
But women must learn...as we do....that it is a two way street.
Is it easy. Hell no. But the more you begin to stand up for you the less they will try to take advantage. But you must understand in doing so that responsibility comes with it. You must be responsible in what you do in that what ever you do it is for the family and not just for you. And insist it be that way on their side also.
2006-12-06 07:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK my friend, you were obviously absent from a few classes of Guy Stuff 101. No biggie, but there's some important info you missed. Here it is: GROW A PAIR. Balls that is. If you act like a doormat, don't whine when you get treated like one. Learn to say "no" once in a while so that your family stop taking you for granted and see your kindness as a quality. As for blaming men for everything, women do that, don't be so sensitive, 'k? Now, go be a man. Women actually appreciate masculinity you know - as long as you don't go too far and act like a macho asshole!
2006-12-07 11:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.Wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice to you will be to get some proffessional counceling. Things that bother us do not tend to dissipate by themselves, you should be actively seeking a way to solve this problem. If that's a $ issue, think what's more valuable: $ or your own health and well-being?
And if you just wind off your bad mood by moaning at forums, then you do not really want to solve it and it's not really a problem. Sometimes it's just a matter of switching your negative attitude to positive one. Remind yourself of positive traits of your life etc. Start being creative, invent new answers to bossing, consider it a checkmate party or some other game. There are lots of solutions if you start looking for them.
Otherwise what's the point of cooking yourself in your own constant bad mood?
2006-12-06 07:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sattva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are there no positives in your marriage? Do you not get anything out of it? If it is that bad then I suggest you go to marriage counselling and sort it out. Marriage is not always a bundle of laughs and it needs a lot of work on a regular basis. It may be that you are just going through a "downer" time (I have those myself!) but if you feel like this all the time then do something about it and try to make it better for all of you.
2006-12-06 07:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if you are in love with your wife.
Have you tried talking to your wife and telling her how you feel?
Have you tried talking to a professional about the way you feel?
With a family comes responsibility but it sounds like there is something deeper than lack of wanting family responsibility. It sounds like you don't feel respected in your home.
I hope you don't just sit back and let your marriage fall apart.
2006-12-06 07:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because women are inferior, and like to put blokes down to try to disguise this. If you give them the best possible answer to a bloody stupid question, all they can do is go back to a question you've already answered. a clever bloke will let her have her way, and be content with the inner knolledge that he has let her win so he can have his tea made and not be banned from sex, Knowing your right and letting them think they've won shows your more intelligent. Trust me, full tummy & empty nadds is best.
2006-12-06 08:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You chose to get married and have kids. Deal with it. I don't boss my husband around, and he don't boss me around. We joke that I'm the boss one day, he's the boss the next, but in all honesty, we are both the boss in our marriage. We both sacrifice for each other AND our kids. I don't want to get up at 4:00 every morning and make his lunch, but he works hard to give me and our kids what we need, so I do it. I'm sure that he don't always want to rub my feet for me, but I take care of him, so he does it. Marriage is give and take, not give or take. GROW UP AND DEAL :)
2006-12-06 07:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr poor you
I bet you have all your washing done, you never have to cook a meal or clean up.....
Women don't mean any harm they just moan for nothing....
Bet your loved lots by every female in your life and that they couldnt function without you
2006-12-06 07:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats marriage for you. if you ask me you shouldn't of done it. you can love someone and want to be with them for the rest of your lift but you don't need a piece of paper to say you love them. getting married makes them think they can boss you as its not as easy to get out of.
2006-12-06 07:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by steph_wright48 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋