In West Virginia, the state that I live in, my husband wants full custody of his son, but from what I have heard from lawyers is that it is next to impossible for the man to get full custody of his child.
His mom is a dead beat, mooching off of welfare and medicaid when she is quite capable of getting a job. Her and her husband live in a trailor that is filthy and half way falling apart, they are running a guttering cleaning business a couple of months out of the year that she has told me that they do not have a business license for. My step son likes being with his mother because she lets him go outside by himself, play video games all day, and basically anything else that he wants to do as long as she doesn't have to deal with him. She has not had a stable job for the past 5 years. She makes everyone feel sorry for her so that they give her things. People she doesn't even know give her cars, computers and more! Please help me because I am afraid that my stepson will grow up like her
2006-12-06 07:05:09 · 10 answers · asked by Proud Mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is 4 and they bought the trailor with no floor boards in it, and I used to live in a trailor myself so it is nothing against people who live in trailors
2006-12-06 07:27:40 · update #1
Both of them don't have jobs, and they have 3 vehicles, so why not get a job?
2006-12-06 07:32:45 · update #2
That is both the mother and her husband don't have jobs. Myself and his father have jobs.
2006-12-06 07:34:12 · update #3
Proving a mother (or father for that matter) can be hard to. If your husband is really concerned and her living conditions and/or situations, then he should have CPS investigate. They would be better able to assess the home and the childs welfare. Speaking of welfare, if she is taking advantage of the system, report her.
How does the child act when he is home with his father? Does he talk poorly of his mother and/or his homelife with her? The best thing you can do is to keep a journal of all the "bad" things you witness. Then if you go to court you have some documentation to go on.
2006-12-06 07:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in WV as well, an it is hard to get custody from a mother.. Just because she lives on welfar means nothing to the state to many are and still have thier children... And just because she is lazy means nothing and just because she lets her son play video games and paly outside means nothing... have you seen where some people live with children... You could call CPS and see what they say when they home view her... and you would have to have proof not her word about the buisness.... and worse that would be is a fine.... so unless she is abusing the child.... or neglecting him by not feeding him,, not keeping him clean... there really is nothing you can do..
2006-12-06 07:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult for the father to win custody but if you can prove the child is in danger or she is negelctful in some way that might help. I would focus on her work history, her illegal business, the condition of the house they live in. Have CPS go and investigate the living conditions of your step-son. Does she have food in the house, heat and air? these things can be used against her. How does she treat him or talk to him. Does she make him go to school? I would start writing everything down that she does or doesn't do with dates in a notebook so you can use that when you go to court. Get a good lawyer and don't give up.
2006-12-06 07:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not find any reference for you in West Virginia that step mother was granted custody of step child. You may have a chance but then you would have to prove that the father is unfit to raise child and most likely that grand parents are not fit either. What about mother of the child and her family? In West Virginia: W. Va. Code 48-2-15 (1995) (granting visitation to interested third party on divorce of parents). Honaker v. Burnside, 182 W. Va. 448, 388 S.E.2d 322 (1989) (court may grant visitation to stepparent on showing of best interests of child).
2006-12-06 08:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off someone living in a trailor house isn't scum beneath your feet. You more than likely see the trailor as filty as its how you see them. Trailors fall apart alot faster than a house and more maintenance. Going outside by himself makes me wonder how old he really is? There could be a reason why she hasn't had a stable job for that long! Especially since some people think so poorly of her since she lives in a trailor. Cars are given to her wow, she must weave a wonderful story. Then again maybe they know more and see she is trying harder than what you think she is!! Computers well I gave away my old computer to a friend less fortunate too. And I have given away a car to someone who needed one.
2006-12-06 07:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Franchesca 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well How old is your step Son? If he is under 13 you have a better chance at getting him,if he is over 13 he can choose which parent he wants to stay with.You can go ask your Step sons neighbors about his mom being unfit and have them write letters or even take pictures for you.Go to his school also and get some information from his Teacher is he doing his homwork or is his mom just saying who cares if you have home work.Good Luck
2006-12-06 07:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For as much as it sucks...as long as he isn't being abused...or harmed in anyway...and she's not abusing drugs....there's not alot you can do. (Remember....verbal abuse is also, abuse...if she screams at him or anything like that)......
Do the best you can in teaching this young man the values of life...hoping that he learns from his experiences and influences at your house....
If he's asking to live with you.....contact a guardian adlitim that will speak to the boy, and everyone else involved and advise the courts what is in the best interest of the child.
2006-12-06 07:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically as a results of fact she isn't working and residing along with her dad and mom does no longer make her an undeserving mom. Being bipolar does no longer make every person undeserving. i think of his terrific guess could be to objective for joint custody. If he can practice she is abusive and that he fears for the youngster which will help. tell him to bypass and make useful he's paying newborn help. it quite is going to bypass an prolonged thank you to coach he's a competent dad if she does no longer could document for help herself. make useful he gets a criminal professional that makes a speciality of family regulation quite in fathers rights.
2016-10-17 21:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's living in conditions like that, call Child Services.
2006-12-06 07:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to provide evidence in court of neglect or abuse.
2006-12-06 07:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋