i HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN FOR THE PAST 10 YEARS, HE WORKED NIGHTS THAT WHOLE TIME, AND I FOUND MYSELF IN THE COMFORT OF ANOTHER MANS ARMS AT NIGHT FOR THE PAST 5 YEARS. nOW IVE MADE THE LEAP TO KICK OUT THE 10 YEAR AND LIVE WITH THE 5 YEAR PART TIMER, HE WAS ALL HELPFUL FOR THE FIRST TWO WEEKS NOW, HE JUST WATCHES TV AND EATS, DOESN'T HELP MUCH, DID I SCREW UP?
2006-12-06 06:56:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did the 10 year help out? if you didn't love him then you should have kicked him out? Maybe you and the 5yr just need sometime to get use to living together. Does he have a job? Talk to him and ask for some help. If he refuses then kick him out and just do it yourself. It is usually easier that way anyway.
2006-12-06 07:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting played. You were playing as well. You were using this guy just like he was using you. Now that you actually need something from each other besides sex, you realize that you don't have anything else in common.
I don't know if your husband did anything terrible besides work nights and not marry you.
I sincerely hope you don't feel very good about what you've done. Your kids probably hate you, their father probably hates you, and most of the people on Yahoo! answers probably do too.
YES. You screwed up. And now you have to live with it.
2006-12-06 15:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem was that you were seeing the romantic, loving side of Mr. 5 year, not the whole picture. I think you need to kick out Mr. 5 year and plead for Mr. 10 year to come back.
2006-12-06 15:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that when you are cheating and you end up with the "other" manl, the relationship isn't off to a good and healthy start as it is. I have rarely heard that the affairs end up working out in the end. If you really want this other guy, then try talking to him, otherwise I would suggest you dropping him too and getting your act together first before hooking up with someone new.
2006-12-06 15:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the part timer got what he wanted which was nookie, of course the yare gonna be helpful the few weeks, now that he got what he wanted he doesdn't see a point in trying to impress you anymore, what you needed to do was tell the 10 year guy to find a day job cause he seemed more responsible.
2006-12-06 15:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by sillyme24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm yup! he's doing the same thing he's been doing for the past 5yrs...being a part timer. I can bet too that the 10yr guy isn't going to take you back either, especially if you told him about 5yr man
2006-12-06 14:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yep it sounds like you cheated on the father of your children.
If you wanted company you should have got a dog. It would be doing the same thing as the new guy and you would still have the hard working man there supporting you.
2006-12-06 15:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by f1antasyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 year guy probably doesn't respect you - he knows you're a cheater - i would get rid of them both & start a clean slate - no men for a while & no cheating - try to do a relationship the right way next time.
2006-12-06 15:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts.You can tell the x that you made a mistake & maybe he can come home & put the other guy out.
2006-12-06 14:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you found out that the grass isn't always greener on the other side!!
2006-12-06 15:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋