i am staying with a friend right now, the father of the child stays with his mother (as we are both pretty young) and she does not approve of me staying in her home...my step-dad kicked me out because of the situation...what can i do to get my own place ASAP?! i cannot apply for section 8, and i do have a "place to stay" here at my friend's but it is not a permanant home...i DO NOT want to stay in a shelter. im still in school and working on a job. if possible, could your research return something that will allow my fiance to move in with me also...thanks for the help in advance!
2006-12-06 06:54:43 · 40 answers · asked by not sure 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds like you are trying to get through things, but honestly you need to find a permanent place you can call home before that baby comes along. You talk about your step-dad kicking you out but how is your mom with all of this or your dad? Are either of them willing to help? You can get into an apartment with a co-signer and that might be an option for you. I would definitely go down to the social services department in your area so you can get on assistance, both medical and financial right away so the baby's birth will be covered and you will have the means to take care of things when the baby comes along. It is just a matter of less than a year before you turn 18 and if everything works out by then you will have the means to get into a place in your own name. Prayerfully someone will help you out until then. My prayers are with you =)
2006-12-06 06:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what resources are availabe because I do not know where you live. You can try DVIS which is for women it is a shelter but they are excellent and they help you get on your feet and aren't too strict! Try a DHS office they have assistance programs for young adults ages 16-21 where they will place you in an apartment and help you get settled in and on your feet! You can also call 211 which will give you many more places to try. Why can't you apply for Sect 8? Try public housing or apartments in your are who are income based. The only problem with getting your own house is that you are 17......try dhs
2006-12-06 08:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by atchisons2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about where you live, but where I live all you have to do is go to the homeless shelter and stay there for about 2 weeks and then they find a nice apartment for you, that you pay next to nothing to live in, and they give you a box of groceries every month. There are so many programs out there depending on what state you live in, they will help you find a job, pay for your daycare. If I were you I would meet with someone at your local DHS office, they will be able to help you.
2006-12-06 08:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jen W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur situation is very familar to me. sound almost exactly, except for me it was by babys daddy that kicked me out. i dont know where you live. but even though u dont want to go to a shelter, maybe you should consider some. i stayed at good sheperd. its a big house you get your own room and share a bathroom with one other room. how come you cant apply for section 8, is it a good reason because i know a program( i went through it) after 3 months of services with them you become elgibile to apply with section 8 through then, which takes like 4 months to be approved and then your set. you can email me if you want more info. trust me ive been there more then once and i can say now ive been in my apt for almost a year now. mekitty1@yahoo.com
2006-12-06 08:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by mekitty1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest problem that i have with this whole thing is that while you are running around frantic living from day to day. your boyfriend is on easy street living at home with mommy not going through any of what you are going through. the second problem i have is that you state that you want to find a place but you are then going to let him live with you. ask your yourself why, and then do you really think his mother is going to let him leave her house at 17. no she is not. you are still a minor and no one should be able to kick you out. pregnant or not. first i would go to my guidance counselor at school and see what she can do for me. you are not old enough to look for work and take care of a baby. you are still a MINOR. you cannot apply for section 8 becasue you are still 17. you cannot apply for an apartment because you are still 17. so either you can go to your counselor, or a catholic church. your boyfriends mother should have let you stay simply because you are a human being and you are carrying her grandchild. she is mean. therefore, you cannot expect that she is going to help you. if you do not have any other relatives that you can go to, then ask your counselor or an adult of whom you are staying with to help you sort all of this out. you need prenatal care and an ob/gyn doctor asap. once you get together (and you will) look twice at your boyfriend. he should be in the trenchs with you, not resting comfortably at his mom's hosue while you suffer. he is not really into you the way you are into him. you will survive this and you will come out on top. it may not look like it now, but you will i can assure you. peace
2006-12-06 07:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Phatbeatz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetie,
I know you are looking for a simple answer for a tough question. here is what will work. its up to you to decide if you want help or not.
First you need to report :
to the police dept- file a neglect report on your parents-(all of them) AND NON-SUPPORT
to social services and ask for temporary foster care
to your counselor at school and maybe GED out.
I think you are thinking your boyfriend is the most important thing to you right now but he isnt. Babe is.
a foster mom( like me) will help you both. once in the system you can get medicaid, so you can be healthy. A while later you and babe can emancipate or turn 18 . Then you will get section 8, Aid to familys with children (welfare)and food stamps. also at that point
the boyfriend can move in with you.
Good luck honey and find a nice social worker.
and a great foster mommie
2006-12-06 13:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be thankful your friend is helping you thats a good thing. Head up to social services and apply for food stamps and medicaid. Make sure you get to your appointments they are very important. Stay in school its the best thing for you and will help you make something of yourself. Next find a low cost housing, where they base your rent off of your income. Around here they are called "mouse houses" dont ask why i dont know. They have very nice appartments out there. Talk to your case worker at social services and see if they can direct you anywhere. If you have a community action center they might be able to help you with your first rent payments and security deposit. Call a local church see if they can help you at all. And if all else fails, enroll yourself in a maternity home for teens. They are out there and they are wonderful. GOODLUCK to you and i hope it all works out for you.
2006-12-06 07:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put down your pride and seek the option of going in a shelter there are places for pregnant teens to go.Stop worrying about the baby daddy place of residency and get you and that baby a place to stay then maybe later on down the line after you have gotten settled in to your own place you'll grow to appreciate all the work that you did for you and the baby and reflect on what is it that the daddy done for the contribution in the well being of his baby to be.
2006-12-06 08:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The biggest thing you can do is pray and ask for guidance. Also get into a local church and ask the pastor for help he may know of a place where you can rent a room from some one. Try going a income based apartment complex where they base on your income i dont know where you live but Concordrents.com has some nice apartments that are in good areas and income based and you can live with who ever you want maybe some one you trust will co sign with you on this Try the church dear
If you want to move you can come here I have an extra room :)
God bless and I will Pray for you
2006-12-06 07:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by Catie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm Your fiance needs to be as worried as you are. He also needs to be working on a job. Also I would go to local churches and ask if they can do anything for you. Also Dvack is a place for battered or neglected women that could maybe help you. Look at it on the internet. I donate clothes and child toys to this program and ope they can help you. Worry about you and the health of your child and be positive. Don't worry about moving in with the fiance as much as your worried right now for YOURSELF and the baby in you. I wish much luck and I don't know your name but i will pray for your situation. :)
2006-12-06 07:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Maynard3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋