I lie, i cheat, i balme stuff on other people, i use people i only meet up with friends when it suits me or if im getting something out of it. as long as im ok i dont give a **** about other people. I know its wrong but i never do anything to change my ways, i was well brought up, i was taught right from wrong and i went to church so why am i like this?
2006-12-06 06:44:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
because you chose to be like that, but its not to late to change
2006-12-06 06:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Blade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you are soooooo honest!! You know that you are behaving like a selfish git - and you seem a bit anxious about it. Why?? Do you think that eventually you will get what you give?? Don't worry so much, maybe you are a magic person and what goes around will never come around to you.
I used to be like you.... then love affairs, marriages, children, good, bad and awful times changed me. I'm a long way from being the best me I could be, but I know now that if I don't do what I know is the right thing to do I'll have to give up on the world being a lovely place full of good people.....and if I do that, then I'll really be lost..So, you may not get what you give (although don't be too sure) but if you don't give what you hope to get back then what kind of a world are you living in????????
2006-12-06 14:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by queenofspades 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you have a problem in that you don't seem to be able to conceive that you are hurting people's feelings. Or if you DO it doesn't mean anything to you because you can't empathise with them, As you say as long as your all right. This could be addressed by work with a therapist normally in this case somebody trained in cognitive behavioural therapy. CBT has a good track record and interlinks the 3 main aspects that you may need to work on ( thought feelings and behaviour.)
The same things with any disorder is how motivated are you to change how you are cos its pretty hard work.
It depends on how you want your future to be also, cos if you want an isolated life where everybody hates you, carry on!!
But i don't think so or you wouldn't have posted this..
All the best , Good luck.
2006-12-06 16:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by nitenurse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this. There is probably some underlining reason that you haven't faced yet. Until you open up to it there is little anyone can do to help you.
I think it would be nice if you changed your ways for the better or you will end up losing sooo much in life.
2006-12-09 14:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by linda_corby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know right from wrong and really want to change this see a therapist for the correct way to begin the process of changing the way you think. He/she will offer some books to read, I am sure about that. Take it from there...
2006-12-06 16:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dewy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere somebody or some experience made you believe that you are bad. Sometimes it is a defence mechanism to protect us from getting hurt again. To hurt before we are hurt. You are not a bad person. You've made a few wrong choices, but you are not bad. You are special and loved by a wonderful loving God. Stop believing the lie.
May God bless you and show you how much He loves you....
2006-12-07 01:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by oli4p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to humanity! Everyone is like this, but most become adept at hiding it as they grow older. This is human nature, to exploit whatever may be exploited for one's own benefit.
You are like this because this is how your nature most effectively advances its interests in the current systems. You do it because that is the way the world works (currently and historically, too). When the systems change to disallow such manipulation and inequality, then your nature will lead you (and all others) to follow more productive and fulfilling paths in best advancing your own interests.
2006-12-06 14:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You choose to be the way you are. There is one thing that stands in your way of changing and that is selfishness. When you conquer that then you will experience a total change of heart and see life through different eyes.
2006-12-06 14:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't learnt yet that if you carry on how you are you will be very lonely. Some people take longer than others. You obviously have a slight desire to change or you wouldn't wonder why you are how you are.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 14:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by allears 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One evening, an old Cherokee warrior told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
2006-12-08 08:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, my guess is you are just like alot of people your just seeing that you do and that is the first step to fixing it. But my guess is your teacher when you were little made it that way. Go to a reunion and see if the others are the same.
2006-12-06 14:48:12 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋