Go to the principal and threaten to go to the school board if the bullying does not stop. Make sure you get the names of the other kids who are involved and take them with you. Demand that the principal has a meeting with these kids and lets them know that if they are caught bullying that they will be punished. If you have already tried that route then go to the school board and explain that you don't believe that the principal and the teaching staff are doing their jobs at keeping your child safe..you can also go to the PTA and let them know that it may be happening to their children as well.
Keep documentation of any threats and injuries (take pictures) that your child is enduring, if he suffers physical injuries you can go to the police and file charges against the person who hurt your child. If it is a threat of violence you can also take that to the police. If they are cyberbullying then you should make sure you keep that documentation also. Don't give up! And remind your child that you are doing your best to stop the bullying and that after highschool life gets better! College is a lot better then highschool.
I had a friend in highschool that began taking college classes at a community college and had her highschool classes waived because she was taking college level courses instead.
If you are in an underperfoming school you can use the no child left behind act and send him to another school. I wish you luck.
You could also enroll him in a Tae Kwon Do class to teach him self defense...not fighting...that would give him a little self respect and help him feel safer.
2006-12-06 06:49:16
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answered by Anonymous
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This is a serious problem. You should try talking to the teachers again, and insist that there is a problem. Or, go to a higher level: talk to the guidance counselor, dean, or even the principal (or AP). Keep on insisting that there is a problem.
If you have enough time, go to school one day, and just observe all of the students and teachers. See how they treat him, or if anyone tries to "hang out" with him. Students will be on good behavior when a parent is around, so look for students that are trying to stay away from him, or being especially nice to him. Also, observe how he acts around certain kids. This may be another indication.
I am also a 15-year old boy with ADHD, and I know exactly how he feels; this has been going on with me at my summer camp for years. What I did was that I tried to stay away from them, and I found new friends. The next year, when I came back, I tried to be nice to everyone, and they were nice back to me, and we were friends.
However, this does not happen to everyone, but if things go right, it will.
Everything will be OK in the end.
2006-12-06 07:56:20
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answered by Joshua Z 4
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First of all, if you really believe your son is being bullied you have to take the matter further. Have you involved the Head Teacher? If you get no result there I would go to the police and explain the situation. I would also keep your son away from school until the matter is resolved. To cover yourself I would write to the Head as well as the local Education Authority. Explain that he is being bullied and is suffering badly as a result. Remind them of their 'duty of care'. If they are unable to look after your son then you are taking over. As a last resort you could sue the school via the L.E.A for its failure to act. However, make VERY sure you have got the whole story before you take the above actions.
2006-12-06 06:49:14
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answered by bremner8 5
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well i will answer with all honesty. if a bully pushes him, with out any thought he push back. if a bully punches him, then he should beat the heck out of that bully. if physical bullying is the problem then telling him to smile and laugh it off is the wrong way to go. alright. if a bully is just teasing him then get your son to tease him back. some times words do not solve everything. so times it takes a good but kickin to show that bully that the dog he is picking on bites. bullys are whips. they wont mess with your son again. so try to have you son talk to this kid like adults. at the age of 15 it is possible. but if not and it continues you son will just have to fight fire with fire. do not bring other adults involved because it will make things much much worse. I hope this helps and good luck to you and your son.
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answered by Anonymous
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Well try to remain objective, but if your son is truly afraid, then make sure he is never alone....if you believe it is serious, then you need to discuss the matter with the police. There are various definitions of bullying these days but since we are talking about a 15 year old, I'd recommend getting advice from the police department....don't call 911, but call the department and ask to speak to someone who can assist you in how best to deal with the situation so that something does not happen that shouldn't .
2006-12-06 06:45:26
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answered by favrd1 4
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If this is happening on school grounds, they must deal with this not pretent it is not happening. Whether he has adhd or not, is not the issue - that is totally irrelevent. I can't blame your son for not wanting to go back to school. You need to make an appointment (if you haven't already) with the school's principal, social worker and psychologist. They need to hear from your son. The pair of you need to go in together to speak to them, and they need to listen to him and help him to feel empowered.
You son may also benefit from counseling to help him with self-esteem/self confidence issues - I really feel for him and you, too.
You must feel so alone in this fight.
My son was bullied off of school grounds, and we had to file a police report as he was physically assaulted. The boy has been a bully since he was 7 and has been in tons of serious trouble.
Since it happened off school grounds, the school was able to look the other way - but did note the incident in both boys records.
The school has a responsiblilty - whether it is verbal or physical bullying. Here are some links for your below:
I don't know who is giving all of the thumbs down to all of these responses - if it is the asker - then I guess you will need to figure this out yourself. You have had lots of caring advice here.
2006-12-06 07:17:10
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answered by what's up? 6
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Hopefully you are controlling the adhd with some type of medication or diet? I think what you need to do is give him a fresh start in a new school where he can try to make friends and fit into the social scene. Sometimes the situation gets out of control and there is no turning back.
2006-12-06 06:59:23
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answered by Gone fishin' 7
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This is a serious situation and one that will require parent involvement. You can't depend on civil servants to do your parenting for you even if it means missing a day of work for you to step up to the plate and help the guy out. One word of caution, though: Be prepared to find out that the teachers may have been correct. As his mother, you are bound to have a slightly biased opinion of your son and not that of his peers. It may turn out that your kid really deserved a good beating and all he's received so far are minor insults. If that's the case you may want to sit him down and straighetn his butt out before you have to take on another part-time job to pay for getting his teeth put back in his head.
Hope this helped.
2006-12-06 07:03:11
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answered by Gums Tootsweet 1
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I posted this on another question but here goes.
You need to get in contact with higher school officials. The superintendant, the board, ect. If they won't listen or acknowledge the problem then you need to take it further. The kids need to learn right from wrong and your son has a right to a peaceful education.
If he is coming home hurt, by all means contact your law officers to file a complaint. Force these people to listen. The squeaky wheel gets the oil.
2006-12-06 06:45:41
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answered by zinntwinnies 6
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Ask the Principal to set up a meeting with Chair of Governors.This is the diplomatic way to ensure action.The problem has to be solved sensitively. Do not take NO for an answer. Your sons condition may be relevant so holistic approach may involve all relevant professionals.
2006-12-06 06:58:20
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answered by Anonymous
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