How do I keep my thirteen year old from looking at porn,I tried the parental controls but that didn't work?

Question

The parental controls blocked almost everything including from me.I have windows xp pro, but not alot of space.

Answer 1

If you are using Internet explorer, You could turn on the Content Advisor. It is located in "Tools" at the top of the window. You can set the level of content and password protect the settings. That will block all adult sites from view. If some sites are blocked that he needs to get to. ( it happens) then you can always allow that site by putting in the password and choosing "always allow". I think this is a better answer to your question than taking the computer with you.

Answer 2

Just make sure he uses the computer in an open area where you can see what he's/she's doing while walking by.

In our home, the computer used by the kids is in the family room, turned so that the screen faces the room; anyone in the room can see what the screen is showing.

You can also unplug the network cable before you go to sleep, just in case the kid tries to do it in the middle of the night. Keep the cable, don't leave it lying around. Just to be sure, keep the screen as well in a locked closet or in your bedroom. If you're really paranoid, keep the entire system in your bedroom at night! :-))

Answer 3

I think I am too young to answer this but, talk to him and explain to him that these things will rot his brain and will destroy his psychological setup. If he still does not listen start monitoring his online time and his time on the PC. Or punish him by not letting him use the PC for two weeks or so on if you catch him again. Trust me, it is better than having a pervert for a son. Another good idea is to enroll him in extracirricular activities, he'll come home so tired that he won't look at porn.

Answer 4

I'd try to figure out what your child is looking for. He/she is probably just curious right now. Obviously pornographic material is not good but find out what information they are lookign for and talk open and honestly with your child and explain why the ponography is bad and get them the information they are after. then you can stop worrying for a while about what they are looking at. Continue to use the controls but realize that your child has friends with computers and will just look someplace else if they can't find the information they need at home.

Answer 5

Well one of the best ways to fix it is to talk with them, find out why, this may be a good question to be posted in Psychology or Mental Health. Also check out some websites. You can always block but that just covers things up and eventually they will probably get to the sites. Talk with your child and fix the problem! Good luck! :)

Answer 6

Don't. In fact, sit him down at the PC, and bring some up on the screen. Now ask him what he finds interesting about the image? Get him to describe his feelings about it. He'll be so embarrassed that you (a) found out and (b) made him look at those images with you, that he'll never do it again!

Trying to deny access simply makes kids more curious. When you accept it, ask him about it, and then explain why you feel it isn't a good thing, you'll make progress.

Answer 7

As a parent, there is only so much you can do. He's 13 and at a very inquisitive stage of his life. Treat him with respect and firmness, invite his friends over to try to get to know the boy's companions, and keep an open mind. If he's not seeing it at home, he might do so at a friend's even. You can't be everywhere he is, so all you can do is be optimistic.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

There are a couple of things to keep in mind. First, he's being a typical 13 year old who is naturally curious. Second, it's just a phase that he should grow out of soon.

However, he's old enough to understand what pornography truly is. My advice is sit him down and be honest with him. Tell him just exactly how evil it all is and the harm it causes to all involved. Let him know it is a horrible form of exploitation. Hopefully, he will understand that women are not to be looked as sexual objects.

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As far as the computer goes, well I wouldn't try to lock him out. Just keep an eye out and remove his privileges if he disobeys your instructions about no porn.

Good luck, you have a tough road ahead.

Answer 9

That will be a hard one. Once they get it on their growing little mind it will hard to stop. They are the ones that will need to want to stop. Funny things is that they will remember more about what they saw in a flash memory of a picture than what they just read for homework. Part of growing up. Don't make it easy on him to go to these sights because it will consume him. Keep him busy in other areas of his life. Church activities is a good one if you go to church. School events or family events but keep him busy. Also put your computer in a family room that is open to everyone. That will put him in a public domain space if you see what I mean. Good luck and keep up the good concern. They really do need you to teach them.

Answer 10

My kids seemed to stop when they were told the damages that will be done. This was more effectively accomplished by someone that I and my child both trusted, was honest and the same gender. I was ineffective in these dicussions, I think because I was letting my protectiveness show too much. Plus, each of my kids didn't believe I could possibly know, or be able to understand them and their curiosity.