OK so here's the deal: My parents are divorced with a no-contact order. They've been divorced for over 3 years. My father was paying child support with no problems until just recently. The system has been updated so that he is no longer supposed to pay her directly, it's supposed to be taken from his paycheck and given to the state, and the state is supposed to pay her the child support. (To ensure that he's paying, and to make sure they're keeping the no-contact order, I guess). That court decision was made in October. Ever since then, she hasn't been receiving child support payments. Any idea what might be going on? I really need to know because she's trying to get me to move back in with her to help support the family, as she is unable to provide enough income herself. (She's working part time, going to college, and has 6 kids besides me). Needless to say, I really don't want to do that, but I feel really bad about the situation. Help!
2006-12-06 06:27:00 · 7 answers · asked by Viki 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Apparantly I need to add more details to help morons like the first one that answered. FOR YOUR INFORMATION... my mom is working her lovely little butt off trying to support the family. She has to go to college to make herself employable to get a decent job, and in the meantime she's working part time in a pediatrician's office. With school and juggling the many responsibilities of parenting, that is the best she can do. If you're not going to read the questions, and offer decent advice, please don't bother answering. Thank you.
2006-12-06 06:35:17 · update #1
She needs to contact the office in charge of her payments to find out if he has been paying and if the payments got "lost in the system". If he hasn't been paying, then someone will need to hunt his sorry butt down and force him to pay again.
Are any of the other kids old enough to help? Is this guy the father of ALL seven kids? If not, make sure that all other fathers are paying their fair share of support too.
If there is enough room in the house, perhaps someone else could move in and help out with the kids and money other than you? Is she signed up for all available aid programs (with so many kids WIC -- women, infants, and children -- would be a great one to help out with the food necessities!!!)? Perhaps a local church could assist her?
While you feel bad for your mom, you shouldn't put your own life on hold becuase of her problems. Work on helping her get the money rather than moving back in and stifling yourself. Is there anyway she can pick up more hours at work or fit in another part time job? I personally think it is great that she is going to college... of course I do have to wonder at the wisdom of so many children. One last piece of advice... make sure that she isn't going to be having any more!
2006-12-06 07:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As others have stated, your mom needs to contact the office of health and human services or whatever it is called in your area. There must be info on the order of support as to who is handling her case. BE persistent call everyday 2x a day if needed until she gets an answer. Go to the court where it was filed and ask them what to do(clerk of the court should be able to help. I have been chasing child support for 9 years and finally it was resolved today after finally being put into the hands of my county attys office. He owes no matter what and it will just keep adding up. My ex was ordered to get a full time job no self-employment crap anymore. Stay after it and eventually they will track him/money down. Good Luck and happy holidays
2006-12-06 06:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to go down to the court and file a petition for a hearing, also she can get help from her local state Representative to expedite the procedure. This can be done by phone, have your case number handy and all the documents regarding your case readily accessible when you make contact.
2006-12-06 06:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by diesel6999999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to contact her local Child Support/Social Services office and find out what is going on. I went through something similar. I had to tell them where my ex was working, b/c the info. they had was wrong-they would send the info. to the job, and he had already quit. She needs to stay on them though. Keep calling, bugging, faxing, etc.-whatever she has to do. Try to get in touch with her case worker. It can be tedious, but it might help.
2006-12-06 06:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by AprilinVA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow 6 kids on one income is hard but not only that she is trying to improve her life by going to collage i applaud her ........ contact social services and they should be able to find out what is going on with the checks .....good luck
2006-12-06 06:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by just a mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either there is a huge backlog or he quit his job.It happens here everytime they update their systems.
2006-12-06 06:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got some child support for your mom. Tell her to get off her *** and get a job!
2006-12-06 06:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋