Seems like the holidays are the hardest time to avoid hurting people's feelings... it's like it's a competition for who gets to hold their special event on THE holiday and who gets stuck with the leftovers. It always leads to hard feelings and I'm just wondering how other people handle the holidays. Any tactful/graceful ideas? We want to reserve Christmas for our own little family (i.e us and our own kids) but it seems like people are always pushing us to do other stuff with extended family on Christmas day.
Thoughts? ideas?
2006-12-06 06:20:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
i think u should let them know that its at your house and they need to stop fighting on the holidays and that not bwhats its all about its about happy memories AND family love for one another
2006-12-06 07:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What my family has done is rotate holidays every year. This year, we went to my parents' house on Thanksgiving and we'll be at her mom's on Christmas Eve & Day. Next year we'll flip that. My sister has gotten on the same schedule with my brother-in-law's family as well. everyone seems to be happy with this arrangement, at least so far. Another way to handle it is to have everyone over either Christmas Eve or do dinner the day after, if that's possible.
There really is no truely graceful way of handling it. It's tough and parents need to just understand that their kids have their own lives and need to have that family time as well.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-06 14:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one answer if you want to be honest but, you're right, that seems to be a problem these days.
You might consider having your peaceful small family Christmas on Christmas eve. That would allow you a couple of hours to bounce around town to different family events on Christmas morning.
You could give a years advanced notice to all relatives that, you are having Christmas at home next year and they are welcome.
Or, you can just do the same old thing. Christmas at home, Mom's, and In-laws.
Try to remember (it's hard!), Christmas morning is really for the children. We may think it's for us but, who gets the best memories?
2006-12-06 14:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by ggraves1724 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always did the in-laws on Christmas eve OR the weekend before Christmas. We would go to his parents house in the late morning/early afternoon and my parents in the evening. That way, we got to see the entire family and do our own thing on Christmas day.
Now, my son and I do what we want and I just let my familiy know I will be there when I get there!!! No in-laws to deal with anymore.
2006-12-06 14:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So that we can spend Christmas day with "our" family...we tell both sets of grandparents to let us kow the best time of day on Christmas Eve for us to bring the kids by. We just let them know ahead of time, that we want to spend Christmas day with our kids at home enjoying the day. Of even if you have to plan something a couple days before that to have a Christmas dinner with one set of parents or the other..or even try a new tradition with both sets there a day or two before to have Christmas Dinner. Just tell them you know they want to be able to spend time with the kids too and Christmas Day is so long for the kids anyway, that maybe it would be easier and less tireing to schedule something earlier. Good Luck !!!
Merry Christmas !!!!
2006-12-06 14:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lunch with one. Dinner with the other. Christmas morning is for your immediate family. Makes for a busy day.
Of course, my wife's family lives near us and my parents are 200 miles away. We do Christmas day here and the weekend between at my parent's house.
2006-12-06 14:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by MustangGT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do with your own family on Christmas is none of my business as much as its none of the rest of your family's business.Most people believe in celebrating with only kids and spouse most of the day.
2006-12-06 14:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by moaistatue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your thing with your immediate family first and if you and your family decides to get out to go do stuff with other family member go and enjoy yourselves.If you go out and get broke to see your kids happy then you should be with them if you want for the whole day and later for the rest.
2006-12-06 14:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the in-laws in and leave the out-laws out and stick by your guns.
2006-12-06 14:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋