My best friend was diagnosed with PCOS syndrome and has been trying for a baby for over a year. Now that I'm pregnant I don't want her to feel jealous or angry with me yet at the same time she's my best friend and I've always shared everything with her. Is there a good balance?
2006-12-06 06:19:09 · 10 answers · asked by ~*~A~*~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Continue sharing w/ her...she may get upset if you leave her out. But let her know too; that if you talking about it is too much for her to handle, then she should let you know and you will cease w/ the baby talk. Just keep open communications between you too. And let her know you sympathize w/ her.
2006-12-06 06:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation you're in, but I'm the one with PCOS. I have 3 other friends who are trying to conceive, but are having problems (one of them already has 1 child). I hope your friend doesn't resent you for being able to have a child. One of my friend's who's trying gets so upset when she hears that someone else is pregnant, but I have to remind her that that person can't help it just as we can't help having a hard time. I just got pregnant for the first time after 4 years of trying and I don't talk about my pregnancy unless I'm asked about it.
Just be supportive and let her know that it's still possible to conceive with PCOS. It's a real emotional roller coaster when you're trying to conceive, but I'm sure she'll be happy for you regardless. Just don't tell her to relax, I'm sure she hears that enough from everyone already!!!
Congratulations and good luck!
2006-12-06 06:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her chances are she will become pregnant soon! both me and my sister in law are preg now she has been trying for 5yrs plus and me only 3yrs. we both lost a baby at xmas last year (i have lost many more since) and are now due within a few months of each other. we spend a lot of time together and supposedly when one friend gets pregnant the others follow!
my mum and her two sisters all had there children at similar times. they were all pregnant at the same time at one point!
2006-12-06 06:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations dear
if she is really your best friend she won't be that jealous, maybe a little bit, and it is out of her hands to feel that way, I'm sorry about her.
try not to show her that you feel sorry for her, and act normal
if she shows some sorrow on her face, tell her that you understand and that you pray for her
and from time to time you may ask her if being with you is bothering her as you are pregnant
after all as long as she love you, she will be happy for you
Good luck with your friend and you coming baby
2006-12-06 06:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and try to inculde her but just be aware that she might have hurt feelings and might want to create a little distance at 1st. Don't worry she will come around, babies make everything better. Just don't get your feelings hurt by her behavior, knowing her sitution just be sensitive to what she might be feeling.
2006-12-06 06:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be upset but not necessarily towards you, just the fact that she cant and you are.
Be honest with her and let her participate as much as possible! I'm sure she will love being around a child!
2006-12-06 06:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might try limiting your discussion regarding your pregnancy to answering questions that she asks and otherwise relate to her as if your pregnancy is not the only thing on your mind. Otherwise talk about other topics of interest to both of you.
2006-12-06 06:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by CincinnatiDon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say try to put yourself in her situation, but you can't. i really wish i could help, sorry
2006-12-06 06:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by the one and only robertc1985 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea um no cofotable situation through so differant scales too
2006-12-06 06:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Its her problem, she will deal with it.
2006-12-06 06:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 7⤋