I've looked up some test to do on sexual deviancy and I don't think he fits most of the situations, but he does pick fights with me about other stuff (not really what he's mad about) if he goes too long without us having sex. He does have unnatural desires (nothing illegal) The things he doesn't fit are spending money and job interference for his sexual habits.
I actually have a child with him and keeping up with his demands have gotten really hard.(We were having sex sometimes 2 or 3 times a day) I would have sex just to "stay out of trouble". Once I confronted him with my thoughts he did agree (to a certain extent) that he has sexual issues. He's been trying so hard and doing a wonderful job not being so demanding but I'm concerned because I found out recently that his sister was an exotic dancer and onwed one of those (male only) tanning salons. She's now a teacher and highly religious but I'm wondering what in their childhood might have affected them this way?
2006-12-06 06:17:27 · 6 answers · asked by kristilkleer 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's quite a label that you've put on him. You'd better be able to support that theory with some hardcore facts.
2006-12-06 06:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad relationship. Not once did you say you were in love with this guy. You had a child with him and obviously do not know him well. That was not a good thing to do.
He has a problem with sex and what it should mean to a person. He certainly doesn't view it as "making love" to someone he cares about. It is just raw sexual pleasure to him and I don't think he cares how he gets it. If you don't perform, he will find someone that will..........
You should not waste your time going into his childhood. You are not going to make a difference. Work on yourself and making a better life for you and your child.
Don't worry about his sister. Perhaps she just wanted a better life and did something about it. There is nothing wrong with being religious and a teacher. It's a lot better than her previous vocation.
2006-12-06 06:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow hope it doesn't spill over to ur child. U probably need to seek professional help soon before his demands increase and while he can still control himself. I'm surprise u have such a stable marriage otherwise, but u say u r living in fear pls get help before it's too late for ur family's sake.
2006-12-06 06:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he speak of his growing up? Have you met his parents? I think i would try to talk to him, in order to gather some clues. Maybe he will even open up to you and give you the answers you are looking for.
good luck
2006-12-06 06:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mikez Bad Girl soCal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not trained to psychoanalyze him, stop trying to. Either work it out with him to suit him and yourself, or ? Good luck. Merry Christmas, 'tis the season to be jolly.
2006-12-06 06:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by hillbilly 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think he may have simply been over exposed to over deviants.Pray he gets it out of his sys.If he turns to prost....Run.:(
2006-12-06 06:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Falcor50 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋