2006-12-06 06:15:57 · 30 answers · asked by private 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, although sometimes you have to give them a push.
2006-12-10 05:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you got the classic spiel, did you? Well, having witnessed it countless times, THERE IS NO MOMENT!
If someone wants to break free from an unhappy marriage that's 'over', they don't WAIT for the moment, or a window of opportunity - it just happens!
However, if they have 'back-up' who's willing to wait in the wings for that 'moment' to come and swallows the 'my wife/husband doesn't understand me' crap, it does make life a whole lot easier for them.
It could be that this person really IS in an unhappy marriage and wants to find a way out but................probably not.
A simple case of having cake and scoffing it!
2006-12-06 08:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chanelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are dating a married man, then that moment might NEVER come because he should have left the wife before starting something with someone new. Getting involved with a married person is NEVEr a good idea. In fact, chances are that he will never leave as he would have left by now and that sounds like an excuse he is telling you so you won't leave. I suggest telling him that it is over and then if he leaves his wife for good, give you a call. Good luck....
2006-12-06 06:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was really over, they would have already left. They never really want to leave, they only want to have their cake and eat it too. They give you guilt trips to make sure you don't tell and make sure you really love them, while they go back home and do what they want. They want to have you there waiting for them when they want you. It's all their rules, not yours. Then when it all comes out, they won't take up for you or possibly may never call you ever again. They'll still be with their wives, and in your heart you realize, they never really gave a **** about you and you are just one of many to come.
2006-12-06 06:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few do in my experience. I was seeing a married man for about 18 months and he did leave his wife - but eventually went back because he couldn't stand not seeing his daughter. I would say that if your putting all your hopes into him leaving his wife for you, you are heading for heartache. Even if he does leave her - would you ever trust him not to cheat on you? I couldn't.
Take it for what it is and try your hardest not to get too attached.
I really hope it works out for you either way - i know its tough!
All the Best
xx
2006-12-06 06:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tressnut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the percentage is greater in eventually leaving. I know several that their spouse has said, mostly in anger, that they were going to walk one day. Sure enough they did. A few tried to hold on doing things they would not do otherwise, just to hold on but eventually that wasn't enough so they split-up. If a man were to tell me that, I would be packing my things, or his, when the words were spoken. I don't think I'd want to walk around wondering when the final blow was coming, or keep putting my all into a relationship that was doomed.
2006-12-06 06:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they dont leave its all talk if they are going to leave they would just do it. And what is waiting for the moment its all talk dont bother with him. I have a mate her bloke says he will leave his wife its been 3 years now!!!!!
2006-12-06 06:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Suzan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married and divorced three times and my third marriage ended because unlike the first two I fell in love and had no hesitation in leaving. Guilt yes but regrets no.
2006-12-06 10:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by alex f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'moment' they are waiting for, is if the wife ever finds out, then he has a convenient place/person to move onto.
2006-12-06 06:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by marliboco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is over when someone has filed for divorce. Until then, it's not over, and the "moment" may never come.
2006-12-06 06:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There is never a right moment. He Will just keep stringing you along. Why mess with a marriage any way?
2006-12-06 06:25:23 · answer #11 · answered by d 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋