I have been married 8 years (13 together) and have 3 kids. I am looking for ideas how to bring some spark and excitement into our marriage. I would appreciate some ideas..... Thanks!
2006-12-06 06:00:15 · 23 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very good question! I never get tired of these!!!
okay... leave the kids with someone one night.
Make a nice dinner... and feed him. candles... you and your hubbys first slow dance song or first love song that you guys shared playing in the back ground. After you get done eating... leave you panties and bra leading the way to the bedroom. have candles in the bed room and be waiting for him. But YOU take control. =)
Take a trip somewhere. Montains is always romantic!!!
Hope I could help you out some... =) GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
2006-12-06 06:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you mean in the bed room. Well that is back to the experiment stage. Try something new and different. Play if you could do anything what would you do, then give it a try. If you are talking about just time alone then try keeping one night a week for date night. Just you and him, no Kids. Sorry kids. Try just going out and talking about how things are going in general and then just sit there an listen, really listen. Then share how things are going in your life. Act like the kids you were when you first meet. Be excited about your time together. Forget about what is around you and be spontaneous. There is so much you can do to bring the spark back, the trick is keeping the fire going all of the time. Practice good communication skills. If you don't know them, look for a good counselor for marriage skills . If you both are doing good in that area then read the above again and have fun. Don't wait for the other person to start just do it. Good Luck.
2006-12-06 06:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by freesample1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on what you and him like. Kids and routine can kill the marriage spark. We need to know more about what you both like in order to answer this one properly.
Maybe a weekend away from home and the kids/chores/work could help. If thats too expensive of an idea then maybe a night without the kids.
Find something that will allow you both to talk less or none at all and do as much fun stuff as possible
2006-12-06 06:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Routine"...I would think is the #1 reason for boredom & losing the spark. I think that all couples should make an effort to create a "date" night at least once a month or once a week. Maybe you can incorporate a friend who has kids and wouldn't mind trading off who needs a date night too. A date night can be as simple or as formal as a you want it to be. The main focus should just be on time alone..together without the kids. Ideas: Dinner for two..nothing too fancy- a picnic dinner at a scenic place...some new restaurant you both might want to try...a movie, coffee at a cafe, bowling, a nice quiet walk in a park/shoreline. If you feel that you'd like to add some spice...maybe a hot tub/massage exchange with him at a day spa, a good ol' fashion makeout session at a drive in movie, a candlelit bubble bath...or a "wild" weekend away at a nearby city...not too far from the kids...but far enough away to give you both some breathing room.
Talking to each other...and getting a feel of reconnecting AS A COUPLE...is your main focus. Good luck to you.
2006-12-06 06:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by punchie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for almost 12 years, you are right it become like a routine after a while, so, I suggest a makeover for you, not only the marriage, try a new haircut, nail polish, facial, pamper yourself you will feel fresh and it will sure affect your marriage.
You can also try sending him love messages while he is at work, it will make him look forward to going back home.
Try a new place, go somewhere together where you have never been before
Even try meeting and going out with new people , it will affect both of you.
Good luck
2006-12-06 06:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously everyone loves a great surprise. Get a sitter for the kids and plan a weekend away! Make up a great invitation and send it to him (or pack it in his lunch or send to the office or whatever). Sign it from his longtime admirer (and wife!).
Go to a place with no television. Spend time alone together. Pack some lingerie of course (he's a man afterall).
I know this sounds pretty obvious but that's because it works!
2006-12-06 06:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just asked this a few days back and got several good answers. The best advice was have a date night, just you two. Don't always put the kids first before your marriage. Watch a good romantic movie, drink a little wine. Do something you haven't done for awhile. Be adventurous.
2006-12-06 06:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depending on how old your kids are if they are little ones i can understand its hard to do anything but try to go out night on the town or even taking a drive somewhere new and go club watch movie. have the house empty
maybe some alone time too...
i hope it helepd good luck
even right now since it winter take a cabin to the mtns.
2006-12-06 06:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by on roller coaster called LIFE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try date night. Get rid of the kids and do dinner and a movie or something. Try setting a routine once a week, like every Wednesday wear lingerie to bed. Experiment with lubes, oils, massage lotions etc. Good luck hope this info is helpful
2006-12-06 06:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I have been married for just as long and I recently was invited to a passions party for the first time. Some of it was a little uncomfortable, but they had some products that might spice things up for you - creams, lotions, edible things. They have a website if you don't want to have/go to a party.
2006-12-06 06:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by obeyfez 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋