hi, in my college in the States(Oklahoma), there's this girl i used to like last year and i started hating her when i found out about her, in the past 3 years she had around 7 boyfriends, and currently she has 2 boyfriends who don't know about the other guy. I heard that she is a bad girl and goes out with boys and that she goes out with many boyfriends. I used to like her, but now i know about her, i hate her, and my friend told me that she goes out with the boys and then has s*x with them, and out of the 7 boyfriends she has made love with atleast 5. i feel angry at her and hate people like that. so that's why i dont like her, because of what she is and what she does, how she changes boyfridns
does any one know what you call people like that?
do u think she is a good person or a bad?
i don't think i want to be with someone like that.
what ur opinions, am i being harsh? or am i doing it right?
bye
2006-12-06 05:44:08 · 5 answers · asked by John-Wokinson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds to me like you don't know enough about her or her dating situation. Getting information from friends is second hand and not always accurate.
May people in college date. This is different than having a boyfriend. It's a causal outing with someone to see if there is potential there. It's possible and okay to date more than one person at a time to get to know them. However if she has put these two guys under the impression that they are in a monogamous relationship, then that is wrong. However there is always more to the story.
As far as how many people she's slept with, that's really none of your business. Again, did she tell you this? If not, then how can you trust it's accuracy? Even if she did sleep with 5 guys, that's really not a lot compared to some people. And you don't know if she had relationships with all of them or not. So you really can't judge if she was/is a slut or not. The average age teens lose their virginity is 16. Since you are in college I'm going to guess she's at least 18. That's two years. Five guys by two years is two and a half guys a year or more. That's not bad if you want to assume she was in relationships with them. That's at least a six month relationship for each of them. Not very slutty at all.
So yes, I think you are being harsh. Just because you have chosen to not have sex yet does not mean that others who don't believe the same as you are bad people. Not to mention, you should never judge someone especially when you have not heard the whole story from them and only rumors from your friends. And to say you hate her, that's just weak and horrible. There are a lot of people who do bad things in this world worthy of hate, however a normal college girl who has sex with her boyfriends is not one of them.
Personally, I don't think you are in any position to judge seeing as you can not even come to terms with your own masturbation habit. (perfectly normal by the way). Perhaps work on yourself first before casting hate and judgment on others.
2006-12-06 15:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she's a being hoe, but from what I've learned in life most ppl will be promiscuous at some point in their life. She's in college and that's what most college girls do. I'd stay away from her because you never know what kind of disease she could be carrying. I don't think you should hate her cuz life is too short for that. BTW shes not making love to any of them. Making love is alot different than f***ing a bunch of ppl.
2006-12-06 13:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by wtf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do seem to be a little harsh...she probably has some insecurities and she will regret what she is doing now, in the future. Hate is a strong word, you may dislike what she is doing but you also don't have to hang around her and you don't need to be her friend. Do you know her well to begin with??
Maybe she needs more friends to help her see what she is doing is destructive to herself and her life...if she is just that kind of girl then leave it alone. Your choice.
2006-12-06 13:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you call someone like that a whore
she is a bad person if she has two different boyfriends and they think that they are the only man in her life
i think you should not waste your time on a person like that you will find somebody thats right for you and fits all the qualities you want in a girlfriend
2006-12-06 13:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by ~Ta-Ta Licious~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you to judge someone else?
Go get yourself a girlfriend that you think is nice and forget about the other one, it is her life to live. Go live your own.
If she doesnt get a visit from Santa she is bad, if she goes to Heaven she cant have been too bad.
2006-12-06 13:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by f1antasyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋