I started working for a surgery center at the age of 17. After 3 months working there a co-worker asked me out to the company christmas party. I didnt accept right away because my aunt who also was my co-worker had said about him having a wife but was going trough divorce. after having several encouragements from everyone telling me that hes a fun guy and would be a good chance to get to know everyone much better, i finally accepted. now... months passed and we started to hang out more, he brought me around his band members, fam, ect. everyone knew me .. it went on for 2 years now. having a full time job and going full time to school he was very encouraging, over time i fell deeply in love with him. . so... one night before leaving see him i decide to check my myspace,when i recieve a message from his wife, telling me how i ruined the marrige.. i dint know. he tried to apolagize several times and to give him time to clear his mind. do you think he deserves my wait?
2006-12-06 05:33:39 · 29 answers · asked by *EVELYN* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you willing to wait? Are you still in love with him? If so then give it some time, the end result may hurt tho if when his mind clears he choses her. If you cut him out of your life you will never know. Just be prepared for it to drag on a while. Only you will know when enough waiting is enough. Dont let her blame you... their marriage was gone long before there was an affair. You wouldnt be in his life if not.
2006-12-06 05:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by bobndew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your aunt many years ago told you they were going through a divorce PRIOR to you ever going out with him whats the big deal. If you went around his family who knew he was either married or divorced and they accepted you and didn't say anything then what again is the big deal. Sometimes women/men just want to hurt other people the way they have been hurt. Maybe he had filed for divorce over 2 years ago and she has not gotten past the fact she is no longer with it. If you love him then you should wait for him and not care what she has had to say. However if you feel what she says is true and you can not trust him then move on. But in the beginning of your question you said he was going through a divorce way before you accepted his invitation to go out, so how could YOU have been the one to ruin the marriage?
2006-12-06 05:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because she said you ruined the marriage doesn't make it true. You said that when you met him, he was already going through a divorce. That sounds like a pretty well already ruined marriage. How can you be blamed for that? I'm the first to say he shouldn't have started dating before the divorce was final, but you can't be blamed for their divorce when it was already started when you came along. How are you responsible? Is there any more information? Or is it just a case of an ex-wife trying to find someone other than herself to blame for a bad situation?
2006-12-06 06:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have ended his marriage before getting involved with you. Thats the thing, single women go after married men, because they are jealous, of what they wives, have, so you guys try and take it over. No this guy doesnt deserve your weight, that took a lot of couarge of his wife to leave you a message on myspace, she must really care about him. So I would backoff, and let it be.
2006-12-06 05:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he was already going through a divorce when you met him. Maybe his wife is just looking for someone to blame. Talk to him. My bf's ex wife says I ruined their marriage, too, but that's not true. Give him a chance to explain. If, however, he was cheating on her all that time with you, dump him and don't look back.
2006-12-06 06:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
He could have 2-3-5 other girlfriends just like you! If he managed to hide both you and his wife for 2 years, he probably has more.
But if your co-workers said something about him having a wife, why the heck didn't you ASK HIM??!
2006-12-06 05:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, but it's not all his fault, because you should have checked for a divorce decree before starting a relationship. Men & women for that matter tend to lie for their cause, so, now you are part of the blame. He isn't trustworthy, so now you have a decision that could cause you more time out of your life if you stay with him.
2006-12-06 05:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he lied to you and he cheated on you with his wife ? how does he deserve anything but a boot from you ? I mean come on this guy is a low life to say the least . do you not think that you deserve better than what this guy did to you? good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-06 05:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you put yourself down so low? Dont you think you could do better than a cheater and lair? His married anyways... No he dont care about you! Dont waste your time on some little *****. If he would do something like that do his wife that he should love.... what do you think it would do to you? Hmmm..... I wouldnt mess with that.
2006-12-06 05:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont deserve this kind of drama. did you tell his wife you didnt know? may be he is a liar, and maybe the wife is just miserable and jealous! If you love him, give him a chance but keep ur eyes open.
2006-12-06 05:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋