My boyfriend has just split up with me and I want to know if he has told me the truth why. We were together for four months, but have been great friends for 5 years. I was 4 months pregnant when we got together, and he knew this. We planned to take things as they come, and see where the relationship goes. Then 2 weeks ago he splits up with me, saying he doesn't want to get attatched to the baby incase we split up further down the line, and he doesnt know where that will leave him. He has 2 other kids, and has had problems getting to see them with the childrens mothers, but I want to know if hes telling me the truth or does he not find me attractive as Ive got bigger, or if he doesnt want the resposibility or whatever. He's 3 years older than me and we were living together and had plans. Now I dont know whats gonna happen? Any comments?
2006-12-06 05:32:04 · 9 answers · asked by jojobass86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like he's telling the truth. He's been through the pain of being denied access to his own children, and doesn't want the additional pain of being denied access to yours if you split up. Rather than running away from the responsibility (as others have suggested, which makes no sense since it's not his responsibility to begin with) he is actually being responsible by not taking on more than he knows he can handle.
2006-12-06 05:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Guelph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you really didn't have plans. Your idea was to take things as they come and see where it goes. It came and went.
Have you considered putting this baby up for adoption? I hope you'll think seriously about the type of home and parents a baby needs.
http://www.adoption.org
2006-12-06 05:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest if he wanted to leave let him goooooo if he love u he would have stayed but u never know he might come back to u and take the resposibility.Look just wait and i promise things would get better.
Love,Sweet Heart
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2006-12-06 05:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by sweet heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His past is making his present situation a real problem and he is running away to protect himself.....It would already seem that he lacks responsability....
As for you, well you need to decide what you are going to do with the pregnancy and the kid since I highly doubt you can rely on him for any help.....
2006-12-06 05:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust that he's telling you the truth. He's probably scared for falling for you and the baby and with his past problems that makes a man insecure.
2006-12-06 05:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and find out what is really going on. Make sure you have this baby so youi can collect child support from him. he needs to learn his lesson and it starts with you.
2006-12-06 05:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a HUGE responsibility for HIM to take responsibility for YOUR baby....maybe he decided to cut lose before he becomes attached to your baby.
give the guy some slack---you are asking way too much.....that is a WHOLE LOT OF BAGGAGE to bring into a relationship
I can't say I blame him for splitting
2006-12-06 05:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes getting himself ready for the birth, and looking at the big picture, is the babys father going to be a factor in all this? thats a big deal for him. I been through this myself.
2006-12-06 05:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by hemi_beepbeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone i know except her bf beats her. neway. he could be tellin the truth, that makes sence, hes got 2 other kids and such, id say its be kinda pressuring getting into another relationship that isnt garaunteed and lose another kid
2006-12-06 05:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by john d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋