What will it take to get my husband to take me out on a real date?

Question

I've been hinting for 8 years, did you stop dating when you got married? Is this common?

Answer 1

My boyfriend have been together for 3 years and now we really only go on "real dates" on valentines, birthdays and anniversaries. I got sick of it and complained. Now we have date night at least once a month. Try to light a fire under his butt and say that you want to go on real dates more often and set like a rule you know like every month or two..

Answer 2

Stop hinting. Tell your husband straight out that you want to go out. But don't stop there. Tell him where you want to go, when, and what your expectations for the evening will be once you get there.
It's clear that your husband is clueless. You have to tell him what you want and lean on him to get it or you can just forget about it, honey.
To answer your question about how common it is for married couple not to date or go out after they get married. It is some what common. Especially if you've got a house, a couple of kids and a dog. Things kind of tend to get hectic with daily life and sometimes couple can't find the time or the money to go out and just enjoy each others company like they used to.
But it all depends on the couple. You & your husband have to define what you want your realtionship to be and work at making it so.
If you want him to take you out dates on a regular basis let him know because hinting isn't cutting it and don't take no for an answer. Good luck.

Answer 3

It's common. But you said you been hinting for 8yrs now. In 8yrs has it help? No! Don't you think you should try something else. Maybe you should get the date started. Waiting for him it's never going to happen for you. And you know this. You make the reservations to a good restaurant and plan a good movie to go see. You have to be the planner of this date. And when you get there (restaurant) you explain to him way you planned this date and you want more of them. And tell him sometimes it will be nice if he did. And every newspaper the have a weekly calender with all kinds of events going on it won't hurt if you put that calender on his desk or dresser. I think he will get the hit. And if sounds like he really don't know how? If that the case? you look with him though the weekly paper. you man needs help in this department. Don't feel bad most men do.

Answer 4

Being married is a date if you look at it right! The dating for before marriage and now everyday is a date! Yes every day is a date if your happy and treat it that way. I have five kids and a wonderful husband we enjoy each others company and just being close (that's a date) It is what marriage is about you leave "dating" scene and enter life as a couple. Now if marriage was your goal when dating why complain now? Life is what you make it. I make everyday a date with my family! Its about perception! My husband and VERY rarely go anywhere without our kids and when we do its a family date! Once a year we take a couple days and go to Vegas but other than that we don't go to movies etc. We don't miss it our gaol was achieved we are married and have five wonderful children who bring us much joy! If you need to date your not happy or not looking at entire picture! Now you want to date if hubby hasn't brought it up why? You bring it up just tell him you would like to go out like you use and not sit home and watch TV. Its Holiday time and TV is reruns mostly but just ask! Never ever forget though you left dating scene to be with your hubby and that should be better than any "date" if its not then you need to look at your relationship and whats missing. IMHO

Answer 5

We have been married 5 years and we still have at least a couple dates each month.

Tell your husband flat out what you want. Men are terrible at taking hints. You could even plan the date and ask him out.

Answer 6

Obviously he's not getting the hint. You may need to make all the arrangements and tell him the time and place and let him take all the credit. Or just tell him that this is what you want and when you want to do it - give him some ideas as well. Seems like he doesn't pay very close attention. Oh, and normal, by the way.

Answer 7

How to get the date romance back. 1). Make reservations for a restaurant, or place you enjoy...far in advance. 2). Express to your husband that you have an important obligation on such and such date, and at such and such time. 3). Make a fun game out of it. Ex: Call him up on the phone and tell him you are at _____ address...make him find you. If your hubby is exhausted from work...make it on a day that you two do not have plans. Eventually, if you keep surprising him with fun dates he might begin to enjoy those dates by returning the favor.

Answer 8

Yes it's quite common sadly enough.. been there done that.
I just find things to do with a friend and or co-worker, it doesn't bother him at all, I even went as far as telling him I was going out on a date with a guy at work because his wife didn't like going out either, guess what? I went and that didn't bother him. Husbands are so stupid sometimes, especially our own.. Good Luck with that situation.

Answer 9

Why dont you just tell him to take you on a date. You're married, can't you just ask him.

Also, don't discount other things he's done for you. I doubt in 8 years he hasnt taken you on a date.... or to dinner?

Just set some plans, tell him to show up, you plan it and he can show up. You're marrried I mean compromise already.

You might try on a new hair color or try a different look. Try changing your look drastically before he shows up (don't tell him your changing your look) and when you see him say hi my name is "Nicki" that's only if it's not your name.

I think for a night you'll see a whole new man.

Answer 10

We have been married for 17 years and we continue to go out on "real dates". Ask him out on a date. You are married now, there is no rules that says it is his responsibility to ask you. Plan a nice date and show him how happy it makes you and I am sure he will be more motivated to have more dates. Good luck. I would be glad to help you more with this if you email me.